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Mature discussion about understanding the opposite sex...
The following is an Anonymous submission by an Anonymous Revscene member. If the member would like me to reply to any post please feel free to let me know
My GF is 18 and I'm 23. We've been going out for 2 months (I've met her for 3 months in total). The thing that has been bugging me lately. We usually are pretty open in topic so we don't have much to hide from each other. Let's say this special person is person "A". My GF used to like him for many years and had been rejected 2 times by this guy before. She thinks he's the nicest person and pretty much a perfect guy.
2 years back A started asking her out now. They went out and hold hands for one evening. However nothing happened afterwards because she didn't want to lose this good friend of hers.
A few months after, A found himself a GF and because her GF knew the situation as well, A's GF wants to cut all the connections between A and my GF. A decided to not talk to her anymore.
Sometime later my GF met a new BF (ex now) and dated for a year. They later broke up because they lost trust between each other.
Now here comes me. I don't even know this girl long enough yet. I'm not as devoted yet because I know stuff like this eventually happens. I didn't know about this whole situation until we are together.
Yesterday we were talking and she mentioned that this issue between us (A, my GF and me). She doesn't want to repeat this problem like she did with her ex. She asked me what we should do (and apparently I know she doesn't want to let go)
I really like this girl. She's one of the most unique girls I've met in my life. She told me that I'm the one that she actually loves. Even if A pops back out of her life, she'll just stay friends with her. She regretted not giving A a chance.
Do you guys think it's because of age and maturity and eventually things is going to work out? I've been debating if I should just stay good and close friends with her until she forgets this guy, or stay with her so I can support her through the way? (trying not to pull my head in too much so it wouldn't be a big problem when I have to let go) I think I'm always in a disadvantage because of how little time We've met.
I'm pretty neutral into this. I know a lot of you guys will say that I should just find another girl, but if it was really in your shoes and it's a girl that you really like. What would you guys do?
The following is an Anonymous submission by an Anonymous Revscene member. If the member would like me to reply to any post please feel free to let me know
My GF is 18 and I'm 23. We've been going out for 2 months (I've met her for 3 months in total). The thing that has been bugging me lately. We usually are pretty open in topic so we don't have much to hide from each other. Let's say this special person is person "A". My GF used to like him for many years and had been rejected 2 times by this guy before. She thinks he's the nicest person and pretty much a perfect guy.
2 years back A started asking her out now. They went out and hold hands for one evening. However nothing happened afterwards because she didn't want to lose this good friend of hers.
A few months after, A found himself a GF and because her GF knew the situation as well, A's GF wants to cut all the connections between A and my GF. A decided to not talk to her anymore.
Sometime later my GF met a new BF (ex now) and dated for a year. They later broke up because they lost trust between each other.
Now here comes me. I don't even know this girl long enough yet. I'm not as devoted yet because I know stuff like this eventually happens. I didn't know about this whole situation until we are together.
Yesterday we were talking and she mentioned that this issue between us (A, my GF and me). She doesn't want to repeat this problem like she did with her ex. She asked me what we should do (and apparently I know she doesn't want to let go)
I really like this girl. She's one of the most unique girls I've met in my life. She told me that I'm the one that she actually loves. Even if A pops back out of her life, she'll just stay friends with her. She regretted not giving A a chance.
Do you guys think it's because of age and maturity and eventually things is going to work out? I've been debating if I should just stay good and close friends with her until she forgets this guy, or stay with her so I can support her through the way? (trying not to pull my head in too much so it wouldn't be a big problem when I have to let go) I think I'm always in a disadvantage because of how little time We've met.
I'm pretty neutral into this. I know a lot of you guys will say that I should just find another girl, but if it was really in your shoes and it's a girl that you really like. What would you guys do?
sorry but from what I have read
I don't that everything will werk
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I'm capable of many many many things. You may see me as a some guy on the internet but you don't know the half of it. I don't talk tough just for sh*ts & giggles but I do do tough things, bet my life on that!!
Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.
Make the effort and take the risk..
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." - Eleanor Roosevelt
so whats the problem? your the one the thinks that she might have feelings for the guy again?
this is where the trust issue comes in.. if you trust her then nothing to worry about.. if you dont then its pretty much over.. as soon as one of you guys stop trusting, its pretty much over..
if i got the wrong idea then forget it.. i wasnt sure what you were asking...
ya its a bit confusing but i guess the op is trying to say the past in the present form so that's why its confusing.
18 and 23 is a pretty big difference and maturity level may be very different. I suggest you to wait it out a bit more and if you don't like the stuff that's coming up then just dump her ass
so in short, the girl you are dating has a history of really liking this guy (A); she already told you you are the one she really loves now and even if A pops back out of her life, she'll just stay friends with him ...
and your problem is?
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this is the internet and everyone knows better about what happened sitting behind a desk than the people who are actually involved.
sounds like she's ok w/ being w/ you for now but the moment the opportunity shows itself, she'll jump his bones if given the chance. if you're ok with that then go ahead.
my friend had a similar situation, but it worked out for him b/c
1. he's totally p*ssy whipped
2. guy A lives on the other side of the world
it was quite a ridiculous situation. but he seemed ok w/ it so it worked out for him in the end.
That's toughy. I wouldn't want my gf to even be friends with A if he were to come back. This is the few exception I really believe a guy and girl can't just be friends. Posted via RS Mobile
but girls younger then 20 are a bit difficult to handle, its not often you find a nice girl who thinks and acts older then 20 if they are younger then 20... i would say to find another girl around your age...
To the OP: I don't know her, and I don't know you, but from the facts you've presented, I think you're tap dancing on a razor blade.
There are 3 things that stand out in this post... so here they are:
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1. She thinks he's the nicest person and pretty much a perfect guy.
So why's she dating you instead of him? Settling for 2nd best? If she's settling, she may eventually wonder what else she's missing in the world (she is only 18) and realize that she hasn't really experienced anything.
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2. She told me that I'm the one that she actually loves. Even if A pops back out of her life, she'll just stay friends with her.
Assuming you meant "him", that's generally not a cool thing. Lets say they go hang out one on one... it's not necessarily a bad thing, but considering she has a history of wanting to explore his pants, you're in a bad position.
Also, she loves you? At 18 and 2 months in, I don't think she knows what she's talking about. Infatuation at best... what's going to happen when the puppy love wears off and he saunters back into her life?
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3. She regretted not giving A a chance.
See number 2... then read 3 again. Seems like she hasn't moved on and you're 2nd best bro.
Where's that department store analogy where there are better guy on higher levels and all girls end up leaving with nothing cuz they always wanted more?
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that is your problem. don't make the same mistake again.
to all you older guys with 18 year old girlfriends, just enjoy the young body while you can. they're still kids in the head, one day she's gonna like playing with barbies, the next day she'll want a BMW, or a nintendo DS, or a kitten. who the fuck knows. you don't, and they sure as hell don't either.