making sex better

[stewie]

okay, so, me and my gf have sex all the time, its great sex as is, but i'm looking for ways to make it "better". was wondering if any other guys or girls out here could share what they do to "take it up a notch". (ex: v-day, end of night, to top it all off when she went to take her contacts out in the bathroom and i was laying in her bed, she came into the room with a whip cream bikini and a bottle of chocolate syrup)

im not talking about "put it in her butt" or anything like that...

im saying this from my point of view, which is that im a guy, if im having sex with a girl whos not a beast...ill blow a load..just like 99% of the people here would.

but to get her off...it takes a LOT, lots of foreplay, make sex last as long as possible, and make it as fun as possible. shes honestly the hardest girl to get off ive ever dated.

so im asking for some other ideas to make it more fun. right now it just seems like everything is almost monotonous. foreplay, sex, cuddle etc. sure each time is different, but it just doesnt seem to have that "it factor" to make it stand out from every other time kinda thing.

so yeah, anyone have any tips on how to spice it up or make it better? anything from toys you find work well for you, to positions, locations (public, cars, kitchens, you name it we've done it, but theres always room for improvement).

if you can understand what im trying to say, id love to hear some tips/suggestions

[H.Specter]

kegels for a bigger peen.

[stewie]

Originally Posted by H.Specter

kegels for a bigger peen.

kegels wont give you a bigger peen lol, it'll give you control.

[swfk]

Try different places I guess. Something wild and new instead of the bedroom. Hell, not even a bed. In front of a mirror, dining table, sink, public bathroom of some sort. Be creative

[stewie]

Originally Posted by swfk

Try different places I guess. Something wild and new instead of the bedroom. Hell, not even a bed. In front of a mirror, dining table, sink, public bathroom of some sort. Be creative

That's what I'm getting at, different places but incorporating things (yesterday was in a living room that has one wall with a giant mirror, was late at night, and her roommate could've walked in at any time which was what gave it that "fun" factor)...like we've played around with ice cubes, feathers, some toys....just seeing if anyone has some ideas for some things to try out, something that could be new for us. I'm just at a blank right now with ideas so I'm hoping I could get some here, or at least a starting point for me to think of something new
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[Lomac]

Everyone is different and has varying degrees of comfort when it comes to trying out new sexual things. I get bored easily when it comes to sex, so I'm always trying to find different things to try. One thing that can be fun (though I'm in no way advocating because you can get into a lot of trouble for it ) is sex in public. I can't even count the amount of times me and whoever I was dating went at it during the middle of the day in a park, or a deserted hallway, or a parking lot, or where ever we could find. Hell, we had sex in the middle of a park field during the day. In retrospect we could have gotten into a LOT of trouble if a cop had found us (indecent exposure in an area where kids play.... though there were no kids in sight lol), but it adds to that extra rush you get.

One thing you can do is simply visit a decent sex store and browse the different items they have for sale. There will probably be something that catches one of your eyes that might be worth trying out. Try things like bondage tape/handcuffs or role playing. You can get as creative and kinky as you want. It's not everyone's cup of tea, but if you get the right situation going, it can certainly add something.

As for having a hard-to-get-off girl, I've been there. One girl I dated for a few months was the hardest person I've ever been with to get off. She was super sensitive when it came to anything touching her, yet if you did anything more than a gentle caress, it would hurt like a son of a bitch. The only thing I can suggest for that is to persevere and don't give up too early. Plenty of things will probably get her motor running but it's that extra little bit that pushes her over the edge that is the hardest trick to figure out.

[Lomac]

Originally Posted by stewie

That's what I'm getting at, different places but incorporating things (yesterday was in a living room that has one wall with a giant mirror, was late at night, and her roommate could've walked in at any time which was what gave it that "fun" factor)...like we've played around with ice cubes, feathers, some toys....just seeing if anyone has some ideas for some things to try out, something that could be new for us. I'm just at a blank right now with ideas so I'm hoping I could get some here, or at least a starting point for me to think of something new
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Halls candy and Pop Rocks.

Seriously.

[knight604]

in the butt

[stewie]

Originally Posted by Lomac

Halls candy and Pop Rocks.

Seriously.

She bought me pop rocks I couldn't stop laughing the whole time so I doubt she'll wanna use them again lol.

As for her being hard to get off, what makes it even harder is we'll do all the foreplay we can. She's the one who always makes the transition from foreplay to sex, and when I've talked with her about how to spice things up she says "we could do more foreplay?" Lol

Cuffs and bondage she can't do, tried, but it pushes her way out of her comfort zone
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[Lomac]

Originally Posted by stewie

She bought me pop rocks I couldn't stop laughing the whole time so I doubt she'll wanna use them again lol.

As for her being hard to get off, what makes it even harder is we'll do all the foreplay we can. She's the one who always makes the transition from foreplay to sex, and when I've talked with her about how to spice things up she says "we could do more foreplay?" Lol

Cuffs and bondage she can't do, tried, but it pushes her way out of her comfort zone
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Then the next time she tries to hop on, push her off and deny her it. If nothing else, it'll make her want it even more and might help with the end result.

And who said the cuffs and bondage was for her? Seriously, though, you can always just start off simply with the handcuffs in front of her (and make sure it's those funky fuzzy ones with the quick release). It may help soothe her fears if she knows she has an easy way out of she feels uncomfortable.

[stewie]

Originally Posted by Lomac

Then the next time she tries to hop on, push her off and deny her it. If nothing else, it'll make her want it even more and might help with the end result.

And who said the cuffs and bondage was for her? Seriously, though, you can always just start off simply with the handcuffs in front of her (and make sure it's those funky fuzzy ones with the quick release). It may help soothe her fears if she knows she has an easy way out of she feels uncomfortable.

Lol we were actually talking bout the fuzzy pink ones last night, her words were "fuck that, if I'm getting handcuffed it better be by real ones" so I'm thinking I might go to Dave's surplus and pick a pair up, gradually introduce them and see where it can take us
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[bloodmack]

Tazer and a whip, thats all you need.

[SoNaRWaVe]

blindfold her, hand cuff her and just tease the bajeezus out of her but don't let her get off. if you know her well, you'll know when she's close. uncuff her and go at it. you blow your load and she'll get off at the same time. win win. incorporate your toys in. feathers, dildos, vibrators, whatever you have at your disposal.

[stewie]

Originally Posted by SoNaRWaVe

blindfold her, hand cuff her and just tease the bajeezus out of her but don't let her get off. if you know her well, you'll know when she's close. uncuff her and go at it. you blow your load and she'll get off at the same time. win win. incorporate your toys in. feathers, dildos, vibrators, whatever you have at your disposal.

That's actually not a bad idea, I'll try this out in a few days after I get them cuffs, see if she's comfortable enough
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[6793026]

you guys needs to get invested with toys.

from a guy's point of view, getting off is all we have in mind, start asking the girl to FULLY let her be in control to cum first. as in you jut watch and let her masterbate herself, ask her how she can cum super fast and then expand from there.

if you got a girl that doesn't know how to cum and unable to do that, u ain't going to have fun, so start with these toys

vibrator: either a clit vib or a g spot vib.. make sure you get water proof and rechargeable.

when she is happy with easily cumming, then you can expand to

Ben Wa balls, also known as Burmese bells, Benoît balls, Orgasm balls, whtaever you want to call it.... when a girl is comfy with

Then this
straps. start with these.
remember to NEVER EVER tie someone down or let a chick tie you to a bed... ALWAYS have an exit strategy

then this
anal beads - starting from the SMALLEST bead will get you started. (it will say it's entry level beads)

anal beads, if you are a true sex expert and if your gf is adventurous enough, she can use it on you. when she is comfy with anal beads, anal shouldn't be a problem.

[stewie]

I know she wouldn't use anal beads, I've asked before. But ya never know, in time she might.
I'll also try just letting her masturbate with me watching
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[Girl]

You don't need cuffs, just take the belt off a robe or something. For girls it's all mental, they can orgasm and still not feel 100% satisfied. A lot of the memorable sex moments that still make me smile was not because of what he did with his dick, mouth or fingers. It was the exhilaration of the moment and also knowing that he wants you badly...you get to bounce those sexy feelings off one another.

Torture the crap out of her when you tie her up, pleasure her until she is crying and begging you to take her. Untie and she will literally pounce on you. The trick is to do it all painfully slow.

[skyxx]

^ Can you exercise this in person to me? I would like to learn how.

[mr_chin]

cosplay with in role characters
sex in public

[stewie]

appreciate the input so far, i honestly thought this thread would just get laughed at.

Originally Posted by mr_chin

cosplay with in role characters
sex in public

have you tried this?

ive thought of this before, never tried it though. any ways you or others have started off? it would be kinda weird to all of a sudden jump into her being "naughty school girl" and im the "teacher who needs to discipline her"..

any methods or roles you guys have used to slowly work into it? start slow then slowly stretch your comfort zones? what specific roles did you try out etc.

[mr_chin]

Originally Posted by stewie

appreciate the input so far, i honestly thought this thread would just get laughed at.



have you tried this?

ive thought of this before, never tried it though. any ways you or others have started off? it would be kinda weird to all of a sudden jump into her being "naughty school girl" and im the "teacher who needs to discipline her"..

any methods or roles you guys have used to slowly work into it? start slow then slowly stretch your comfort zones? what specific roles did you try out etc.

Buy the outfits and ask her to try it on then you can slowly work your way into role play. Make sure you compliment her on how she looks in them to rid her of her insecurity of cosplay.

Play rape is also another very intensifying sexual activity in private. Try to not give in so easily or tell her that the more she says no, the more exciting you'll be. (not sure if you're into these though and remember that rape can be from both sides)

I'd be careful with BDSM if you ever want to try because imo it could really change how a person view sex due to sadism and masochism. The more masochist the girl gets, the more she'll possibly want to try other dominant guys.

In public, grope and fondle while someone is nearby can be pretty exciting.

[stewie]

Bdsm is not gonna happen for sure, were both not into it.

Public fondling, I do it all the time to tease her while she's driving...stopped at a red, I'll have my hand on her thigh while talking to her then start playing with her(outside of her jeans) just to get a smile and a laughing "not here" look lol....grab her breast while she's driving etc.

For outfits, I doubt shed ever be willing, but who knows, start at square one I guess.

I've heard ppl say they've done a "1 night stand" with their SO.
Have her be at a bar, you meet her there, you both act like you don't know each other then try to pick her up and take her home as if it was a 1 night stand kinda deal.
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[Drow]

lol public fondling

ive stretched a girl's pants before for reaching inside to grab her ass one too many times

[Noir]

(this does not apply to all girls)


Drunk sex IMO is always the most fun sex I get. Girls, or gfs are a bit more looser and open minded when they're a little bit liquored; and a little more open minded = a little more adventurous/ push the boundaries a little.


Other than that, when you get into a long term relationship; sex does get pretty routine so this is my favourite way to mix it up with the wife. (it's always a good start and its somewhat unpredictable how it's going to end).


Oh!!!! another thing. (at least with my wife and previous exgfs). Drunk wife/gf + good music =

[Girl]

makeup sex is always fun. or angry makeup sex