The Modern Dating Thread

[mikemhg]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

Well.. considering Mike's ex knows about this forum.. and this new girl I've been going out with knows Mike's ex... I gotta watch what I say LOL

Wait, what?!

[Gerbs]

if they don't hang, they don't really know them

[BIC_BAWS]

good thing just work friends

[bcrdukes]

Yeah. "Work friends."

[MarkyMark]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

good thing just work friends

So a nurse or an escort? Neither are great options to be honest lol

[SSM_DC5]

Originally Posted by BIC_BAWS

good thing just work friends

Run!

[spoon.ek9]

Originally Posted by donk.

Theres a correct term for this, bolded below

I find it funny, and i only hear this kind of stuff going on in chinese groups of friends

My old company, we had a 30ish chinese guy (white washed/born here), and there was a bunch of messy stuff going on in their friends group

Best example was like 14 of them went on a whistler ski trip or something, but his ex was there, AND he was actively chatting up another girl in the group.
By the middle of the trip he was making out with the "new" girl, and then his other male friend overheard his ex being upset that she found out about his new toy and told him. WHAT DO YOU EXPECT, WOMAN?

That is just straight up comedy. Dont remember how long who dated who or whatever details, but oh yeah, theres a bunch of eskimo brother stuff going in there.

By this point im sure he is onto #3 or #4 girl of his friend group, dude was build like Gerbs, pussy lined up around the corner




Actually, you know what, to be fair, ive had some "messy" stuff in my life too, so i shouldent be talking lol.

My favorite example was when i stopped seeing a chick, the chick wanted to bang my friends to get on my nerve, so her and my closest friend did some base 1 shit.
My closest friend never told me.
Somehow i ended up porking her a year later and she told me about what they did.
I never confronted my buddy about it. (Salivating for the perfect moment)
About a year later same buddy was over at my place, and the conversation on his end went to: something along the lines of "i had this asshole friend at work that tried to bang my ex".
To which i said "oh yeah dude thats SUPER shady, kinda like that time you and ________ did stuff behind my back and never told me, yeah dude".
My friend just froze and started to turn red from embarrassment, it was hilarious, followed by puckering his lips with a "oh crap" look.
We hugged it out, i didnt care, was just funny more than anything.

That same chick did a photoshoot in the lake with my other close friend (friend being the photographer). (Which he asked me about before even going)
I go to my buddies place a week later, and he says: "so that was an odd shoot, i think she was trying to fuck me. After we finished the photos, she asked me if she could come over to "use my shower and clean up", to which i didnt think twice, and said no to. Then she tried again when we were walking back to our cars in a different format, i didnt think anything of it at the time, but by the time i was driving home........"
Gold, absolute gold.

I got some other dark moments with the trio of 10s i mentioned in my previous post, but those you can ask me about in person only lol.

I should write a book on the stupidity of my life

In highschool, it was the popular kids who did this. I always thought it was gross that they would mess around with each other and then move on within the same group of friends. Like, isn't that weird as shit...? I dunno.

I do know one pharmacist who admits this is what she always does. Date someone within the current group of friends. To her credit, I guess her friend groups have changed over time but it goes towards what you mentioned.

[CivicBlues]

I never got it either, but maybe cuz I was never tight with a large in-group of friends. I mean you're kissing your new gf and a few month's ago she had your bud's cock in her mouth.

In other news...end of an era!
https://vancouversun.com/news/local-...s-vancouverera

[spoon.ek9]

beaten by "free online alternatives"

[Gerbs]

and I'm out of the dating market
- 30 talking stages via apps
- 7 ppl met in person events
- 5 first dates
- 3.5 months talking stage - > gf



good bye chat, see y'all at hyrox or when i am single again

[TOS'd]

Originally Posted by Gerbs

and I'm out of the dating market
- 30 talking stages via apps
- 7 ppl met in person events
- 5 first dates
- 3.5 months talking stage - > gf



good bye chat, see y'all at hyrox or when i am single again

Please present your data in the form of a Sankey diagram.

[Gerbs]

Originally Posted by TOS'd

Please present your data in the form of a Sankey diagram.

should see my lifetime data, it's autistic

can't post on here.


I might do a powerpoint presentation night for this

[donk.]

Originally Posted by Gerbs

and I'm out of the dating market
- 30 talking stages via apps
- 7 ppl met in person events
- 5 first dates
- 3.5 months talking stage - > gf



good bye chat, see y'all at hyrox or when i am single again

Single RS users:

l

[Hehe]

Originally Posted by Gerbs

and I'm out of the dating market
- 30 talking stages via apps
- 7 ppl met in person events
- 5 first dates
- 3.5 months talking stage - > gf



good bye chat, see y'all at hyrox or when i am single again

Is it norm to take this long nowadays? Back in college years when I was actively dating, I remember the average time to go from talking-->gf didn't take all that long. Maybe a month top if that.

Curious to see what's the timeline roughly? Only thing I could think is that as college kid, we had a lot more time, so we'd spend exponentially more time together than to say 2 ppl who are working and could only allocate so much time weekly.

[Tapioca]

Courtship probably takes longer because people have more options these days. If you're young and attractive, you're always going to be looking for the next person that checks all of your boxes.

[spoon.ek9]

it's taken me damn near my entire adult life to find a long term, stable relationship

to be fair though, I really didn't start looking until I was about 29-30.

[6793026]

Originally Posted by Tapioca

Courtship probably takes longer because people have more options these days. If you're young and attractive, you're always going to be looking for the next person that checks all of your boxes.

It's also very common for someone to just say "can i DM you", can i add you. that's soooo common now. I think back in the 90/2000 even 2010.. you walk up to a girl and ask for a number, they woudl lok at you funny.

[donk.]

Originally Posted by 6793026

It's also very common for someone to just say "can i DM you", can i add you. that's soooo common now. I think back in the 90/2000 even 2010.. you walk up to a girl and ask for a number, they woudl lok at you funny.

That will never go away, probably only get worse as time goes on.

"Your asking me out in person? DM me goof."
"Have you looked at yourself? Your a 4 and im a 10."
"Cant you see im busy (working out, clubbing with my girls, at work, eating, walking, breathing) no im not interested and i find it harassment that you thought it was ok to hit on me."
"Ewww gross, no"
"(Ignored)"
"Why you stuttering, no confidence?"


I would pay big money to go back to 1960, and experience what it felt like to hit on someone in person.

[donk.]

Originally Posted by spoon.ek9

it's taken me damn near my entire adult life to find a long term, stable relationship

to be fair though, I really didn't start looking until I was about 29-30.

Gerbs, send those 30 sloppy seconds to spoon

Originally Posted by Gerbs

- 30 talking stages via apps

[spoon.ek9]

Ironically, I'd probably have a much easier time these days approaching girls in person but ain't no need for that anymore. I absolutely never did that once other than while in school when you actually got to know people over the course of months.

My friend's husband, he talks to people all the time because he's super extroverted like that. She had to tell him to stop talking to random girls because he doesn't realize they think he's interested lol. And no, he's not trying to cheat. He just enjoys talking to people.

[Badhobz]

^ What a fucking weirdo. Destroy him !

[Gumby]

Originally Posted by 6793026

It's also very common for someone to just say "can i DM you", can i add you. that's soooo common now. I think back in the 90/2000 even 2010.. you walk up to a girl and ask for a number, they woudl lok at you funny.

Funny story - I was in Shanghai last month walking around Yuyuan Old Street and a random chick approached my 18 year old son and asked him if he had Wechat. She also asked if he was Korean, with my wife serving as translator.

Not sure if he was flattered, or embarrassed... later on, he also said she wasn't good looking!

[Badhobz]

Lousy shanghainese cunts. She probably caught a whiff of $$$ as you guys strolled past. Stupid Hamsup muis.

[bcrdukes]

Same thing happened to me in Fujian. They want you to ship them goods from North America (or insert country here) so they can resell for their local market.