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Old 01-07-2009, 11:23 AM   #26
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You don't date/leave house often do you?

I love it when a guy tells me something I never knew before. Pick an obscure topic, preferrably one you actually care about, and learn as much as you can.
I had a great date once where the guy went off for an hour about hydrotherapy. Current events works too...I wanna know you can talk about more than movies, and actually have an opinion on things
that can backfire sometimes. sometimes girls will feel stupid or will just not know enough to ask questions and keep convos like that going. it just turns into the guy talking to himself for an hour.

im not trying to say all girls are like that, just that I understand if a guy dumbs himself down a bit on the first few dates.

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It's noobs like you that lack the confidence.
SELL YOUR STORY.

sell yourself, tell them what you are good at, tell them stories that you are good at telling. WHY do you think people buy shit on infomercials. cause they talk so well on making you feel like you want it.

same for you. CONVINCE yourself and them that you are an interesting person with a great story to tell.

It is IMPOSSIBLE to learn all the topics that girls are interested in. It is POSSIBLE however, to be really good at the TOPICS you are good at and talk to EVERY girl out there.
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Old 01-07-2009, 11:47 AM   #28
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It's noobs like you that lack the confidence.
SELL YOUR STORY.

sell yourself, tell them what you are good at, tell them stories that you are good at telling. WHY do you think people buy shit on infomercials. cause they talk so well on making you feel like you want it.

same for you. CONVINCE yourself and them that you are an interesting person with a great story to tell.

It is IMPOSSIBLE to learn all the topics that girls are interested in. It is POSSIBLE however, to be really good at the TOPICS you are good at and talk to EVERY girl out there.
who is this directed to?
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The key to conversations is being able to talk about a topic that is appropriate to the time. Like say, if you just saw a movie, talk about the movie. If there's a significant current event occuring, talk about that. If she just got off work, ask her how it was and start from there?

I don't understand the divide between humour & intellect. It doesn't have to be one or the other. The benefits of humour & intellect is only experienced when you have the ability to apply it at the right time and the right conversations. When applied at the wrong situations, they backfire on you and make you look like a douche. So basically, humour & intellect is just a question of timing.
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Sex. If you can get a girl to talk about sex, that is the ultimate ice breaker.
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Old 01-07-2009, 07:53 PM   #31
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Sex. If you can get a girl to talk about sex, that is the ultimate ice breaker.
or the route to the friendzone
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not every girl talks about herself. There are many girls (especially chinese girls) that like to hide their stuff.

Just go with the flow, ask more open end questions and smile a lot.
Right!

just keep in mind to never let the convo go into a lull
if you are at the end of a topic. go with something that is different but associated somehow. (ie. speaking of........)

get of a feel of the woman you are courting. Generally woman like innuendo. However, be careful on the amount and how graphic you go. (ie. point at the corner of you mouth while you are smiling and say, "you have some sauce here." just make sure your smile is genuine and not perverted.
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Sex. If you can get a girl to talk about sex, that is the ultimate ice breaker.
This is true.

when i date a random girl, i always thru in sex stories. A girl that is great and open in talking about sex, she's a keeper. i had a blonde girl talk on the first date regarding how she loves sex. man.. good old days....

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who is this directed to?
oh.. not you.. i was referring to people like JOE45.
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Offtopic: your mom talks about 4chan, i guess that works too...

...not.

Ontopic: Depends on the girl. and it depends on how open they are to discussions. for starters when you're in their friendzone / first meeting, start off with
school, work, what are they taking, more career stuff. They'll go on. and from there, keep the flow going with relavent topics that they mention (if they go to SFU, you can talk about the snowfall that hit before winter break that caused them to cancel their Friday (Dec. 12th) exam)

You can then go into discussions that fall into family, mutual friends, movie (did you watch any recent movies? what scene did you like?) blah blah. just be yourself and say idiot stuff.

most of this stuff comes with practice, so don't worry about getting the girl on the first shot. if you don't succeed, then meh, at least you tried hard enough and learn from your mistakes so you know what to say when communicating to the next girl.
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I had a long 2 hour talk with a guy about fecal matter one day. That was pretty fucking hilarious.
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Is it me or is it easier to talk to a girl that is intelligent? I was trying to strike up some conversation this weekend during a dinner and it was painful... The clubber looking girls just don't have anything to say (I think they just donít care) and the ones who just graduated with a somewhat prestigious degree was just very easy to talk to..
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^I think that goes for most people. If you barely know them, current events and educated opinions/questions are great.
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Is it me or is it easier to talk to a girl that is intelligent? I was trying to strike up some conversation this weekend during a dinner and it was painful... The clubber looking girls just don't have anything to say (I think they just donít care) and the ones who just graduated with a somewhat prestigious degree was just very easy to talk to..
that can be easier though cause you can just lead the whole convo. talk about whatever you want and they will just nod and smile if they like you and just nod if they dont.
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It's noobs like you that lack the confidence.
SELL YOUR STORY.

sell yourself, tell them what you are good at, tell them stories that you are good at telling. WHY do you think people buy shit on infomercials. cause they talk so well on making you feel like you want it.

same for you. CONVINCE yourself and them that you are an interesting person with a great story to tell.

It is IMPOSSIBLE to learn all the topics that girls are interested in. It is POSSIBLE however, to be really good at the TOPICS you are good at and talk to EVERY girl out there.
I disagree with the sell yourself part. By doing that you are giving the girl all the power. I actually prefer to make the girl sell herself to me.
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I disagree with the sell yourself part. By doing that you are giving the girl all the power. I actually prefer to make the girl sell herself to me.
true dat. when i am with a circle of friends, i listen to what others are interested in. If the crowd is boring, then i talk about myself. No way am I going to spend 4 hrs talking about bubble tea with the girl when there are other 5 gamers guys around the table.

you're right penner, it would be great for girls to sell herself.
I really haven't met a girl confident enough to really sell herself for one, and two, what is there really to sell, all she needs to say is "wanna come over for coffee" and i'm sold.
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It's noobs like you that lack the confidence.
SELL YOUR STORY.

sell yourself, tell them what you are good at, tell them stories that you are good at telling. WHY do you think people buy shit on infomercials. cause they talk so well on making you feel like you want it.

same for you. CONVINCE yourself and them that you are an interesting person with a great story to tell.

It is IMPOSSIBLE to learn all the topics that girls are interested in. It is POSSIBLE however, to be really good at the TOPICS you are good at and talk to EVERY girl out there.
I disagree. Girls like to talk about themselves. When having a conversation with anyone, isn't it a lot easier if you've got some common ground to talk about? If you listen, analyze and respond with interest, then you'll be able to have a good conversation. (Fuck, that's what constitutes a conversation after all!) Women would rather have a conversation with you than have you rant and rave about things they can't relate to.

(And if she doesn't, then she's dumb and only worth a lay, but that's probably what you're going for right?)
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At the moment, I like to talk about Left 4 Dead, epic dota fights, 4chan, any funny personal blunders among shitty jobs, anime and some fashion styles. tehehe

Opinions on some issues are also cool. like the damn snowy weather or how gay translink is etc
i tried to talk about Left 4 Dead and the girl shrugged and said "Eww, zombies" and then "silence"
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Is it me or is it easier to talk to a girl that is intelligent? I was trying to strike up some conversation this weekend during a dinner and it was painful... The clubber looking girls just don't have anything to say (I think they just don’t care) and the ones who just graduated with a somewhat prestigious degree was just very easy to talk to..
It's a 2 way street. I mean I've hung out with people who were just clearly not interested in making conversation or talking unless it was about themselves. I try and be polite, ask them about their family, their lives, make jokes, bring up current events in relation to their lives and usually after they've exhausted talking about themselves, they'll just stay silent again. Conversations wouldn't be so bad if people took turn asking questions.
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As for what girls like, generally it's anything that proves that you are skillful.

A lot of girls I know will be interested in a guy if they've got something to say. Especially if it's something the girl is inexperienced in. If you prove your knowledge, many women find it sexy if they're looking for a relationship. Though I wouldn't start out with the alphabetically sorted collection of porn or HSM memorabilia that you like to keep under your bed. Maybe a game, or car. Don't spend too much time on just one topic. It's good to have variety.

Personally, if i'm interested in the guy, I'd like to know about their hobbies, what kind of person they are. Also i'm opened to all kinds of conversation. Depending on how interested I am, I'll invest more time on some topics and less on others.
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HAHAHAHHAHAHHA

shoulda asked her if she was gonna eat that stapler, then asked her if she wanted to split it!

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