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Old 05-22-2009, 11:48 AM   #51
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^ Hmmm agreed.

That is a bit shitty of her. Basically she's expecting you to be available whenever she wants and doesn't have to be free when you ask her out? That's BS.

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Old 05-22-2009, 12:15 PM   #52
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well.... i mentioned i rejected her for asking me to go coffee during the long weekend...

few days after, i asked her if she wanna go have a dinner with me this weekend..
she replied " i wouldnt expect much from a guy disspear from time to time"
and she is having doubt about me if i really interest in her..

lol

im stuck now

edited*she also mentioned she felt insecure
Enough is enough! Move on, seriously. Would you want a gf that's crazy and insecure anyway?? NO.

She's trying to game you and you're falling for it.

Here's your dialouge next time
chick: "i wouldnt expect much from a guy disspear from time to time"
you: "yeah..okay. see you at another time then"
chick: "see! you dont want to fight for me..blah blah, you're not reliable"
you: "yeah..okay."
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well.... i mentioned i rejected her for asking me to go coffee during the long weekend...

few days after, i asked her if she wanna go have a dinner with me this weekend..
she replied " i wouldnt expect much from a guy disspear from time to time"
and she is having doubt about me if i really interest in her..

lol

im stuck now

edited*she also mentioned she felt insecure
Uuuuh you didn't "reject" her, you said you had conflicting schedules.

Me thinks you got rejected or probably have too slim a margin of success that you play it off as if it was you who refused the opportunity of relationship by painting a picture of a crazy stuck up lady.

Nice try but you're not fooling people who've been around
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Old 05-22-2009, 01:22 PM   #54
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^ Perhaps but thinking from the point of view of the ladyfriend of his, she's tryign to take advantage of the situation. Knowing that he likes her, the ball is in her court and he's a mold of putty that she can manipulate and mold to her liking. She's basically testing how far and how dedicated he is and stringing him along by giving that sort of shitty reply.
Because you like her and she knows it, she thinks she has a hand over you because your feelings are dependent on her presence. And because she thinks you are devoted to her, its like your obligation to give her your time whenever since you're chasing. If you don't follow through, its like you're not devoted to her enough. blah blah she's a bitch.

What a move. Because you're unavailable once does not make you unreliable. Her insecurities are just a manipulative test and it's a norm.
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^^ i hate to agree with noir but i think he's right on that one LOL

OP, your harsh putting the pussy on the pedestal

seriously..dude
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that's pretty drama-queen-ish of her. if she does/says that now, just think of what your relationship will be like months down the road...
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well.... i mentioned i rejected her for asking me to go coffee during the long weekend...

few days after, i asked her if she wanna go have a dinner with me this weekend..
she replied " i wouldnt expect much from a guy disspear from time to time"
and she is having doubt about me if i really interest in her..

lol

im stuck now

edited*she also mentioned she felt insecure

lol she sounds like a pretentious high maintenence bitch, seems like shes playing wtih you to see how far you will bend over for her.
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******** sorry guys...i edited out the info

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Old 05-25-2009, 02:59 PM   #59
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so how did it go^^
she made up some lame excuse to ditch u last min didnt she? lol
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so the long weekend is over.
she asked me once if i wanna go for a coffee, i refused becuse i was hanging out with my friends
she didnt ask me the 2nd times ..

now the question is ... what should i do when the "big day" is here
should i even bother mention to her and ask for an answer?
you do realize, that the coffee meet is for shutting you down right?
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so how did it go^^
she made up some lame excuse to ditch u last min didnt she? lol
******** sorry guys...i edited out the info

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you do realize, that the coffee meet is for shutting you down right?
shutting me down ? no i dont , please explain ... thx
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sorry for the bad grammar...bare with me here
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Old 05-25-2009, 08:04 PM   #64
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shutting me down ? no i dont , please explain ... thx
a "casual" meet after some time in your situation is ALWAYS bad news.

well, almost always.

It's the same like a girl asking you to go in and "have coffee" after a date. Unless you fucked up pretty bad, you score.

In your case, you need something drastic, not "I am gonna kill myself" kinds though.
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ive been in the same position she said shed think over a couple days about it then the answer was yes but then her bf called her cell like 5 seconds after she told me and found out what we were doin and it all went to shit cuz she felt bad for him..
u shouldnt give it to much time try to get it over with quick. when you give her time it gives her more reasons to not be with u
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no, it actually turns out well...
we talk things out on how to make things better..well... a little bit :P

she wasnt too happy the other day coz i couldnt be there for the coffee meet
she said my thing was optional, i didnt have to attend, and i could of ask her to join as well..
i told her, i got my stuff to do, and i cant always be around when you needed, not to mention she doesnt like to hang around with my freinds she doesnt really know.. so there is no point i ask her to come out with my freinds
you just being self-fish....i would love to spend as much time as i want with you, but in reality, it doesnt go that way

she seems quite upset but she ask me to come out again
she told me she is making a decision now, THERE IS MORE NEGATIVE ABOUT ME THEN POSITIVE, there is lots of stuff running thru her mind... ( she was going circles with me, not moving forward )
i ask if she care to explain, and how do i make things better... she doesnt really wanna tell me

i see she doesnt wanna committ yet she doesnt wanna lose me either
probably thinking the best rejection line
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I've been through this before.

If she had any slight interest in you, she would have said yes when you asked her at the beginning. The reason for this wait is because she doesn't want to lose you, since you're always there for her when needed.

That, or she's really indecisive. If that's the case, walk away because the relationship will not last long even if she says "yes". Even if you guys are in a relationship and another guy comes along, she will not be able to decide rationally and to just say "no".

Anyway, you're almost there. May as well wait it out and see the outcome. We all know what the answer is going to be, but I hope you prove us wrong.

Good luck.
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Thanks. It is been awhile, I felt bad if I give up right here at the moment. We all know the result might be, I prepared for the worse, but at least I give it a try. Cant really blame a man for trying.

Sometime I question myself, i asked her because i REALLY REALLY love her or is it just me want to accomplish the challenge she had for me all these years.
I do love her, but maybe not as much i thought.

This questions is far beyond i should be thinking right now, but If her answer is Yes, i honestly dont know how long the relationship is going to last. My feeling for her might be just disspear.

May is almost over, we shall wait till 2nd week of June for the result.
Can't imagine having to wait that long. I think I know a few girls that are completely indecisive like that too though. Really high maintainence as well from what I've seen. GL
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yeh keep us updated although i think we all know what the answer would be

im curious about 1 thing tho...have u changed anything about the way you act around her when you guys are together? do u still treat her like ur gf and do everything for her?

if so then all ur efforts will just go down the drain later on for sure..remember what i told u earlier? if ur still treating her the same as before then she still wont see the difference between having u in her life and not..

well i guess its a good thing that ur starting to lose interest, maybe shell notice that and things might turn out different...neways keep us updated hahaha
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