First date.......what to do ?
 

just wondering, what are some ideas for a first date without making it too fancy or making the girl feel overwhelmed ? + with lots of good opportunities for convo.

lets hear everyone's opinions

thanks

well, it can be like some movie, walk around mall, dinner kinda thing

keep it simple, since its first date, but if you want to have a good impression, pay for the movie and dinner :)

but i'm sure there are girls that would WANT to pay for themselves and maybe the guy too, because i believe the guy paying for things are old fashioned.

going biking at stanley park then going to eat at cactus club or something then going for drinks?

Yea do something physical, mini golf, go cart, biking, walks. Eat dinner/drinks in downtown, walk around the beach, sit down for dessert somewhere.

Everything's good other than cactus club cause it somewhat "loud". Choose a place that's a bit more quiet.

I wouldn't recommend a movie for date one.

dinner than bbt!

Adventure Golf at PNE , followed by dinner on denman or area, followed by some gelato & a walk around english bay for the WIN ..

you can thank me later...

I think dinner is a bit overwhelming on a first date. As for movies, it somewhat limits your convo opportunities.

A nice walk in the park, beach, etc would be great starters. If you want to extend the date, a trip to a bubble tea hut or some coffee place afterward works best.

Hmm.. that is actually a good idea. I might try to do that myself one day.. haha

it is difficult to suggest what YOU two should do...we don't know who she is and what she
likes

if she loves sun, of course do something sporty and outdoor...if she's a nerd, go to chapters
if she's quiet, go out at an appropriate time, so she feels comfortable to talk.

I bet she's a young girl...do something that is not the regular to surprise her a bit. If going out
for dinner, try something special (like african crusine). First date is quite important to many girls


my woman still talks about our first date, like how I dressed, what I ordered for dinner, what
did we talk about. So don't screw up.

^I love the bit about the African cuisine,
being original means a LOT on a special planned first date.

bring her somewhere she doesn't usually go (ex. I know girls who never go Downtown, so that's where I'd take them if we date for the first time), but be sure it's not somewhere she might not want to go (for example, a bar if she's not a bar-person)

do something relatively cheap and relatively stimulating for conversation (ex. go sit somewhere scenic with an ice cream)
dinner might work depending on where and what type of cuisine--but don't talk with your mouth full lol

NO to the movies
NO NO NO. Not only is it unoriginal, you also have zero time to communicate, and most movies are not stimulating enough/ most people are too boring to have a good after-movie conversation about it.
Also, you want to make her remember your first date for you, not for the movie you watched together.


-Physixx


P.S.
if she's not the type that likes to initiate conversations, it's OK to have a cheat sheet folded in your pocket in case you forget what you wanted to say ;)

Isn't there like 30 threads on this already?

^ What girl hasn't been to downtown? They must live in a box.

An African surprise is indeed refreshing but I would be like 'wtf, ok that's surprising, but I rather get something familiar yet delicious'. I say it you should cater to her tastes refreshingly and not take a stab in the dark. If she likes izakayas, find a new one etc.

In the eyes of the girl, movies arent that bad. Though a lousy movie can be like a bad after taste, but a film helps create conversation after. The more important bit is what you do after the movie.

What about trying out the Raw Canvas in Yaletown. You can have coffee and something small to eat their and you both get to paint side by side or in front of one another so you don't see the other painting. It will give you time to talk and have fun and maybe you could swap paintings. It will be a fairly relaxing date and even if you both don't know how to paint, it will be funny which is great.

http://www.raw-canvas.com/

not never been, never go.
infrequent.

try to do random things to attract her attention, but dont be a douche about it, the key is just being yourself. movies are the worst thing, its a first date, you are trying to get to know this girl, the movie leaves gaps for talking which is HUGE on the first date. main things are to be funny, but don't focus all your attention on her, she might get creeped out and think you're already falling in love with her or something. make some eye contact, but not to much.

what's aalways worked for me is the walk/dinner around the bayshore area (by the Westin Bayshore Hotel). Or just munching on something while walking around english bay.

THere's a good pizzaria there, plus a bunch more places.
you can always go to Guu on Bidwell as well, since they have a balcony there.

Dude, first dates, keep it relaxed, spontaneous, and fun. God knows she might be as nervous as you are, if not more.

LOL!!!

physixxx is a master PUA

a cheat sheet? i swear that's some George Kastanzah shi

anyways, i almost always go downtown, a small not busy restaurant and then to the beach to do absolutely nothing or have a few drinks, and just flirt

i hope you're a good conversationalist, if you ever get stuck, just ask questions, and they shouldnt always be personal ones, keep them light hearted

here's some topics that are easy to go on and on about

origins/roots
what were their teenage years like
the city
may be past relationships
interests hobbies
sports?
and if you're risky, i dare you discuss religion/politics/world affairs


try to stray away from topics like, what kind of music do you like, books or w/e topic that you dont have a good grasp of, cause it'll usually lead to a dead end

good luck, let us know how it went

dont forget to wear ur jb shirt

physixx is wack and has no game

I dun go to downtown, parking is a bitch. U dun wanna lose ur cool on the 1st date. I'd go somewhere w/ a view & tons of parking. Then maybe catch a light movie, no killing & shit

Movie is the worst thing you can do for a first date. You're going to be spending 1.5-2 hours of the date sitting there beside him/her without saying a word.

I'd rather spend that time at a coffee shop or walking along the seawall and getting to know each other.

agreed. that would be a nice date, especially now with the warm weather. :thumbsup: