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01-21-2009, 03:34 PM
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#26 | | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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Originally Posted by Berzerker  Another interesting point in a post was "What if he says no?" I had never thought of that haha. Wouldn't THAT be a kick in the balls. I like that idea about telling the mom first... however I think her mom would keep it a secret until I asked just to be mean to me  | Maybe not a "No." But what if they start to grill you. Like:
How much money do you make?
How will you provide for their daughter, new family?
Where will you live? Will you be in an apt for the next 5 yrs or in a brand new home?
Are you going to be at the same job 5 yrs from now, or do you have plans to progress? If so, what are they?
Haha, did you prepare for that?
j/k. Good luck dude, I'm sure you'll be fine.
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01-21-2009, 03:40 PM
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^^^ All that stuff has already been discussed.
Her father bought her sister and husband a house so that issue isn't an issue. That offer has been put on the table already. They are very family oriented so offspring is well taken care of by her parents I'll post up the results after the deed is done lol.... or you can read all about it in my obituary haha.
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01-21-2009, 03:51 PM
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#28 | | Hypa owned my ass at least once
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Originally Posted by Berzerker ^^^ All that stuff has already been discussed.
Her father bought her sister and husband a house so that issue isn't an issue. That offer has been put on the table already. They are very family oriented so offspring is well taken care of by her parents I'll post up the results after the deed is done lol.... or you can read all about it in my obituary haha.
Berz out. | Dude, sounds like the parents are expecting it already too. Seems like they're just expecting a Permission not for permission's sake but just as a form of formality.
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01-21-2009, 06:32 PM
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01-21-2009, 07:50 PM
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#30 | | Willing to sell body for a few minutes on RS
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I think you should just show up at her house when just her parents are home. Tell them you want to show them something before I give it to "daughers name". Show them the ring and her mom will probably say something like, "is that what I think it is?" You give her a shit eating grin, knod and say Berz Out. I'm sure it will be fine don't even sweat it and after it's over the weight will be lifted.
If you're excited about it and you've been together for some time then I'm sure they'll be happy for the both of you. If they didn't like you I'm sure you would have already heard about it so no worries. 
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01-21-2009, 07:53 PM
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yah did
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01-21-2009, 08:11 PM
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Originally Posted by Berzerker Yea that's a good point in several posts.. is it really asking permission or more like giving a heads up and manning up and bonding with the soon to be father in law. As for Care, she knows it's coming but not when or where 
Another interesting point in a post was "What if he says no?" I had never thought of that haha. Wouldn't THAT be a kick in the balls. I like that idea about telling the mom first... however I think her mom would keep it a secret until I asked just to be mean to me
Her family loves me so I'm sure it's not going to be an issue but that still doesn't make it less nerve racking.
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But I mean come on! That totally ruins it now because she knows you're going to ask for permission soon so she'll be anticipating it. You have to hit her when she least expects it and PLEASE don't do it on Valentine's Day or I will personally go shoot you for being so unoriginal about it.
By the way...can I be the flower girl? I have the height for it!
btw. You can always just knock her up and then do the "SURPRISE, you're going to be Grandparents!" when she's almost due and they'll be too distracted by the new baby to want to kill you...yet.
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01-21-2009, 08:34 PM
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#33 | | Even when im right, revscene.net is still right!
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Just do it. It's going to be a great bonding moment. If he drinks scotch or whisky or something, buy him a bottle, have a drink or two and just tell him honestly how much you respect him and how much you care for his daughter, and that you wouldn't want to ask her for her hand in marriage without getting his permission first.
If you're genuine and he likes you, it'll go great and be a good way to start up a father-son relationship.
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01-21-2009, 08:53 PM
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#34 | | MiX iT Up!
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berz-out and care .. are an item?
are we getting invited to your wedding for this advise?
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01-21-2009, 09:04 PM
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RS wedding? lol I know how that would go... 100 invites and people saying they will show... then when its time only 2 people show up lol.
Berz out.
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01-21-2009, 09:05 PM
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if i had a relationship with them (i.e could even speak the same language as them), then yes, i'd ask
but i can't, so wouldn't - i'd say won't, but that would imply i plan on getting married, which honestly, i never will plan on - but i may grow up one day (no difference emotionally, legally, or financially between common law and legally married, so means 0 to me when >50% marriages break up)
good luck, though
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01-21-2009, 11:04 PM
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I was at my then girlfriends house (now fiancee obviously), and while she was upstairs in her room, and I told her I was going to go downstairs to get some water (hoping her parents were around) and it just so happened as I was going down to the main floor, her mom was also going down and her dad was coming from the basement...so timing wise, worked out..
I asked them to head over to the living room to sit down as I had something to ask them...let them know how much I love their daughter, and asked for their blessing as I was planning on proposing during our trip in hawaii...they were both very happy and gave their blessing..
simple as that..
Just ask...I dont know what there is to be afraid of...unless you dont really know their parents...
In my case, she's extremely close with her family so I knew her parents very well over the 5 years previous...
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01-22-2009, 04:26 AM
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#38 | | I keep RS good
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Originally Posted by Berzerker ^^^ That's the same with me... However it is an awkward situation is it not? The other thing I have to approach with her father is the ring situation. He is a mining lawyer and has a very good friend who gets great deals on large stones. So its been suggested to me that I ask her father about this when I ask permission (by Care's Brother in Law) I'm already getting stressed out!.
Do you think the tradition of asking permission to marry will last more than another generation? Is it a timeless tradition?
Berz out. | i would. i think the next gen would as well. I think it's just the right thing to do, whether or not you accept the father's choice is another story though :P
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Originally Posted by Berzerker RS wedding? lol I know how that would go... 100 invites and people saying they will show... then when its time only 2 people show up lol.
Berz out. | LOL I'D SHOW UP! it would be an RS first hah. gotta participate man!
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01-22-2009, 04:29 AM
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#39 | | My name is Michael. J. Caboose, and I hate BABIES!
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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld berz-out and care .. are an item?
are we getting invited to your wedding for this advise? | O.o they have been for a while now....
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01-22-2009, 07:31 AM
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Originally Posted by Inaii O.o they have been for a while now.... |
I was the first person to message her when she signed on to RS... It was love at first PM
Berz out.
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01-22-2009, 01:17 PM
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#41 | | Willing to sell body for a few minutes on RS
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Originally Posted by Berzerker RS wedding? lol I know how that would go... 100 invites and people saying they will show... then when its time only 2 people show up lol.
Berz out. | Hahaha RS meet at Berz & Care's wedding!
If I say I'd show up, I would. People that pull a "no-show" at weddings - that's just disrespectful.
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01-22-2009, 02:10 PM
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#42 | | To me, there is the Internet and there is RS
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since i'm a goof, i'll have to have something funny in the way i ask
probably get the ring and then go to the father, go on one knee, and ask "will you be my father in law"
but thats just me
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01-22-2009, 03:00 PM
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haha Hey thats pretty good
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01-22-2009, 03:01 PM
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#44 | | To me, there is the Internet and there is RS
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Originally Posted by Berzerker haha Hey thats pretty good
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01-23-2009, 03:05 PM
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well as much as it nerve racking, I applaud any guy that would out of respect talk to their soon to be father in law. Good luck, and if they like you then you really have nothing to worry about.
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01-25-2009, 11:04 PM
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Originally Posted by Grandmaster TSE since i'm a goof, i'll have to have something funny in the way i ask
probably get the ring and then go to the father, go on one knee, and ask "will you be my father in law"
but thats just me | its all fun and games until he gives you a wink, blows you a kiss and tells you to meet him around back.
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01-27-2009, 09:09 PM
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it's a sign of respect
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