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Old 07-11-2010, 10:14 PM   #1
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[Confidential] Puzzled... what happened?

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I met this girl through a mutual friend and all he told me about her was that she was cute and young...

not much to go by, but we started chatting it up and became closer. I just turned 30 and found out that she's 18. I don't really care about the age gap, but meh...Anyways, we started dating in beginning of June and we had sex 20 days later...was all good and stuff.
Had lil fights here and there, but shit happens. We also got closer and hung out often. Anyways, so this girl is going to Argentina for a month and she told me a week in advance that she is going to save the day before she leaves for "a special date" so we can hang out and stuff...we hang out before that, but anyways the day came and i called her and she doesn't pick up...doesn't even text me. Doesn't answer any calls period. The next day is her leaving day. Still no call or goodbye... did a breakup just happen and am I being left hanging? or am I looking to much into this?

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1 your dealing with a child in comparison to life skills and experience. Her not calling is her way of ending things without having to deal with hearing your sob story or bs and its her way of being able to come back and say "We never agreed I couldn't sleep with anyone while I was away"

She is going to go have fun and you gotta deal with that broski,

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My friend did that to one of her boyfriends before. Almost identical situation; just started dating, going really well, had a vacation planned before they met. She ended up not talking to him 3 days before she left because she was starting to like him too much, and didn't want to have him on her mind when she was on vacation so she can have no strings sex on vacation.

Not saying that is what she is doing, but it's possible.
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i find it very rude, annoying and ignorant when you make plans with someone and then the time comes and they completely ignore you. People need to stop playing games
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well i guess one last text msg wouldn't hurt right? make it as blunt possible, clean up your place and have everything all ready first.

"if you're down, let's fuck."

if no response, you're left disappointed with a clean house to remind you that she left you hanging. if this is the end result, realize reality for what happened, accept and move on.

no time wasted, and you're left with a clean house. win-win.
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Old 07-11-2010, 10:47 PM   #6
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wow.. thats more then the golden rule, Half your age plus 7... haha..

Shes toooo young for your age.. its not that the fact you dont mind, its the mentality thats makes the difference...
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hahaha, is that really the golden rule

30/2+7? the OP is supposed to be dating at least 22 then?

Since you haven't been dating long then maybe this was just a fling for her?
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seems like she she doesnt want to be with you anymore

dont lose sleep over it theres lots more girls out there who are a bit older and a bit more experience
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If you felt a connection between you two and if it actually was real, then i dont see why she would do that. Theres always another side to the story, either she cold turkeyed you straight up or she doesnt want to carry on those feelings onto her mind causing her to only think about you during the whole vacation. Seperate the calls and the keepers before its too late.
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Keep the replies coming, but the mutual friend told me that "the day before her departure date" she had to spend more time with her family which is totally understandable for me, but she could have at least called...or even texted? Mutual friend also said, that she didn't call because she knew i would be upset...what the heck! Mutual friend also said that she was going to call when she arrives, but no call has come...he also gave me her number

what now? do i just wait till she calls or just call her and end it?
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When a woman has high interest in you she doesn't break a date. She wouldn't break a date with Brad Pitt. Put yourself in her situation, would you rather be fucking your gf or making further peace with the family before your flight?

If you're going to end it then don't bother calling that requires effort, just delete the number if you're man enough.

Plus how would that conversation even go:

you: Hey I'm calling because I want to end it
her: who is this?/sorry let's be friends/well do something after/okay bye

save yourself the pride for Christ sakes you're 30 getting mind fucked by an 18 yo.
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why don't you shoot her a email and ask her? Straight up say you like her and see what response she comes back with. She will have internet and will check. It might be easier for her as well to really tell the truth being in a email since she is younger and might not of known how to tell you in person.
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Keep the replies coming, but the mutual friend told me that "the day before her departure date" she had to spend more time with her family which is totally understandable for me, but she could have at least called...or even texted? Mutual friend also said, that she didn't call because she knew i would be upset...what the heck! Mutual friend also said that she was going to call when she arrives, but no call has come...he also gave me her number

what now? do i just wait till she calls or just call her and end it?
Don't be a needy 30 year old. You look even worse that a person over a decade junior to you has her strings around you this bad.


Just be cordial, send her a "have a safe-trip" text and leave it at that. If not for cordiality so you can leave things open when she gets back, but at least for your pride man that you're not hung up on an 18 yr old.
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Exactly! If she wanted to see you, she would've. Take the hint, move on.
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move on, pedobear, move on
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Keep the replies coming, but the mutual friend told me that "the day before her departure date" she had to spend more time with her family
how does her family think of this age gap... parents can play a huge role in relationships.
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think about the bright side...

not many 30 years old guy can get into 18 year old girl panty lol

but maybe they choice not to either
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i find it very rude, annoying and ignorant when you make plans with someone and then the time comes and they completely ignore you. People need to stop playing games
Agree.
30-18 lol ur one of those guys
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You're 30 dude. when i dated a 19 year old, i dumped her ass quick and told her "save your drama for your mama". She kept coming back cause she knows what i have to offer.

For all the guys out there, if you're 30, you should able to hold your own and KNOW you are the SHIT. You should have the confidence of a 30 yr old and know that you don't deal with drama.
i LAY down these laws the MOMENT i go on a date.

Nothing is worse to be like "oh, he's 30 and he's sending me these emails asking me why" do you really want to be known as the 30 yr old pedobear?

dump her aside, don't even message her when she comes back and you'll be fine.

on the other hand, great job with the 18 yr old .....but remember your age divided by 2 + 7..... you shouldn't be dating an 18 yr old.
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Keep the replies coming, but the mutual friend told me that "the day before her departure date" she had to spend more time with her family which is totally understandable for me, but she could have at least called...or even texted? Mutual friend also said, that she didn't call because she knew i would be upset...what the heck! Mutual friend also said that she was going to call when she arrives, but no call has come...he also gave me her number

what now? do i just wait till she calls or just call her and end it?


I call , she could have at least called or txt you, lame ass excuse, she was probably fucking some other guys.
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Im gonna agree with what everyone else is saying, you're 30 dude, you shouldn't even be giving a second thought to some 18 yr old...
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Lol sounds like a pedo guy I know that's like 30 but claims to be 27 dress up as a 18 and dating a baby(1993) lol but then again if I may ask, is the mutual person the same sex as u??? If so are u sure that the mutual person is not secretly with that girl? And your just a coverup for their underground affair??? Just wondering lol xD
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Lol sounds like a pedo guy I know that's like 30 but claims to be 27 dress up as a 18 and dating a baby(1993) lol but then again if I may ask, is the mutual person the same sex as u??? If so are u sure that the mutual person is not secretly with that girl? And your just a coverup for their underground affair??? Just wondering lol xD
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Do your thing, have fun. If you meet someone else and LG isn't into you, cool, perfect. If LG is and is better than girl you're seeing, even better.

Just do your thing, man. If you're thinking this chick is marriage potential already, you've got more issues than just about this girl.
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