He's too nice. (Yahoo article) Not to challenge the idea that being a "nice guy" is a good thing. I honestly do believe that being a "nice guy" is a positive thing and has its rewards. But I happened to come across the following (and surprisingly not in correlation with the recent discussion about 'nice guys'). It has to do with being TOO nice: It's a pretty interesting read: Quote:
I personally think that this article sounds a lot like the old Craigslist ones people used to post up a year or two ago, about the "nice guys" and where they've gone. Only this one approaches it from the female's perspective. Up for discussions. -Physixx |
ugh. little off topic.. but it really annoys me how its an increasingly majority of the time that the guys are the ones who have to change who they are, to accomodate the other sex. not saying this is always true, but i find an overwhelmingly amount of critique on how guys should change their ways versus women changing guess the saying "pussy costs money, but dick is free" holds strong |
the world will never be equal. sexism will always exist. just like if guy are players if they screw around but girls do the same thing and they are whores. |
guys can't be nice to every fucking body. Some bitches need some slaps in the ass, and treat them what they deserve, even though they tell people they are looking for nice guys, it can't be real. If you are at the stage where she says "you are nice, but you're not my type" GO PULL THE TRAP DOOR LEVER and let her disappear in your life. There are ways that can prevent you from falling into the same trick again, but I don't want to go into detail now, so yeah...for those who are in similar situation, go finger her and look for some new chicks. |
how bout girls? what happens if they're too nice. do guys appreciate that shit? or do they prefer the bitch type hoe that is a " challenge " for them. i, for one, would prefer a " nice " girl over a challenging girl any day of the week, fck unstable bitches |
Same for guys but I would rather get a stable nice girl but chances are, they will become boring.. Fail. |
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Nice girls are great and all, but from the short termed perspective (i.e. to clean the pipes with no obligation), they just can't compete with the bad girls. Most guys, if they were just looking for a one night thing, would rather sleep with a stripper than the "good girl"; no obligation, and on top of it all, a LOT more fun. -Physixx |
In my opinion, it has to do with alpha males. If you are too nice, you are seen as weak and wimpy, girls need a guy that can also protect them and look up to. It's ok to be nice, but also be confident; know who you are and be comfortable with it, know what your values and morals are and stand up for them, have goals in life, have passions. |
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You could be a badass but very attractive - and girls will like you You could be a really gentle or sweet but attractive guy - and girls will still like you Note: Although it's usual, attractiveness isn't solely limited to good looks; and also the definition of good looks also vary from women to women. |
Being nice doesn't mean being ignorant and stupid and letting people run all over you, IMHO. I think there is a balance here, for "being nice" is an art. It's...a process, something that you either are/become are you'll never be. Some just have the propensity for it, some not. I mean, the examples in the article I laugh at, because that's not just nice, it's to the point it's stupid, blind. Mind you, the points in bold are true, good warnings really. I've been down that road and hit almost every one of those and ended up realizing that I had been used. It's a terrible feeling. Be nice, but have an edge and challenge things. You are still your own man! :thumbsup: |
It's not about being a nice guy or bad guy... it's about being a winner or a loser. "Losers always whine about their best... Winners go home and fuck the prom queen." - Sean Connery |
I think there needs to be a better word used. I like 'nice' guys. But guys who pretend nothing bothers them and bottles it inside is bound to blow sometime. Essentially without meaning to they are lying. I'm sorry but if nothing bothers you then you are not human. I want to share my life with a human, one who feels mad, sad, annoyed, happy, estatic, pissed off, etc. The nice guy most of these articles seem to refer to are the ones who just don't seem real. besides how annoying would that be to have it pushed in your face when your annoyed with something that nothing bothers them. |
Beware of nice robots. :eek: |
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Just to add to the discussion though: Being the generic "nice guy" often means there are limitations to "attractiveness". Perhaps it's just society, but there are many traits with negative connotations that some people consider to be attractive. For example, cockiness (thrown in with a little humor here and there) can be a very attractive trait on both genders. Yet the typical "nice guy" would be viewed as a more modest and hardworking person. And of course, "nice guys" likely won't just use any means necessary to be the winner. This isn't saying that nice guys can't be winners, or that non-nice guys all use dirty tricks to come out on top though. -Physixx |
Put it this way, you can't get much being just a nice guy. That about sums everything up. :p |
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Note that here are many ways to be seen as an "alpha male" with respect to the males around you. For example, the guy with the most skills and stamina would be the alpha of the team and play center-forward on the ice. This is a display of an alpha's physical traits. And for another, the guy most capable of handling situations, who does lots of extra-curricular activities, and excels in academics may be the elected class president. This is a display of his non-physical traits. These two types of people are alpha in their own ways. On the ice, alpha one makes alpha two look like a wimp. At school however, alpha two gets more adoration than alpha one. -Physixx |
Don't limit yourself to being either a physical or non-physical alpha either. You can be both and I've seen several examples. And you don't have to be the stereotypical super buff jock or a nerd. You can be a lean dancer, yoga practitioner, gymnast or charismatic leader, care taker, musician, etc. Girls will also like those guys too. Who ever you are, you just need to be the best you can be, and girls will be drawn to you. |
I can say sometimes too if I have no other nice way to describe someone then they just become "nice". There was either nothing memorable, or they came across too pushy or too weird, and following the old 'if you have nothing nice to say...' groups these guys into the "nice" category. I know if another chick would come up and try to set me up with a "nice" guy the guy was either a) pathetic, b)weird, c) they had never met the guy, etc. The minute the "nice" comment is used it sets up a red flag. If nice guy actually meant nice guy, then yes that would be part of what women want but the word has different meaning. |
Your different meaning sucks. :lol |
so many articles on 'the nice guy' 'the nice guy finishes last' dayaam..lol |
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-Physixx |
i freaken hate being such a nice guy, it already cost me a few times lol |
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Just to add to the discussion: Sometimes the definition of nice seems skewered IMO. You're not really "nice" when you want something from the opposite gender and using "nice-ness" as a tool of obtaining/achieving it; wether it be sex, relationship, or other companionship. Yes the actions one may take may BE "nice," but the intention is actually just for the benefit of one's own interest under the guise of the other. (it's a euphemistic version of selfishness) So one can't really take the title of "nice" at face value. Just food 4 thought. |
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