[Confidential] Initiating Sex
 

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I love sex (lol biggest understatement for everyone here I'm sure, myself included.) I would ideally like to have it at least twice every day I spend time with my boyfriend over at his place. If this quota isn't reached, I feel insanely grouchy, frustrated and unable to partake in cute banter with the boyfriend because I feel like either throttling him or lighting his house on fire. My boyfriend has no problem initiating. The problem is that I do, which is what leads to the lack of sex. My boyfriend doesn't want to feel like he has to initiate all the time and sometimes he's unaware that I even want to get it on because of the absolute passiveness in my part. I just sit there and stew and bitch inwardly about how horny I am but never do anything about it.

The thing is.. I don't really know how to initiate lol. I'm so used to the idea of men being pursuers in dating and in sex, that it feels unnatural and awkward for me to start up sexy times. Plus I have this image in my head of sultry sirens from tv and porn that I have to live up to. Imagining myself being absolute fail at seduction prevents me from trying. /pussy



Women of Revscene: Can you provide me tips on how to just get over it and ways to start sex playfully, assertively?

Men of Revscene: How have women (exes, present gfs, etc.) made it known to you that they want to get their freak on and what were your favourite ways?

Its not hard to get your BF to wanna get it in. If you guys are on the couch, put your hand in his pants and stare at him. Done deal.

Edit: Actually pretty much putting your hand in his pants and playing with it at any time will pretty much tell him everything he needs to know

dat dere eye contact

^strong linking brah, would look again

Tips for initiating without coming off as a whore or awkwardly horny (IMO):

1.) Causally walk to the bedroom say..."I'm going to go relax on the bed....wanna join me?" and give a little smile.
2.) While sitting on the couch, put your hand on his thigh and slowly move it higher.
3.) "I feel like taking a shower...wanna come?"
4.) Offer to give him a neck/back massage. Have him sit on the floor in front of you while you are sitting above him in the couch/chair. Rub for a bit then start kissing his neck.
5.) Tell him you bough new bra/panties....then ask him if he wants to see them.
6.) Think of a time you guys had really great sex and say, "hey, remember that time........I was thinking about it today. Made me look forward to seeing you tonight" with a cute/sexy smile.
7.) "I had this really hot dream about you last night"
8.) Leave open the "Hot xxxx Girls Thread" open on the computer ;)

If you have a very high sex drive and he isn't meeting it....buy a vibrator...it will become your best friend ;)

9.) Tell him you bought a vibrator.

Just go with #9.

Just jump on his dick and ride that shit!

Initiating sex through the female perspective, lol...

Men don't need or really want some over complicated lead up to sex, we just deal with it because it's often a prerequisite when we are the initiators.

Here's some useful approaches that he will respond well to:

1. !Yaminashi's advice.
2. Ask him if he wants to fuck.
3. Take off all your clothes and give him a minute to jump you.
4. Start masturbating and wait from him to join in.

Text him "so when can I tap that?"

lower his pants and give him a BJ :thumbsup:. That always works for my GF. Even when I say that I'm dead tired, once she does it, that's on ;)

Just tell him straight up lets has some nasty dirty sex

done.

you would know :troll:

Call me maybe

if no one else is at his place, just walk around in sexy lingerie... you dont have to say or do anything.. he will come to you!

grab his crotch

/thread

Like you said, just take initiative and be assertive.
Very, very, rarely (if ever) will a guy turn down sex, given that both of you are single (or dating each other), and you know he likes you.

One girl I brought home, I put on a movie, within 5 minutes into the movie she just pushed me over on the couch, straddled me, and we got going. Amazing. Didn't have to deal with any of the "when should I move in.. should I wait longer.. does she even want to.. should I get a blanket.."

And of course all the other suggestions above will work too ;)

The missus is a bit shy about initiating and finds it a difficult topic for discussion.
Until she has had a martini.
Those goo goo eyes, just wow!

YMMV

haha goo goo eyes

everyone has some great advice, but i know it's go time when she asks me if i wanna watch a movie and she puts on some porn. :fullofwin:

Find out if he watches porn.


If he watches porn, he's already lost interest in you sexually and you're just "meh" compared to the pleasures he gets from the far-hotter women on the screen. Basically, if he watches porn at all, you'll know why you're not getting fucked as much as you should be.

:suspicious: wut ^ ? i watch porn..and i get my gf going ALL the time now..and i much rather have her then a computer screen...and they are having sex..its just that she wants it more and doesn't know how to initiate it, doesn't mean the guy doesn't do initiate it from time to time

^ agreed there is a big line between fantasy and real life.

anyways combining the two and playing "follow the pron" is frikken super sexy...though i cant last as long as those jizz on demand bastards in the videos :( i try though

^ i fukin lol'd, know that feeling so well :okay:

That is questionable.