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next part: Girl B thinks OP's trying to set up b/f and girl A. Seriously. If they both go, WHO would be stupid enough to do that AT the party? last but not least: I find it a little extreme for Girl B to want the b/f to end the friendship with the OP. Either something's already happened that the OP has not been honest about, or Girl B needs to have her head a good shakin. I've been in similar situations before, and if the g/f's not comfortable, then we don't go. But if they ever flip out like the way Girl B seems to be, I show'em the door. If nothing's happend with the OP and this little circle here, then Girl B's got some serious issues, and needs to grow the fuck up. |
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if Girl B have confident in her relationship with her BF and trust him then she have nothing worry about. Girl B is just being jealous, selfish, trust issue. I say tell you buddy he can chose between you and her. Is either Bros before Hoes and Hoes before Bros. |
Girl B has to grow up. |
Some of you are forgetting the rules in this forum. I've issued more points in here today than I have in the last six months total |
The following is a reply from the Anonymous member Both Girl A & B are 24. Yes I know its hard to believe... I've tried telling my buddy to tell Girl B to just give Girl A a chance. Just come say "hi, how's it going", but apparently Girl B does not want to see Girl A nor hear her name. Girl B doesn't even want her as an acquaintance. Yeah I don't see whats the big idea. If she doesn't want to come, then don't come. Don't need to make it seem like its the end of the world. |
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Although one thing is already definite: that the past relationship with between the BF and Girl A is a "sensitive issue." As an outsider to their relationship, you have to respect their private boundaries and sensitivities. |
buddy should have 'work' on party day and get it on with girl a - and send the video to girl b. /thread |
tell buddy and girl B that girl A isn't going to the party, but secretly invite girl A anyways grab some popcorn enjoy the show |
OP: I think your buddy needs to rethink things here a bit. Or re-communicate with girl B. I agree with Noir in that Girl B and Girl A may have something between them that they're not communicating. HOWEVER, apparently, according to you, Girl B doesn't even know Girl A's NAME? Anyhoo. If this is simply a jealousy issue (I've seen way bigger blowouts for much much less), then your buddy should seriously consider getting another g/f. No one should have to stand for jealousy of this level. |
I agree with Noir that OP should've asked the friend's opinion before inviting both the ex and current. although 5-6 years if a pretty long time, especially if that A girl thing happened before 20. |
The following is a reply from the Anonymous member For the record, I did ask Girl A if she's ok if I invite my buddy and Girl B. She said yes. Then I asked my buddy if he wants to come, he said he doesn't mind and will ask Girl B. I don't even know all the reasons why Girl B hates Girl A so much. It seems like its mainly jealously. Honestly Girl A didn't do anything to Girl B. More like the other way around. Seems like some of you guys think I'm hiding stuff. I'm not hiding anything. I'm just putting up whatever I've been told by my buddy. |
^Girl B has to chill, how long has Girl B and your buddy being going out for? Anyways, just like most people said here...they've been broken up for 5-6 years...i broke up with my ex for like a year and we talk still, we don't hang very much but we're still friends. Girl B is just being selfish and hell jealous. If she can't chill out then it's her problem and your buddy should be asking himself why he is with her...girls like that are kinda annoying, but understandable at times. When I say understandable i mean she can be jealous obviously, but to a certain point...ending friendships? wtf? does she not know the saying "bros b4 ...." |
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I've already posted my reasoning: It only takes prejudice to dislike someone, but to HATE someone to the extent that you don't want to be in the presence of, or even hear their name, more-likely-than-not something must have occurred. And a few more points not just to you, but everyone as well. 2. Jealousy is inherent in ALL relationships and must be respected. Relationships are a party of two and is a combining of two individuals who have two different tolerances and boundary limits. That being said, playing the "Trust Card" is not a free pass for 1 party in the relationship to do whatever they want. When one enters a relationship, its sort of an agreement to comply with rules and limits to endorse and maintain the exclusivity of the relationship. In other words, anyone who enters a relationship should know that there are certain liberties that you will be sacrificing and those liberties are determined by the relationship that you have chosen to enter. If one is not prepared to compromise on one's liberties, then maybe relationships aren't for you just yet; and there's also nothing wrong with that. 3. For people saying it was 5 - 6 years ago; let's not underestimate the power of nostalgia. I've been there, and I've seen it happen on others. I'm not saying that Girl A is looking for a do-over with the exbf. But as nostalgia sometimes has a way of unburying things that have long since been buried, an innocent rekindling of memories can sometimes rekindle more than that. This is usually the reason why partners of a current relationship have their reservations on their gf/bf beginning or continuing contact with an ex. 4. That being said, if Girl B is being protective of her relationship due to point 3, she is well within her rights as a party to that relationship to protect it; just like our inherent right to protect our own relationships. I know if I enter a relationship, I expect some measure of control on my women and in turn, they too have a measure of control on me. This reciprocity is also inherent to all healthy relationships as the act-of-submission is one of the integral displays of relationship exclusivity. (Note: I know the last point may offend the egos of alpha dogs out there who think they cannot be controlled by anyone: the authorities, their parents, their women) So all-in-all, my take is still: Let it go. It is not your relationship to stress over. And respect the boundaries and sensitivites of the relationship of others. Unless Girl A did have intentions with the exbf, you're party will not live-or-die by the exbfs attendance or absence. |
just over reacting a little |
Girl B just needs to get over it. |
Two words: Fucking women... :) |
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Girl A must be a 10 and Girl B a 1 to cause such insecurity. Unless Girl A and the bf are still close and it seems like the bf's got interest in her again. That's just silly. |
um, you're hosting the party, both Girls are your friends. no one is forcing either to come. not your problem. |
girl b and bf just don't go to the party, and let you guys have your own fun. problem solved? |
I think the biggest problem here is that Girl B wants her buddy to END THE FRIENDSHIP between the OP and him. Over this whole party thing. And now OP's buddy's in a tight spot over something that isn't even a deal |
Invite Girl A, your buddy and Girl B. If Girl B has such a big problem with it, she doesn't have to go. If she tries to convince your buddy not to go, that's on him. OR Invite Girl A and your buddy and tell Girl B she's not invited cause she's an insecure, drama queen and you don't want to be around that shit. My guess is that if the two girls have never had any real contact, Girl B has a problem with her BF being on good term with his ex. Hell, maybe they got into a fight and he mentioned how Girl A never pulled that shit or whatever and got her all jealous and bitter. |
yo its been a month im sure the party has came and gone |
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