| quasi | 12-24-2010 12:28 AM | Quote:
Originally Posted by Phil@rise
(Post 7236023)
DISGUSTING!
Many parents of this current generation are left wondering what to do to discipline a child so many people are telling us don't spank our kids dont yell at our kids reward them don't punish them. What kind of message does that send a parent and a child? What is a parent to do?
And don't say timeouts. They don't change negative behavior they only calm an irrational screaming child. | I don't know all the answers but being stern with them seems to work for me. I've never hit my son, don't think I ever will. Sometime he'll try and push the boundries but that's when I go from trying to reason with him and asking him to do something to physically going down to his level and raising my voice. He knows when I'm mad and he doesn't want any of it.
I'll give him a time out or I'll take something like his DS or favorite toy away for a period of time. I think the key is to let them know what the consequences will be if they don't fall into line and following through if they fail. If you're making empty threats they'll never believe you.
It's no different then a dog in the sense you have to be the alpha. If you let your kids walk over you and are a push over then they'll take advantage of that. I don't believe you have to hit or physically punish your kids to take that role though. My son knows I'm the boss and my word is the final one. I'm sure not the perfect parent but I know my kid is fairly well behaved compared to some of the other kids I've seen so it seems to work for us. |