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Old 05-05-2009, 06:18 PM   #1
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[Confidential] Wife not cool with porn

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My friend, who is married, is a typical guy. He likes beer and sports and porn.

His wife is not cool with the porn. In fact, she told him that if he wants to watch that kind of stuff he can just leave her because she is that 'uncool' with it.

Of course I was like WTF is her problem?! Either way that's the situation he's in. He's been busted with stuff on his computer 3 or 4 times and every time she flips out on him and he's like 'yeah sorry about that I know I shouldn't do that etc'

Anyway, this last time I somehow got blamed for the mess. It doesn't matter to me but now by buddy is in deeper shit than usual.

Before, his wife found just random porno. Like Miko Lee and Alexis Amore type stuff. Porn star movie type stuff.

This time though, I sent him a zip file of all these pics from rev scene included all these local girl pics from Vancouver.

He laughed cause I sent this zip file over msn and it was probably full of like 200 pics. His wife found it on the computer and this one was worse cause it turns out she knew one of the girls from her old high school and now things are messy.

I don't know why buddy told her he got the pics from me but now she's like 'wtf your friend is married and you're being disrespectful to me by acting this way' and so on.

Of course my buddy is all pissed off and frustrated cause his wife is going bananas about this stuff. She's actually pretty cool but she just loses her mind over this adult thing. Honestly. I'm confused why it's such a big deal and I know my friend, I doubt he's going to just forget about porno. His wife is super hot but you know how the story goes. No matter how hot the girl, you're always wondering about the 'other' ones.

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tell him to tell her that if she wants to break up then she should keep making ultimatums. if she wants to have a relationship then she should act like an adult.
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stop watching porn then gezzzz.

Tell your buddy to tell his wife he can stop watching porn as long as he gets sex whenever he wants. Fair trade off.
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^ True that... unless the buddy isn't having sex with his wife because he'd rather watch porn, then he's got issues.
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didnt they discuss this topic pre marriage?

i wonder where she was raised to have this attitude bout porn
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I would tell her to fuck off ...

My friend was in a similar situation, GF would freak the fuck out if she found anything porn-related on his computer, went to the strip club with us, or even found out he was hanging out with other girls ... then she ended up cheating on him when he was at camp out in Alberta.

Typical behaviour of someone who is insecure and selfish.
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stop watching porn then gezzzz.

Tell your buddy to tell his wife he can stop watching porn as long as he gets sex whenever he wants. Fair trade off.
+1 to this.

Not even guys watch porn for no apparent reason. We watch porn because we need some form of sexual thrill...and imo if he's married and not getting this sexual thrill, then it's only fair game that he gets to watch his porn.


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+1 to this.

Not even guys watch porn for no apparent reason. We watch porn because we need some form of sexual thrill...and imo if he's married and not getting this sexual thrill, then it's only fair game that he gets to watch his porn.


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i think there are some people that are naturally just uncomfortable with their partner watching porn and it's something they have to work out on. maybe the wife feels she isn't good enough so she thinks he's resulting to porn? maybe she thinks porn ruins the reality of sex? it could be a million things.

i say get your friend to talk to her about it and that porn is just porn. it's a fantasy, a quick getaway for men and women even if they are attached. it doesn't mean porn makes them think any less of their partner or anything.
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maybe the wife was in a porn of some sorts and she's afraid if your perv friend keeps watching porns, he might come across her on the receiving end of something. Its a bit of a stretch but you never know. By any chance has she ever been to Mexico of Ft Lauderdale around Spring break?
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stop watching porn then gezzzz.

Tell your buddy to tell his wife he can stop watching porn as long as he gets sex whenever he wants. Fair trade off.
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screw her.
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Old 05-06-2009, 12:23 AM   #13
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However one could argue that maybe they need to work on things together to spice up their sex life
I suppose you have a point too.
All I read was "his wife is super hot"
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Typical behaviour of someone who is insecure and selfish.
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Tell your buddy to tell his wife he can stop watching porn as long as he gets sex whenever he wants. Fair trade off.
QFT right there
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I don't get people who get all worked up over their partner watching porn. It doesnt mean that they love their partner less or they are missing something. Sometimes you just wanna see a random hot chick getting nailed. But as someone has said above its because the other person is insecure or selfish and yes if she doesnt want him to watch porn then give him sex in every shape and form whenever he wants it
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the best way aside from talking to her, is to get her involved. to tell you the truth, the husband just needs to slowly get her to be more open to things.

try to take her out to work shops (eg// pole dancing), take her to titty bar (might be a tough one, but there are excuses), but slowly get her to be more prone to these new excitments.

Once that's done, you slowly tell her that you want to try something different after the encounter. this will slowly ease her in trying somethign 'different' and sooner or later, u get to introduce something like porn.

it's a long step, but hey,she's ur wife and i'm sure this is the easiest way.
OH, showing her funny short weird XXX clips (not hard core porn) but bloopers .. and ease her in.
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hahaha what an immature wife, has she been living under a rock or something?

and where can we download this golden zip file of ur friends?..ask him to upload it or something hahah

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Wow! So what's her definition of kinky? Doggystyle? Eating her out?

If that's about it, I feel bad for ya. Since you're married, have fun having the same routine sex for life.
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Like said above she's just insecure within herself which is why she has the issue. I'm not sure how he can make her more open or receptive to porn. I'd probably just tell her my way or the highway but thats just the type of personality I have. Someone mentioned it but wouldn't this have came up before they got married? This topic came up not that long ago, I know one of my buddy's broke off a fairly serious relationship over this exact issue. His girlfriend didn't want him going to strippers for a stag or looking at porn so after trying to get her be more open and her having none of it he dumped her. The OP's friend is actually married to one of these women so it's a bit more difficult then that.
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This must've come up before they got married. Either he hid it well, or they were both in denial about it and figured things would get sorted out after getting married. Sounds like the wife isn't gonna change her opinion about it, he's not gonna stop watching porn...if they both aren't gonna grow up and compromise on it then they might as well call their lawyers up and get a divorce if this is such a big issue with them.
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isn't watching porn better than him fucking another girl? lol. he should share that with her.

i understand the part about the pictures of locals, that's just a little weird. but porn and pictures of other girls that aren't local.. she shouldn't have problems with as long as he's not addicted to the point where he constantly has to watch it
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maybe she feels like if hes watching porn then he's cheating on her? or it could lead to him cheating on her with a local girl?
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maybe she feels like if hes watching porn then he's cheating on her? or it could lead to him cheating on her with a local girl?
Yeah but it's not. It's all just in her imagination. Just like I don't get in a tizzy when my girl gets all dreamy eyed after watching a Jonny Depp or James Franco flick. I know she'd like some of that, but it's not like she would ever act on it.
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Very limited options.

1. Talk about it - ultimatum
2. Live with it - unhappy/annoyed/will lead to possible cheating
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Many women feel that it is an attack on their womanhood; they feel that the men are not interested in them anymore. What they fail to understand is that as soon as the guy is finished whacking off, the chick dissappears.

There was a blog called "True Porn Clerk Stories", and in one of the final posts, she talks about this. About how in the days of VHS how guys would return their tapes unrewound and sometimes uncleaned.

Porn is something you do to enjoy. You don't have to worry about pleasing someone else, you don't have to worry about saying or doing the right thing, about doing something that's going to make her explode in pleasure or in anger. Porn is all about relaxing with yourself and not worrying about anyone else.


And a lot of women are fucking selfish and can't get over the fact that she isn't perfect in every way shape and form for him.
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