CanadaGoose | 09-15-2009 11:26 PM | Some random thoughts on relationships "Maybe this is more a note to myself online, or just some of my random observations/opinions... so I can remind myself anywhere I have access to the internet, but I thought maybe others might benefit from this as well, so here they are out loud":
NEVER change just because you're in a relationship. I think a lot of relationships that fail due to the girl losing interest in the guy has to do with him falling too hard and becoming soft (too nice, mushy, lovey)... remember how when you first met your SO, you used to poke fun at her and tease her, and she loved it, but now you can't stop saying nice things to her? To the point it's almost predictable aka. boringg? That's the change I'm talking about. I'm not saying not to open up, or to forever keep your guard up and be a rock.... but remind yourself who she fell for in the first place, and what made her so attracted....you - and the way you were when you first met. Do yourself and your SO a favour and don't change just because you're in relationship.
Sex.... don't always jump at it. A little bit of self control here goes a long way. Take your time and just enjoy the kissing and feeling, and let her lead the way for once. You'll know you've surrendered the lead to her when she's the one pulling your shirt off, and tugging at your pants.
On that same note, read my thread on going down on your girl. She will appreciate your willingness to please her like you would never believe, because oral is a two way street, trust me. If you've ever wondered why your girl is so reluctant to go down on you, or doesn't make a good effort at it....ask yourself when was the last time you did for her, and actually tried your honest best to please her (flickingg your tongue, or jamming your fingers in doesn't count lolol).
Limit your time with your SO. Less IS more. I'm not saying to brush her off, or purposely cut down time spent with her...what I'm talking about is having your own life. If you are busy, then it is what it is. Don't overcomplicate your life by trying to jam in time with your SO ALL the time. Even though you two are together, you both live separate lives. You need to have time to miss each other, and to truly appreciate the time you spend together. Let her know you dedicate all your free time to her - but remind yourself that is not the same as 'every waking moment'. You still need to live your own life.
If you love her, tell her that! You should probably also explain to her that you are not 'in love' with her (because honestly unless you're like 40yrs old, you're not gonna know what true love is) but you can still let her know how much you love her. |