OFFICIAL 2026 New Year, New Me! Health and Wellness Accountability Thread

[Traum]

Originally Posted by mikemhg

I'll be in Mexico when she moves all her stuff out, who knows if we'll speak again. Part of me does want some closure to all of this, I want to understand it all, why did she do all this. I hate ending things on these terms, and don't want to walk away thinking she's this evil, vile being, and second guess the person she ever was in the first place. It's fucking with my head to a degree, and I don't want to believe that.

Perhaps closure will never come, in hindsight this might've been the best way to have ended this 6-year relationship, and to allow me to move on. She moves into a new place 5 minutes down the street from me, and this breakup could've strung me along for months more thinking we were working on things from apart, trying to "reset", when clearly that wasn't the case. She had other intentions not known to me.

Sorry to hear about how it ended, Mike. And the way it ended sounded absolutely crazy.

With at least a few ex-es, I had gone through a similar mental state as you are doing now, although my past relationships mostly only ended bcos of incompatibility or that we were looking for different things. Still, there were parts of me that wanted closure, parts that wanted to understand how it came to happen, why she found it necessary to end our relationship, etc. In most cases, I never got the closure or answers I wanted, and closure only came when enough time has passed, or that I had let go myself. But in most cases, full closure never came. I'd like to believe that this sort of thing in life is what makes us human, that help us mature, and give us the desire to do better than what we weren't able to do in the past.

Take care and hang in there, bro.

[CivicBlues]

That sucks bro, I got nothing else to add but stay strong and you'll get through this. In any rate a guy like you probably won't be single for long...or at least without companionship for very long.