Anyone experienced "giving out but not recieving appreciation" before?
 

Not sure what a good title of this thread should be but this is what the issue is about so i named it like that

Long story short, met this girl a while ago and I got her some gifts from my vacation and one of the gifts was a really nice silk scarf (not expensive and not sold in Vancouver or at least I never saw it before) and others were just local goodies (candy and small gifts).

When i got back, I texted her and said that I got her something and that we should meet up for dinner so I can give it to her. She was happy and we agreed on a time for dinner.

So dinner went well and I gave her the scarf and she said "oh its pretty" and after dinner I drove her home. (keep in mind that there were no awkward situations at the dinner also hence I say it went "well" and we had lots to talk about.)

The thing is after that dinner and my ride for her home, she never texted me saying anything regarding the "appreciation" about the gifts (scarf etc) i got her. Nothing in the lines of "thanks again for the gifts" etc.

what I am choked is that, no matter if you like the gifts are not, shouldn't you at least show some respect and appreciation?

As of now, its been 3 weeks and she hasn't facebook messaged, text nor called me regarding how I am doing or asking me "whats up" etc (so basically no news and contact from her)

Regardless if I treat her as a friend or a future girlfriend, I would think that If you give something to someone, they would most likely show some sort of appreciation to you (at least everyone i have given gifts to did that)

Anyone else experienced this before where you gave out but received no appreciation for it?

Never experienced this. But I never buy gifts for bishes who arent my bish...

you got played bro,

I bet you payed for dinner too

never give anyone anything expecting anything in return, expectations lead to disappointment

of course its common courtesy to thank and appreciate those who are generous buttttttt some people arnt raised the same way, some dont acknowledged these things, and some are greatful.

to me it sounds like she has lost interest in you, or found interest in another, hence why she has stopped contacting you.

it is unfortunate but is life. sometimes people just suck haha :badpokerface:

I guess the important question is:

Do you / Did you have feelings for this girl?

Yes I did have feelings for her before but after all this, not so much now....

Lol fgt

Totally thought this was going to be oral sex related.

So you bought her gifts on vacation before you two were in a 'relationship' (sounds like before romantic and/or close friend relationshilp), and you are irritated she hasn't texted you in 3 weeks? Good job in being the weird, needy, creepy dude, who IMO, has drove her away by coming on way too strong.

lol

i don't blame you, kids nowadays have less appreciation on shit like this. common sense on saying htank you even after a DINNER went down the drain. no common courtsey. let it go. now that's just in general, but when it ocmes to girls, they get attention from everywhere so it's even less likely they will tahnk you. i've seen this a lot esp during this instant gratification stage.
don't we all remember back in our mom's era where she would say "oh, your auntie got me something from her trip, we have to get herback something; (which sort of means, where can i find osmething to regift ahhahhaha)"
just let it go.

:lawl:

Fixed for you.

This is the new reality where parents fucking baby their kids, and kids these days grow up to be spoiled little assholes. This is the #1 reason I will NOT go out of my way for anyone I don't know will appreciate it.


Bottom line: Forget about her. She's just another bitch in the sea.

Grow a pair, go to her house, knock on the door. When she answers, ask her "what did the five fingers say to the face?" As she stands there and stares at you in stunned stupidity, answer it for her..... *SLAP*

You obviously didn't spend enough.

Lesson learned.


Search for the thread where a girl got knocked up and he spent 1k on a purse. That's how you keep a girl.
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don't forget the Louboutins

in all honesty, i never buy them anything that's clothing related.

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The only time i bought gifts for a chick that i wasnt in a relationship with, i had a totally diff outcome than you.

met up with her when i came back, had a nice dinner and gave her the gifts when i dropped her off at home. Next day when we met up, she told me she had a crazy sex dream bout me that night and gave me the most amazing, mind blowing head ive ever experienced in my life.

creep fo sho.

So did you ever text or call her or did you go home expecting her to call/msg you?
You didn't mention anything about her not replying to your phone calls or messages.

I texted her a couple days ago wishing her good luck on her exams and she replied with "Cheers :)" and thats it

lol dude she's obviously not into you... What's the big deal? You assume just because you buy someone gifts and take them out for dinner they're going to fall in love with you?



:lawl:

Alright....so you don't like everyone taking jabs at you. Want some tough love? Here it goes:

SHE JUST ISN'T THAT INTO YOU!

She didn't ask you to buy her shit....and she has clearly shown she doesn't give a shit about said shit.

What do you want? You want us to sit here and rub your back while your tail is between your legs?? Did you expect her to open the gives and throw her arms around you and profess her un-dying love for you??

Guess what....she DIDN'T.

Get over it.

Here is a tip: Don't buy a bish anything unless you have been or are regularly inside of her.

she probably got offended you bought her a scarf.. "Oh.... it's pretty..." is girl code for what the fuck is this

Haha haha so fucking true that girls say that
But no matter what I don't think anyone should get "offended" over a decent gift (ie the scarf). unless the gift was obviously offensive.