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Old 02-13-2017, 09:31 AM   #1
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What do you guys think should happen to an engagement ring in breakup??

7 year relationship, wonderful kid came from it, woman went from good to bad basically but no cheating ever happened. And 7k ring bought for her. After broken up she seems to think she should just get to keep the ring, i tell her she is out of her cunt driven mind (basically), IMO the ring becomes hers ONLY when she says "I DO" to getting married. So i tell we will sell it and split the proceeds just to avoid a bad arguments and possibly issues with my daughter over it. Same with the money i give her monthly, i give her too much , again just to shut her up. And we are 50/50 co-parents too! So any similar stories from you guys? And what do you think should happen to a ring when two people break up. Our's was fairly mutual, we both didn't want to spend any more time together.
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if your daughter is the most important thing to come out of the relationship, i'd let her keep it. courts usually favor the mom unfortunately, so you gotta keep the mom happyish so she doesn't fuck you over
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My buddy was previously engaged, after him and his ex broke up he kept the ring. He attempted to sell it and was unable to get a worthwhile price. Fast forward to today, he's engaged to a different woman and she's totally cool with receiving that ring.
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It was my understanding that the engagement ring goes to whomever didn't get cold feet

If the guy decides to back out, the girl gets it... if the girl gets cold feet, she returns it

In a perfectly mutual breakup, it should probably be sold for whatever you can get and split 50/50
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if your daughter is the most important thing to come out of the relationship, i'd let her keep it. courts usually favor the mom unfortunately, so you gotta keep the mom happyish so she doesn't fuck you over
The courts make sure everything is 50/50. The reason why they tend to favour women is because on average, women make less than men and have fewer assets. Women are responsible for most of the child rearing and have to forego full time work while doing so.
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Is this the OP? Lol

Ex-fiancée claims she helped pay for $16,500 engagement ring at centre of bitter lawsuit
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As far as I'm concerned (as someone who recently proposed) if she backed out, that ring is 100% my property. Yes it was a gift, but a gift also tied to a pretty huge promise.

Though you guys were married for 7 years, I'd say split the cost and make both sides happy.
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Precisely those are all of my thoughts! No thankfully we didn't get married.
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After 2 years of cohabitation, you're married in BC. End of story.
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^^this. You guys promised yourselves to each other, were together for 7 years and had a child. Ceremony or not, y'all married.

Sorry for the situation though. I have a coworker going through a very ugly divorce (with psychologists and lots of lawyers and urrthang). Breaks my heart
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to be fair I think she should give it back to your no questions asked and you can choose to let her keep it. Sounds like she's just being greedy to be honest. You bought it for her to get married and that happened and you should get it back since the actual vows were never said.
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Engagement ring is a "gift" once you give it to the person, the ownership will automatically transfer just like any other gift.

However some people look at it as a "contract", not a "gift"
If the contract didn't go through, it should be given back to the man.

Looks like the law isn't very clear about engagement ring.

There's no specific "engagement ring law"
Battle over $16K engagement ring escalates - British Columbia - CBC News
Estranged couple squares off over $16K engagement ring - British Columbia - CBC News


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Lawsuit over $228K engagement ring withdrawn by B.C. widower - British Columbia - CBC News
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I'd ask for the ring back, sell it and put the money into bank savings for your daughter's future education.

I can't trust someone with 7K, unless they're financially and mentally stable. That's just my pov.

If she complains about this, she's a bitch.

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Sell the ring and open a college fund for ur kid.
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Wow you guys are cheap as fuck.
If you couldn't afford it don't buy it in the first place. It's only 7k.

Especially if you have a daughter just let her keep it and move on. The fighting over it is not worth your daughters happiness.

Think of it as payment of how many times she put your dick in her mouth.
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together for 7 years w/ a kid, unless she was actively resisting getting married you should have been married by now. so i wouldnt use the fact that you never ended up walking down the aisle as an excuse.

unfortunately in many cultures women are seen as damaged goods after a long relationship and kids. so the jewelry and such is to compensate her for losing a man.
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If she doesn't want to be with you she shouldn't want to keep a ring that reminds her of you. Which leads me to believe she has plans for that money... good luck OP. Fack.
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Miserable stuff.

A lot of women don't want a used engagement ring so they aren't worth a lot on the used market. At least that has been my experience.

I wasn't happy about it but I let my ex keep the ring. It was purchased at Ben Moss. At the time they offered a deal where if you trade it back in they will give you full credit towards a more expensive ring that is at least double the price. She just wanted to keep it to get the full credit and trade up.

Let it go and move on with your life.
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Wait, so of that 7 year relationship, how long were you engaged. That makes a big difference
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An engagement ring by definition of law is a conditional gift. If the purpose/condition was not met, you are entitled to get it back.

However, since she gave birth to your daughter and all, is the amount of money on whatever the ring valued at currently worth to fight over? Money can be made... but the child's perception to family is something you can't buy with money.

IMO, even after the split, you both have the responsibility to give your lil girl the value of family she deserves to have. If I were you I'd just let her keep the ring, but why pay her? Unless she's watching the kid full time... that's another story. Otherwise, just show your daughter how adults handle their screwups in an adult manner and that even after the split, you guys are on a good term.
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Based purely on what OP mentioned in above post I would say either the girl keeps the ring; based on assumption that ring was given early on in the above mentioned 7 year relationship. Alternatively the ring is sold and proceeds put into a trust for the daughters education. At the end of the day there is a kid involved so the decision made needs to be beneficial to the kid first a foremost.
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I would let her keep it if she really wants to. I let my ex keep my ring. I mean a gift is a gift you can't ask for it back.

Oh and she is being a bitch I would get a lawyer ASAP to sort everything out so she can't take advantage of you.
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