who says the thirst can be quenched with a "1st or 2nd or many many dates after" sex? unless the experience was horrendous it usually takes a couple of tries to really test things out.. and both genders should keep the thirst thirsty

@Verdasco There is a no rule to having sex on whichever # date and having it work out because of that. You could have sex on the first date and have it lead to a long term relationship. You could wait until the 8th date and then have it end there. If the guy's intention was only sex in the first place, then why not get it over with and stop wasting your time?

Sometimes a guy just wants to bust a nut...no rules needed except for one. ...keep it covered.

That insight.

"get it over with" probably isn't the attitude you want to have towards sex.

Unless it's sex while married :badpokerface:

Wait so I shouldn't get married then?

unless its for love

more like: vidi, vici, veni
:ifyouknow:

Bingo! When he got the cookie, the challenge was done so now he is on the hunt for another one.

somethings are just too good to be true..

I'm thinking you may be "the other woman" sad to say. but I think Flip said it best, there are a number of possibilities in this.

Another possible explaination, after the sex, maybe he's just not that into you. Nothing further to explain.

Sorry to hear anonymous-OP.

I now truly understand that it's better to just lend an ear than to offer advice or opinion when a person feels like crap. I've been on both sides of the fence where I offered advice to a once significant one and was offered advice by other people. My SO did not like it when I provide what I thought was a solution, and I was more angry when someone kept saying "May I suggest", it's fucking annoying as if the suggestion is the key to solving all of life's problems.

The person who's hurt is never receptive of the "fix" as obvious as it may be to just move on.

While it's contrary to my point above, I'd suggest speaking with someone you trust about how you feel right now and just ask that they listen and let you vent. I sincerely hope that helps sooth the wound. Do realize though, that there is a finite amount of venting that can be done without pissing off the listener.

OP's late reply leads me to think this is not the answer she was expecting.

Seriously, move on though.

what's worse is it's 4 kids, 2 pregnancies :awwyeah:

The following is a reply from the original anonymous poster


Thanks everyone for your insight and input. It was unfortunate for me that I got too emotionally attached too quickly. It's been a few weeks since and I've moved on, and learned to take it slow. A single woman has her needs, especially after a long while being single; it doesn't make me a 'sloot' as someone here put it.

I didn't mention that I said to him "it's been a while since I've had sex" before we got it on, and likely because he knew he was the first person I wanted to be intimate with in a while, scared him. So in conclusion, it was all my fault.

Meh - to each their own, but I don't think it's your fault per se. It's a learning experience, take it as it is, move on (as you have), and don't make the same mistake again. Not productive to try and place blame; in reality, he was the one who went into it with misleading intentions anyways.

:rukidding:

Dude wanted sex, got it after a couple of dates, moved on. Geez.

Elementary my dear. He was able open your package and he did not like. What do you do with things you don't like? You throw them away.

Women need to understand that 99% of men are superficial and logical. No mystery here.

Perhaps you are overthinking this and putting the onus on yourself to feel bad.

There are a lot of things in life in which we cannot put a logical explanation to things. This is one of them and it's almost as if you are looking for a reason to rationalize your feelings.

Hope you find someone who appreciates you.

That's the nicest thing I've ever heard you say on here :P

That brought tears to my eyes.

I am the nicest hipster you will ever meet.

I felt like this could have been pm'd directly to me.

Usually a guy who is sexy, tall, handsome, has the whole package, won't stay around for too long. He's gotta have those physiques for a reason girl.