Do you tell your gf when going out other female friends alone?
 

like regular female friend and you never have any intention hitting on her.
She asks you to come out to grab a coffee, maybe walk on the beach
afterward. Do you tell your gf in advance? afterward? never? or lie to her
that you are chilling out with some guys?

I don't see why you wouldn't tell her. If it's just a friend it'd be like going out with the guys or something. If she gets jealous then she's jealous. She can't be the one to tell you who you can or cannot be friends with. And lying never works because in the end they will always find out.

becuase he loves bangs

Lying makes it seem like you're hiding something. That said, she doesn't need to know what you're doing every single moment of your life, right? Would you tell her you're going out with a male friend? If not, then why make an exception for a female friend? A friend is a friend, regardless of the gender.

if you think your gf would care, then you should probably let her know lol.

coffee's pretty harmless anyway, i doubt she'd care too much. but the walking along the beach thing is kinda sketch. for no reason, this girl wants to do this with you, alone?

Werd. I have had discussions with other girls on this similar topic as well and they feel that they should know.

They say that they would prevent their SO from going out because situations like this should be avoided as MUCH AS POSSIBLE. Because let say going out with different girls happens 3 times (you have no feelings for them, but they do have feelings for you), you try to prevent anything from happening all 3 times and succeed. The argument goes that, yes, although you succeed all 3 times, but what if it happens maybe 100 times? Out of all those 100 times, there should be at LEAST ONE circumstance which is unavoidable. Maybe the timing was right, the place was right, you were a little weak and just gave in a little bit, you thought nothing would happen but it did? It would be too late to go back then right?

I know I might be exaggerating a little bit but this probably only goes if the couple is really really serious... what do you guys think of this argument?

Not everything is indicative of someone trying to hit on you, though. Walking along the beach doesn't mean she's trying to get into your pants. Walking along the Seawall can be just as harmless as cruising the pier at White Rock or strolling down Robson. My best friend (as well as several close friends) is female and we've hung out in situations where others may consider it to be a "relationship"-style occurrence... but, honestly, it's just two friends hanging out. One day we had spent the day tossing the Frisbee on the beach at White Rock, had dinner at the Boathouse as the sun set, then watched the stars come out while strolling the pier and eating gelato. Yes, to some people that's "a date," but, to me and her, we were just hanging out. *shrug*

You can't just assume that there's always going to be something behind what's going on... Sometimes things have to be taken for exactly how they appear.

i usually tell my boyfriend if im hanging out with a guy friend
just like he does when he hangs out with his friends that are girls

why lie when there's no reason to?

what if that girl u find is attractive and u had a little crush on her before
??

lolll

I tell my gf when I'm going out with other girls. She doesnt care. And I don't care hen she goes out with other guys. Its all about trust.

I would tell her because the woman that I would be with would never stop me from going out with my friends.

If she gets jealous or angry that's ok. Just makes the post-argument sex better.

why make things more difficult that it should? Just tell the truth & go on ur merry way.

It doesn't happen often, but when the bf goes out with his few female friends, he tells me, just as I do if I go out with male friends. Mutual respect, nothing to hide.

Although, what Rabid said, walk on beach is sketchy...I wouldn't walk alone on the beach with a male friend and I assume the bf wouldn't walk alone on the beach with a female friend either...

+1 :thumbsup:

I don't get it. Why is walking along the beach with a friend sketchy? It's not like they're going to do the stereotypical Hollywood romantic thing where they're both in bare feet, walking along the edge of the water, hand-in-hand, while dancing and doing whatever other shit you see in movies. What makes going to the beach more sketchy than checking out the Farmers Market or walking through Metrotown? If the weather is nice, the beach is a great place to hang out and cruise.

agreed.

With my ex, I never specified who I was hanging out with and when. I didn't see a reason to. I think Lomac nails it on the head.

hell no.

^ :lol SAM

if you dont mind if she's hanging out with another guy friend then go for it. but if nothings going on then no need to hide it:)

depends on the situation if she asks then i would tell her

you know what's better than the truth? a white lie. because everyone wins.

you know what's better than a white lie? a gf that you don't need to tell white lies to.

do you get jealous if your gf hangs out with another guy on the beach?