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08-18-2009, 03:16 PM
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#26 | RS controls my life!
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ITS FACE PALM NOT PALM FACE... you FAIL!
seriously the honest fact is you don't know how to play your game. It doesn't matter how hot she is or what-so-ever... unless she's a gold digger or just plain skin deep then it'll be hard for you but even then i've seen guys get through to girls like those...
there's no "smooth" way of playing it... its all an art.. meaning you get creative, go with the flow... and sometimes against it. I mean I wasn't there but who knows... like rb said.. let things download... pretend to install something that takes long or a full virus scan, be like this will take some time... are you hungry want to go eat? Even if she said no you can go get a drink and what do you have to lose... you got shot down for eating... after ask to go for a drink... and sometimes you just have to give off the vibe that "do you want to hangout? even if you don't i still got something else to do"
even if this girl doesn't like you now doesn't mean she'll never like you... unless she really really knows who you are.. then you might not have anything else to offer...
moral? confidence, control, and persistence
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09-28-2009, 09:04 PM
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#27 | I *Fwap* *Fwap* *Fwap* to RS
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Originally Posted by AsRealAsItGets I just messed up like a total idiot. I've been friends with this girl for awhile but I rarely hang out with her. Today I was supposed to do a favor for her and help her fix her computer. Usually I don't get nervous but for some reason when I got to her house my heart was just going nuts. Felt pretty embarrassing being nervous when I have no business being so.
Its important to know that she was free all day so I was expecting to hang out with her after I helped her. I fix her shit and all the while being a total nervous wreck. It would have been really painful to watch if you were there, trust me. Then in a lame attempt to further ruin my dignity, I asked her like a pussy if she wanted to do something... I totally sounded like a freaking chump.
Obviously I got hosed and usually I'm confident but I really like this girl.
Nerves got the better of me. She said she was tired and didn't feel like going out. She even made it clear before I arrived that she was free all day.
I really need to be smoother because at this rate I ain't never gonna get any for a loooooooooong ass time. Thing is whenever I get rejected it just makes me wanna try harder. I guess thats the only positive thing coming from this whole travesty. | You're a freakin noob. |
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09-28-2009, 09:58 PM
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#28 | MiX iT Up!
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^ way to bump a month old thread - NOOB !
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09-29-2009, 07:07 PM
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#29 | Banned (ABWS)
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lol..what a noob
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09-29-2009, 07:53 PM
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k keep on topic or don't post.
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09-29-2009, 07:57 PM
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Originally Posted by _Hotsauce_ You're a freakin noob. | That's mean |
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09-29-2009, 09:05 PM
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#32 | NOOB, Not Quite a Regular!
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if ur going out of ur way to do a favor for her u shoulda asked for something in return. get her to buy u dinner or maybe just a drink if she asks u for a favor, u shouldnt be doing shit for free and leave feeling like a chump.
some girls i met offers to buy me dinner when they ask me for a favor. such as driving them to airport or help w/ some hw stuff. i've also met ones that tries to get u to work for them for free. then i just make up excuses to be busy
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10-01-2009, 10:59 AM
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#33 | MOD
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She used you. You wont see her again until she needs another favor.
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10-01-2009, 09:25 PM
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#34 | Ask me about how I answered the question "How fat is TOO fat?"
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Originally Posted by _Hotsauce_ You're a freakin noob. | this is true,
however,
to get around your problem you need to learn how to simply walk up to strangers and talk to them. Let it be anything. Once you get around randomly speaking with strangers (whether you're in line to see a movie or buying groceries or renting that cool porno with the black chick thats wearing a cop uniform). By overcoming difficulties speaking with a complete stranger, you'd be surprised how much easier it is to talk to some girl.
And dont let her possess your balls when shes around you (figuratively speaking, literally is fine)
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10-16-2009, 10:56 AM
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#35 | I subscribe to Revscene
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there is one way to totally recover this situation.
First, realize that this one isnt a big deal if you lose it as you already fucked up. So dont let yourself put her on a pedestal anymore, that's over
Second, you have another chance to go in there with your chest puffed out. You can't make an ass of yourself worse than last time, so consider yourself lucky that you having nothing to lose now.
So make another appointment with her, but just dont give such a big fuck about it. Go in there cocky. Hell, pretend if you need to. It doesnt matter cause you already fucked up, but if you pull this off right you could completely re-invent the situation.
Give it a try!
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10-16-2009, 12:29 PM
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#36 | I contribute to threads in the offtopic forum
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Originally Posted by Hewlett-Packard Hahaha dude it sucks I know
I'm so smooth and chill with so many girls and some are even hotter then the one I like but when I talk with this girl, I tend to second guess myself, think a lot more then I should about what I should say and what not, eventually freezing up sometimes. FML.
Yes, nice guys do finish last | U were smooth with other hotter girls cuz you knew you had no chance and there is no pressure. You start to crack under pressure of this one cuz you probably wanted to be perfect.
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10-19-2009, 01:59 PM
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#37 | RS.net, where our google ads make absolutely no sense!
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Originally Posted by wasabisashimi U were smooth with other hotter girls cuz you knew you had no chance and there is no pressure. You start to crack under pressure of this one cuz you probably wanted to be perfect. | Not exactly dude lol
Sometimes when looking for a girlfriend or a relationship, physical attractions can only take a relationship so far. Sure, they're fun for ONS and being the occasional fuck-buddy but sometimes, people aren't exactly looking for that. Even if the girl is smoking hot, she may or may not be girlfriend material. I'm not going to brag but if you're wondering, I was in the same league as them or even better but looks are subjective to everyone. I had some pretty good chances with some of my hot friends cause they were usually the ones initiating the contact and made it clear that they were interested in me but like I said before, physical attraction is just a small part of it.
However, I do think I'm easier to talk to people that I don't "like" or want to fuck and not because "I had no chance". Like you said, I don't want to make any mistakes or say something wrong hence each phrase/word is carefully thought out.
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10-19-2009, 08:01 PM
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#38 | I answer every Emotion with an emoticon
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lol nice
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10-20-2009, 06:38 AM
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#39 | I WANT MY 10 YEARS BACK FROM RS.net!
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Originally Posted by Durrann1984 man someones always gotta say that
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fak oh well this is the internet | At least nobody said "stick it in her bum"...
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10-21-2009, 07:27 AM
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#40 | To me, there is the Internet and there is RS
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to me sounds like 1 of 2 things:
1) the girls using you to get shit done. I know a girl who only calls/messages me when she needs something on her car fixed, because I'm the only person she knows who knows fuck all about cars. The first time I helped her, then I didn't hear from her til something broke again, so I said I was too busy, forget her.
2) She said she was free all day, and wanted you to fix her computer. Now unless this was a little 5 min fix, most people know computer repair has downtime as youre doing stuff. Then afterwards she said she didn't want to go out. Now depending on the exact situation she might've wanted to hook up with you, but who knows.
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