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Wow! She said yes!!!!!!!!!!

but I knew the ex GF break up was way too good to be true, really taking it like a champ up until i told her. I was not lying when i said i really do love her, which is why i wanted to be completely transparent with her. You guys think its best to leave her alone to handle it? I really cant think of any other good way

did you tell her she needs to grow up

yea but not like that. I told her exactly where i was concerned about and that being with her those problems are not problems because as much as i try to let her figure it out, just before shit hits the fan i always save her or put sense to the situation for her to figure it out. I told her that we both can grow faster without each other which i hope is true, i know i will grow, but if she really dropped the ball on some of the things i help her with her life could be over (mostly debt is what im worried for her about)

Just so you guys know, i have never helped her financially by giving her money. I gave friendly reminders, and maybe twice her debt was something she couldnt handle so i charted everything for her and made a plan in which she gets out of debt. Most recently 2 weeks ago which now she is free from a $800 dollar visa debt on her $300 dollar a month pay check

I ended a 6 year relationship...and I agonized over it for a year before hand. I'll tell you, I never slept so well as I did the night after I ended it. Once you know its over, its over. After I moved my shit out, into my own place, I sat down and smiled. It's not taking joy in hurting another person, its joy in helping yourself.

I was always looking at others, and imagining what it would be like to be with them and so on. In my current relationship, I will be honest, I do notice other women, but I don't start picturing in my head what life would be like there, because I'm where I need to be at home. You walk past and think, "yeah, she's pretty" and move on.

When you find the one, you'll know :)

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Originally Posted by z3german (Post 8068656)

Just an update.

The wheels are turning, I ended it in the best way possible with my now ex.

my decision was based on age and what we learn from each other. I still feel we are meant for each other, but this separation will allow us to grow in ways that would either take forever, or just not happen if we stayed together. She needs to grow up and learn money, handle problems independently etc. Whilst i feel i need to learn how to open up and have fun around people, in essence maybe be more childish. I spend so much of my youth trying to grow up where now I feel really closed and not as spontaneous as i would like. It was really emotional when I was breaking it to her yesterday but at least she says she understands that I need to learn at a faster pace than what I am with her. I still love her but I fear if i try to keep the relationship i will hurt her more because I will always question whether I should have dated this other girl, I am just stubborn like that, ideas are really hard to get out of me.

This new girl I will ask out soon i suppose, I havnt been on a first date in like 5 years and i forgot how nerve wracking it is. But i feel this might be better for me, first interracial relationship, only 1 mutual friend on facebook, different city, everything seems so new and fresh. And if she says no I will keep it really casual, i just want to be her friend if anything but a really good one.

coles notes:

got bored,
wanted new pussy,
dumped her,
got new pussy the day after break up.

dont try and decorate it with wonderfull words of bullshit, your decision wasnt based on anything except grass is greener. Atleast man up and be honest about it

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Originally Posted by Glove (Post 8069391)

revscene has made everyone to think every poster (serious or not) are trolls.

comments like this really shows what type of person you are. i hope you're not like this in real life, it really gives away your personality and view on things.

i think forum like this should have rules that only allow helpful opinions and not comments that put others down.

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Originally Posted by mr_chin (Post 8072632)

What was wrong with what he said? When I read his post, that's what I got. I don't think he was insulting the OP with his post, I think he was trying to get to the heart and soul of what the issue was/is.

That's called being helpful. You can't help with an issue if you aren't being honest about it. Doesn't stop anyone from contributing to the thread, but I don't find this offensive at all.

And I certainly don't need someone telling us that we aren't blowing enough smoke up people's asses in this sub-forum. So ease up.

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Originally Posted by mr_chin (Post 8072632)

dude, read his post,

he literally broke up with his long term gf, simply because he was bored, then he spewed a paragraph full of garbage making it seem like he was the victim in all this, and even has the audacity to say "they are still meant for eachother"

the guys a complete clown, and needs to be told as such, how can he even rationalize all that in his head? its borderline crazy,

so your saying there should be nothing but positive comments?

ok,

ya dude, I feel ya bro, dem bitches be crazy, gotta jump on the next pussy when you get bored, nom sayin? Totally the bitches fault for being boring, you go bro.

people will never grow up unless you tell them their being idiots

Whoa someone's jimmies are rustled lol...

Call it garbage if you like, I still feel the same way before. My ex and I have been talking about what we are learning now that we arnt together and although much more difficult for her she is glad that I did it because only now is she realizing her faults. She really is a fantastic girl and I still feel it can work out in future, just not right now. We both have a lot to learn and in future after we learn more maybe we find out that we are really not meant for each other.
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Oh god, that's why I see that on your gf's facebook saying something about a new date tonight haha.

Good Luck brah.