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Old 04-26-2011, 04:36 AM   #1
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Sending money in a long distance relationship?

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a year and we live in different parts of the world. She lives in Asia while I live here in Vancouver. We see each other about twice a year(for about a month each) and I buy her gifts for Valentines Day, her birthday, Christmas etc.

Her mom has been a total bitch and has always been against us dating, just because she thinks her daughter shouldn't keep a long distance relationship but that's another story for another time So she told her daughter "even if hes not here, the least he can do is send some money over for you every month to buy some stuff to make up for him not being here"

What do you guys think of that and do most guys send money to their SO's when they're in LD relationships?(Not sure if they see each other as little as us)

IMO, I've never heard of something like that before and I don't think I should be sending money over to her. I can understand if we were engaged or married than I don't mind sending money over but when you're just dating..girlfriend/boyfriend..I really don't think that's right..<discuss>

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Why the fuck would you have to send her money just because you have you relationship with her??? Hopefully your gf knows her mom is a terrible bitchcunt.

If she is on her mom's side in the least bit, dump her quick
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Sounds like a scam.
Maybe get rid of the mother?
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LOL the biggest pimp in da world is her mama what happened to dating a man with a bus-pass? Its her mama that tells her get a man with a good job girl. Fuck dat shit lol don't be a fool. What if for some reason u found out the bitch was cheatin while u were sending ur hard earned money over dere? What u gonna do? Nothing protect urself man don't be an idiot
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Don't Send Money.....

Also doesn't it make her feel like a whore/trophy GF anyway? I mean, do you send her money here? Is she hurting for cash?
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Her mom's a bitch. The girl's not a hooker.

That said, do you guys have a plan so that you can eventually be in the same place? How long is this going to go on? THAT may be why the mom is starting to put pressure on her daughter, she wants to see some tangible commitment, some sign that her daughter isn't wasting her time on something that's going no where.
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Just came back to check the replies.. and I just noticed again what a fucked up piece of shit that mother is. This is the most disgusting thing I've heard of for a long time, a mother whoring her daughter out to you... god damn it
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you sending money to her makes as much sense as her mom sending you money
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Yeah my initial reaction was also WTF.

Why shouldn't she send money to you then?
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What was your gf's reaction to that comment?

If she agrees with her mom, you should tell her your dad told you that your gf should send naked pics of herself to whack off to to make up for her not being here.

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how much money are we talking about? do you have that kinda money?

is she hot? is she worth the money her mom's asking for?
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What was your gf's reaction to that comment?

If she agrees with her mom, you should tell her your dad told you that your gf should send naked pics of herself to whack off to to make up for her not being here.
Then dump that bitch and post the pics here
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you sure she's not an international escort? receiving money from tricks all over the world?
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tell her that your dad says your gf should send some money over due to all the lack of BJs you're not getting.
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thats terrible man. Did you ever talk to her about this before coming onto RS?
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chances are you are not the only guy who the mother is doing this to. If the girl is Thai then this is pretty common.

Watch out for money request when her uncles, brothers, father needs an eye operation.
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thats terrible man. Did you ever talk to her about this before coming onto RS?
Yea, I'm interested in what the daughter has to say. I mean surely if she has any sense she wouldn't expect you to send any money either. I mean, the reason you know about her mother asking is because she probably told you, and seeing as how you are asking on RS, it seems like she is not in too much of a disagreement with her mother.
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Why the fuck would you have to send her money just because you have you relationship with her??? Hopefully your gf knows her mom is a terrible bitchcunt.

If she is on her mom's side in the least bit, dump her quick
EXACTLY MY RESPONSE! I was like WTF...are you serious? Shes like that's what my mom said...so we started to talk about it and I let her know how weird and fucked up that idea was since I've never heard of anything like this before. She agreed with me and doesn't expect me to send money either but just wanted my opinion on it since it was bothering her cause she didn't know how to respond to her mom.

(P.S.: Her mom's one greedy fuck, very greedy and it's always about gifts and money)

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Maybe get rid of the mother?
Easier said than done lol divorced parents and she lives with her mom.

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Yeah heh..that'd suck fucking ass if that happened, that's why I'm so against it since I have no idea where my money is going towards and I have no idea if shes cheating on me or not with another guy with MY money..seriously lol

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Also doesn't it make her feel like a whore/trophy GF anyway? I mean, do you send her money here? Is she hurting for cash?
Nope, I don't send her money period. Shes not hurting for cash at all..shes a lot richer than me lol...

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Her mom's a bitch. The girl's not a hooker.

That said, do you guys have a plan so that you can eventually be in the same place? How long is this going to go on? THAT may be why the mom is starting to put pressure on her daughter, she wants to see some tangible commitment, some sign that her daughter isn't wasting her time on something that's going no where.
Her moms a HUGE fucking bitch, she absolutely hates us being together, just because of the LD. Always telling her daughter and bothering her with useless shit like "just find someone else here etc etc"

Well we both graduate in 2 years, so after 2 years depending on what kind of opportunities I can find in Asia and how much money I can make there. If its just 5-10k difference, I'd rather just stay here and get her to come(which shes fine with) but if the salary is a lot more in Asia than I'd move where she is and we'll live together, be it in Canada or in Asia.

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Yeah my initial reaction was also WTF.

Why shouldn't she send money to you then?
+1 it should work both ways...but I'm guessing since shes in Asia, they still have that mentality that girls are suppose to do nothing but spread their legs and the guys have to do everything.

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What was your gf's reaction to that comment?

If she agrees with her mom, you should tell her your dad told you that your gf should send naked pics of herself to whack off to to make up for her not being here.
She didn't agree with her mom, she thought it was crazy too, HOWEVER she can see how it can be "okay" for guys to send girls money when they're in a LD relationship. So she doesn't think it's right or wrong.

"you should tell her your dad told you that your gf should send naked pics of herself to whack off to to make up for her not being here"

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how much money are we talking about? do you have that kinda money?

is she hot? is she worth the money her mom's asking for?
Not sure how much money, I'm guessing a hundred or two(CAD)? Her mom said just enough to buy her a few pieces of clothes. I do have that money but I'm by no means "balling out of control" I'd say I'm middle class and shes Upper-middle or even considered in the Rich class in Asia, since her whole family drives Benz's and in Asia...Benz's are quite expensive..

Shes quite hot yeah... lol really good girl, doesn't go out and shes a virgin too

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thats terrible man. Did you ever talk to her about this before coming onto RS?
Yes...just trying to see what other people think since I thought it was absolutely stupid..
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Just wondering, is she Filipino? I've heard several horror stories about this involving Canadian guys..

One thing to keep in mind, the (future) mother-in-law isn't going away anytime soon. The mom will be all over you (and not in a good way) even if you over over there. And if you want her to come over here, you can count on her mother also joining you guys and causing yet more aggravation.

On a side note, good thing your gf has the (balls?) to stand up against her mother. Too many girls out there who listen + follow this kind of garbage from their mothers.

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Nope, Chinese.

I totally understand, well she tells me that her mom doesn't think I'm a bad guy. She likes everything about me but just dislikes the fact that I can't take care of her since I'm all the way over here.
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hopefully the mom drops dead soon. because a crazy bitch like that isn't ever going to satisfied. she will always be in her daughters' ear. right now it's a long distance relationship.

tomorrow it's about when the ring comes. then the wedding. where's the bmw? where's the house? then the kids.

the mom isn't going to change. ever.
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