edit - i'm a faggot

I was scared of STD's.

Should have just wrapped it.

hey guys, havent posted in a while since my last "winning" update haha so i thought id come back and let you guys know how its going. Well that day i said it was all cleared up i guess i thought it was when it really wasn't. we've obviously had done our business since then but we ran into a rut it seems as i wanted to do it today and she was like " WUT ITS BEEN 6 SIX DAYS " lol i guess i never made myself clear out back then but at the same time, why are we keeping track of when we do it ? Anyways, today has been a huge roller coaster.

i just decided to sit with her and actually make her listen to what i was saying and i told her everything i had on my mind and heart and she's been pretty much crying all day and saying "she's scared" because she knows what she has to do so we satisfy our needs, but she can't seem to DO em because she's scared. Iuno what's gonna happen between us right now, but whatever happens happens. If it's meant to be we'll figure it out and if not, then may time heal our wounds

^^ She's scared of Mr. Pablo?!?! :seriously:

I wish you the best of luck my friend. Sex is never an easy thing to overcome. You either start to lose the urge, or she starts to gain it. :badpokerface:

Alright buddy...you know I totally dig you, but you gotta give the girl a break. You can't expect her to be ready to go and in the mood whenever you want to fuck. You post, what? 2 weeks ago saying the problem was solved? And, this is the first time she said no and OMG, ITS BEEN 6 DAYS!!! So what? Its been 6 days....maybe she wasn't in the mood?

Look, I know you love this chick but I think you are sabotaging this relationship. You are putting a lot of pressure on he and dude, you made her cry. She is never going to be able to live up to your expectation. How do you think that makes her feel?

She says ....but its really about your needs. What are her needs? How much of a turn-on is all this pressure? If I knew there was a chance that my bf wanted to call it all off if I didn't fuck him....I wouldnt reeeally be in the mood.

Sex is a rollercoaster. Sometimes you get it 5 times a week...sometimes its once in 3 weeks. Yes, I agree that sex is important in a relationship, but you seem to ONLY be focusing on it....what about everything else?

Don't start to throw it all away b/c you guys haven't fucked in 6 days.

you're right, i prob shouldnt have gotten so defensive after she said "it's only been 6 days" and it totally didnt cross my mind everything else that you just said. Thanks for the reminder Dino

true that @ dinosaur

it's all about the mood
I am in similar situation as you Luder
Gotta say though, it could be because of our methods of initiating sex :suspicious:

it may be that, but also doesnt help that my gf is really freaked on getting preggo lol so i think thats why shes rarely in the mood

Captain Obvious says that condoms are fairly effective at preventing pregnancy.

You need to also find out what turns her on. Do you send flirtatious messages? Tell her that she looks beautiful and sexy? Do you cook or bake for her? Send her flowers? You need to put in the wrench time, man.

show her this
http://d24w6bsrhbeh9d.cloudfront.net...34961_700b.jpg

what birth control method are you guys using right now?

i do everything and more except cook/bake cus i cant do that shit LOL

condoms only. She's been having some health issues the last 6 months so she never wanted to take any other pills apart from her meds, plus she doesnt want her rents finding out so she doesn't want to use them

has she considered the shot? or IUD?

Her parents dont need to find out as there is no evidence. i do understand her concern about getting pregnant with just using condoms...but on the other hand, she can be doing more to protect herself.

If you both feel that you are responsible and old enough to be having sex, there should a be more in-depth conversation about protection....regardless if her parents find out or not. Can't have your cake and eat it too.

There are a plethora of birth control options out there...she should be protected and you should be protected.

Well, if condoms are your sole method of birth control, then there is some risk. However for what it's worth, I've never had a condom break and I've used them many many times.

Ultimately, any time you have sex, there's a risk of pregancy. She has to understand that living life entails risks and that the onus is on both parties to manage those risks. You've done your part and like dino has said, she has to do her part other than preaching abstinence (which benefits no one.)

my gf is also in the same boat. She can go without it for a long time like a week but after 4 days or so I'm like.. damn it, I need to bang hard.

It's true, guys and girls have diff. hormones and guys do want to get laid a lot. Girls aren't on the same par, and it's not even close. One thing I do get lectured on is how we shouldn't "expect sex". I totally call BULL SHIT on that. We all have different needs. Yours might be wanting to cuddle at night, or asking me to pick you up everyday at work. Well, mine is to get fucked on a daily basis. We come to terms with it and sometimes when it's a mother fooking Friday and I wnat to party with my friends, but I still make an effort to come to your work to pick you up.

One thing I do expect is that, we can't expect the girl to always jut be horny. That I can totally respect but don't give me the "i'm too tired to have sex tonight card"

you don't see me too tired to cook dinner, come over to your house, cuddle with you at night do I?

Dammit I must've been a man in another life cause I want it everyday :( lol

:ahwow:
^someone marry this women right now

Not all women are what you describe. I've dated women who couldn't stop thinking about sex and would tell me that they would get wet just thinking about sex.

Take it for what it's worth, but the most sexually liberated women I've dated have all been non-Asian and over 30.

its true...in your late 20s...shit changes. you dudes just need to wait it out ;)

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^truth hurts

Before you jump ship...have you ever asked her what she needs? Its cliche, but its true.

Maybe she doesn't like it when you fucker like a rabbit in heat...or maybe she wants you to.

For some reason, society has made is "not okay" or "weird" for chicks to be open or tell a guy how she likes to be fuck. Maybe she is just inexperienced?

I dig that sex (when bad or not frequent) is a major fucking issue in a relationship. But, put yourself in her position. Your junk may be getting off....but hers might not be....and if a chick aint getting off...ots like doing laundry- you know if has to be done so you just do it...yeah, its nice to have clean sheets, but it aint worth talking about it. Plus, you know you gotta do it again in a weeks time and you never look forward to it.

Give that bitch 1000 thread count egyptian cotton sheets that form to her body and make her sleep like never before and she'll to laundry every night.

:lol

^^ thiss lol i found out that was pretty much it was wat was wrong in my sex life wit my gf and i did all i could to fix it..now i turn her on more then she turns me on :fuckyea:

so what happens if one of the partners hasn't been in a relationship or had sex in a long time (a couple years)?
thus feeling apprehension towards sex... and even kissing. it's not a question of attraction either, crazy attraction on both parts. it's just...fear i think? i don't even know.
unintentionally implemented the 90 day rule here.... but feels like there's an expectation for it to go down real soon.

is this something that should be talked about?
or is it something that, it's kind of like a bicycle? once you just start riding it, you'll remember?

a pep talk would be greatly appreciated if you were so inclined to give one
:werd: