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Old 04-15-2010, 05:25 PM   #26
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But by preparing for it are you not also ensuring that outcome? ie if you don't let yourself get too heavily into a relationship because it might end, then it will end because you always held back.
i didn't mean preparing by assuming it will end, thus not giving it your all. i just think it has to come to a point where you're mature enough to know that not everything is a forever guarantee. marriage should be no different, things can happen that may be your fault or completely out of your control.

what if your wife one day decides to go a different path, and wants to take the things that you have earned for yourself? i hate to hear stories like that but it does happen and quite often too, especially nowadays.

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This is true, I still don't think it's good for the marriage itself though. Again one of the keys is to not marry the kind of person that would screw you like that...
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Old 04-15-2010, 07:59 PM   #28
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after some thought to this, i'd sign it...because its not supposed to make a difference in the marriage assuming either can be independent without each other.
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Something can always go wrong in a marriage.
I've heard of cases where the person is totally different from what they thought s/he'd be.
As posted above.. if there's a huge difference in the assets from one person to another, I'd sign it. Theoretically, I wouldn't feel offense if my uber rich SO asked me to sign it.. maybe insulted for a bit, but logic would kick in.
Better safe than sorry no? If they love you, they'd understand your pov as well.
Besides, they should love you for who you are, not your assets right?
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Something can always go wrong in a marriage.
I've heard of cases where the person is totally different from what they thought s/he'd be.
As posted above.. if there's a huge difference in the assets from one person to another, I'd sign it. Theoretically, I wouldn't feel offense if my uber rich SO asked me to sign it.. maybe insulted for a bit, but logic would kick in.
Better safe than sorry no? If they love you, they'd understand your pov as well.
Besides, they should love you for who you are, not your assets right?
I fully agree. I mean maybe have provisions in if they cheat
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IMO Prenups are always a good idea regardless. Planning for the future is never a bad idea, and having a future that doesn't include you getting raped for half of your shit is a pretty good one IMO.

Pre-nups have nothing to do with trust, love, or predicting an outcome of a marriage, it's simply there to protect both parties in the event that it doesn't work. If i do get married, I am definitely going to get something like that drawn up.
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It's only because people have a misconception on the idea of marriage and love. As if its a the most holiest of thing in the world. If people are afraid to offend their SO or tarnish the sanctity of their relationship, then no one should pay premiums for any form of insurance or make family trusts. Afterall, I shouldn't be living my life expecting I'll get in an accident so I shouldn't bother with health insurance. Risk management!!
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I'd sign but I don't see the need unless either of you have quite a bit of assets. If it's two young people getting hitched who haven't acquired a lot in their young life then there really is no need. When I got married I didn't have much, some savings a car and that's about it.

Now if something happened to my wife and I was to get married again down the road I'd need one for sure. I have a house with lots of equity and tons of other shit we've acquired over time.
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If you feel you need a pre nup then why get married?
A pre nup is no more then an insurance policy covering failure. If you aren't confident of success and willing to work at problems "till death do you part" then why get married?
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If you feel you need a pre nup then why get married?
A pre nup is no more then an insurance policy covering failure. If you aren't confident of success and willing to work at problems "till death do you part" then why get married?
I don't think most people get married planning on getting divorced. People change/grow apart. When you're married and the longer you stay with someone the things that maybe you didn't really notice before might start to really drive you nuts. The fact is that more then 50% of marriages end in divorce so if you do have enough assests worth protecting you'd have to be an idiot to not do so.

I don't know, I came from a family who's parents are still married and I've been with my wife for about 14 years. After all this time I'm pretty sure we'll make it because it would be so hard to be a part but you never know. If we did get divorced I'd probably walk away with nothing because my priority in life is my kid. I wouldn't want him to suffer or lose his house, she could have it.
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If you feel you need a pre nup then why get married?
A pre nup is no more then an insurance policy covering failure. If you aren't confident of success and willing to work at problems "till death do you part" then why get married?
Because most of us don't live in a fairy-tale world where people don't change.
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To me, a pre-nup is like asking "will you be my future ex-wife?" when you propose...
I thought the same way and it cost me one house and $625k and im still paying $2200.00 a month child support.I don't mind the child support but the $625k is a hard one to swollow.
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I thought the same way and it cost me one house and $625k and im still paying $2200.00 a month child support.I don't mind the child support but the $625k is a hard one to swollow.
crap, i feel sorry for u man.

Why is it so easy to divorce now? And sometimes it's over stupid things like "irreconcileable differences". Love does have a price tag on it.
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^exactly, it's 2010 now

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to be honest, if my girlfriend/soon to be wife had tonnes of money in the bank i would make up any reason NOT to sign a pre-nup...
I mean why would I sign it if she has millions?

What if she burns me down the road... I would want anything I could get from her. To me, I don't want to get a divorce so the only way that would happen is if SHE effed shit up or SHE wanted one... So because of that I feel I should be compensated.

And if I had the money in the bank, obvs I would want her to sign the prenup..
it's pretty simple.

It depends how much money each party has. At the end of the day, people need to look out for their own interests.
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The only reason a pre-nup is a bad idea is because you have no cash/assets
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For people thinking that signing a prenup ensures the dissolution of the marriage...you're an idiot!

Does putting on your seatbelt ensure you will crash?? No! It simply makes it hurt less should you crash! Same thing.

If you don't sign, it's the same as replacing your airbag with a machette. If something bad happens, you'll be fucked!
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i am curious to know what did the OP type as "pre-nup" as its been edited now
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pre-nub... you know, the documents you sign before you nub each other.
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I'd never get married to avoid capital gains tax. Should just pay for everything proportionately so it's cut down the line. E.g. I pay $4 and she pays $2, means that she is only entitled to 1/3 of the bowl of Pho.
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