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05-28-2014, 05:23 PM
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#26 | | How I Mod your mother
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You mention that he keeps saying you're the only one that he loves but his actions speak louder than words. Are you saying you're getting feelings of him being unfaithful or did you just word that poorly?
Has he told you before that he WANTS to marry you or have you guys just talked about the IDEA of marriage?
Sit down with him and have one last talk before you make your decision, and really try to reiterate that you're doubting his intentions; especially after 10 years together.
I don't feel that you're being unreasonable but I would sit down and have a really serious talk, not just a discussion. The last thing you want to do is force him into a situation he isn't ready for/honestly willing to commit to, hence why the ultimatum route is a bad idea.
I think at a time like this, you need to start worrying about yourself and your life. I know relationships are all about tackling life together and being there for each other but if your end goal is to get married and this guy doesn't want the same you should definitely get out.
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05-28-2014, 06:22 PM
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#27 | | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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This is a good thread, next time my GF bitches about how we're not married I'll say something like "Yeah, well i've only been stringing you along for 6 years, you can't get mad until 10 years" 
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05-28-2014, 06:47 PM
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#28 | | MiX iT Up!
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here is a thought -- how about you propose to him? Completely unconventional.. out of this world... get him a ring pop... BAM there is your answer and BOB is your uncle.
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05-28-2014, 06:52 PM
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#29 | | I answer every Emotion with an emoticon
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i hate it when girls say oh it's been 10 years... he's totally wasting my time.
YOU COULD LEAVEEEEEEE bitch.... you're just as to blame in staying for that long.
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06-02-2014, 02:15 PM
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#30 | | OMGWTFBBQ is a common word I say everyday
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Run, don't walk from this guy. He's 8 years older than you and should know what he wants.
You're 30. You have another 2-3 years of dating before finding the guy you want to start a family with. That's not a lot of time.
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06-02-2014, 04:43 PM
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#31 | | Willing to sell body for a few minutes on RS
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Originally Posted by BoostedBB6  65k at 38.......that's crap money. I was making that at 18 and even then it was not enough to live a comfortable lifestyle in the GVRD on my own.
10 years, no ring, keeps stringing you along when you have made it clear that you want marriage, makes crap money for his age, still working at being successful but little to show.....I would move on based upon those facts. | $65k/year with no certs, diplomas (beyond a high school dip), etc.?
Not impossible, but $65k is certainly WELL beyond normal for age 18. It's beyond normal at age 38, to be fair.
Average income for a male aged 35-44 years old is $59k (source: Vancouver Sun)
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06-15-2014, 11:38 PM
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#32 | | I subscribe to Revscene
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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld here is a thought -- how about you propose to him? Completely unconventional.. out of this world... get him a ring pop... BAM there is your answer and BOB is your uncle. | I think this is the best idea yet actually. In this day and age of "equality" what's wrong with you proposing to him? That puts him on the spot and you'll know your answer for sure.
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