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Old 09-25-2009, 12:53 AM   #26
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i dont think age difference is a problem (22-26 in my case) but it all comes down to the mentality both people have and where you both are in your lives.

if you were my brother, i wouldn't suggest you going out with a high schooler soley because the both of you are basically in 2 seperate stages in your lives right now. people can say "some girls mature really well" or whatever but what kind of problems/issues would they have to deal with at their age for their minds to fully develop that mentality to handle certain situations vs things you might have to deal with? while you're figuring out how to portion out your finances for your expenses and taking on more responsibilities with your career/family/etc, she's thinking about her graduation dress and where she's going to apply for school next year.

she has SO much to learn in the next couple years that even if she is the way she is now..it doesn't mean it'll stay forever with all the growing up she's going to have to encounter. i can definitely say that i am different now than i was 5 years ago.

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Old 09-25-2009, 01:02 AM   #27
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i think it depends on the chick, the last one i dated who was in her 2nd year of university was a materialistic immature nightmare.

whereas another girl that i dated (a little younger than the one above) was way more mature and great to be around.

but ya miss crayon's right... hs vs university is a different stage in life. Then again... some people in university have about as much direction as someone in hs... so who knows.
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Old 09-25-2009, 09:25 AM   #28
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Old 09-25-2009, 01:33 PM   #29
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This is the problem OP , stop thinking. Who cares if in the end it works out or not. Every person we date, meet, build friendships with teaches us more about ourselves. My rule has always been unless the other person is in a relationship then just do it. Yes you may find out it doesn't work because of age difference, or it may work. The only way you'll know is by jumping in with both feet. Stop analyzing something that is simple. Are you intrested in her ? if yes then ask her out.
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This is the problem OP , stop thinking. Who cares if in the end it works out or not. Every person we date, meet, build friendships with teaches us more about ourselves. My rule has always been unless the other person is in a relationship then just do it. Yes you may find out it doesn't work because of age difference, or it may work. The only way you'll know is by jumping in with both feet. Stop analyzing something that is simple. Are you intrested in her ? if yes then ask her out.

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Old 09-25-2009, 03:56 PM   #32
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Hey when R Kelly married Aaliyah he was 27 and she was 15....and he turned out great.....

I say you go for it!
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Old 09-27-2009, 07:13 PM   #33
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Old 09-27-2009, 11:54 PM   #34
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She is not 19 yet!!
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Old 09-28-2009, 12:30 AM   #35
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haha reminds me of me and one of my exes except I was 16 and she was 23. Good times haha

Back on topic I guess really in the end if you really have strong feelings then go for it. However, if I was 24,23, or my age now 27 I would not want to go out with a 17 or 18 year old regardless of how mature they are. God damn it at least be legal and be 19 please. Being out and about and being IDed and her not having one is wack and annoying.
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Old 09-28-2009, 11:13 AM   #36
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sure I'd do it.

why not?
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Old 09-28-2009, 12:39 PM   #37
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I'll re-iterate what some have already said. Age is just a number. However, It all comes down to maturity level. You're 24 and at a different point in your life than she, at 17, most likely is. She probably hasn't even experienced the clubbing lifestyle and you're probably over and done with it. It's a different story had you asked, when you were 35 and she was 28, then most people would say, go for it. It's not her fault, but she's still experiencing life at a different level, so just be prepared that it may not last. Of course, I'm generalizing due to the age. I have known girls who are extremely mature even at 18yrs of age... It also depends on how they were raised by their parents and the environment they were brought up in. In this case, only you could really tell.
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Old 09-28-2009, 12:43 PM   #38
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I'm just wondering what brought this question up for the OP.

Are you pondering this because of a lack of suitors and that 17 yr old is the only one available? Or is it because that out of all your suitors of varying ages, that 17 yr old is the best one?
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its going to be like any relationship. its going to start out beautiful and end up ugly.

that's the way it is and always has been.
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Old 09-28-2009, 08:26 PM   #40
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You have to wait a year before anal! XD!!!

No but in all seriousness 24 - 17 isn't too bad, I'm grade 12 too, and a few of my female friends date around 20-22, it's not uncommon

Are you already with her, or just wondering whether it'd be fine?
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Old 09-28-2009, 10:24 PM   #41
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At least she isn't 12.
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Thx for all the replies.

She is the only one I'm currently in crush with, so to answer one of the replies, no I'm not directing my attention to any other girls at the moment. And we're not together yet, if we were, I'd be in a much better position to judge about this situation. I don't wanna start asking her out then suddenly change my mind, i don't think it'd be a good idea.
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Old 09-29-2009, 10:49 AM   #43
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^i don't even understand what you're trying to say...
btw, you're in your head too much. if she doesn't cross the line on the hot-crazy scale, i don't see a problem.
oh and yes, start "directing attention" towards other girls as well. no one likes the clingy guy.
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Old 09-30-2009, 01:15 AM   #44
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I personally think that's fucking gross.
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I say go for it. Who cares what everyone else says?
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Age IS just a number but when ur in your mid teens relationships mean way more than they should to u. Obviously there's going to be drama on her end... all those who say otherwise are probably 16/17 themselves n think they're in control of their hormones n shit.

Unless you're extremely immature / she is extremely mature, what could you guys have in common? What does she do for u that any other girl ur own age/maturity couldn't? I think age is a big deal early on in ur life. At age 24, you should be in a seriously different place than someone who is 17.

Also consider that you could be seriously fucking up family dynamics for her and causing more trouble than the relationship is worth. If I were her parents I'd have a serious problem with a guy having that much influence on my daughter.

A lot of guy friends say that young girls are easy to please n the simple fact that you're older than them is reason enough for them to worship u. This is harsh but don't you have enough going for you to stop playing in the minor leagues (ie highschool).
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Old 11-18-2009, 12:32 PM   #47
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She's 17.... That means she is in grade 11 or just started grade 12. Grade 12s are typically 18 years old. That is why most first years can't even drink because they aren't 19.



I didn't know Celine Dion is a dude.

And to the OP, don't do it. If it was meant to be, wait it out a little bit and let her mature first. 17 year olds bring drama that you'll think is retardedly irrelevant to life but is the HUGEST issue to her.

I say wait till she graduates from HS. And even then, wait like a year or half a year.
That Celine Dion comment is ROFL. That was funny.
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I personally think that's fucking gross.

You avatar picture is fucking gross.
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