What would you say to your Dad if he wrote you this?
 

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just an update if any cares...

I replied to his email. Telling him everything is good.
after he got off work we went to Nancy's Restaurant to pick up some dinner.
Brought it home and watched the Canucks game.

Everything is good. I guess I was just over analyzing it...

Thanks again for all the replies. and I did get a good laugh reading some of the replies!

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Yesterday.

I came home and I started to ask questions about why my dad parked his car where he parked it... he parked it in neighbor A's spot when we clearly had space in front of our house to park.

The only reason I asked was because my family always bitches when Neighbor B parks in our spot.. (Neighbor A is to the left of my house, Neighbor B is to the right of my house. Neighbor A never parks in front of our house and Neighbor B occasionally parks in front of our house)

So I was just questioning his decision. And then my sister started to argue and then I started to argue with her. And then all of a sudden my Dad flipped out. He started Screaming at me telling me to shut up and asking why I keep arguing and why I need to come home and start causing problems...

I didn't say anything back to him. I just let him yell at me.. I was going to argue back with him but realized that wasn't the best idea. Sometimes you just gotta shut your mouth.

ANYWAYYYYYYYYS,

I get an email from him today...

"Hi son son

I sincerely apologise for yelling at you yesterday ; I have no right to talk to you like that

I love you lots

Dad"

Am I supposed to reply back with something or would it be better to just talk to him about it when he gets home. I feel like such a pussy because i'm afraid to talk to him about it? Usually when we fight, after a couple days it just blows over and everything is back to normal... So I feel like a retard because it's just an email but I feel fake? like if I reply back with, "Hey dad, Yeah i'm sorry too it's okay no big deal.. i love you too" kinda thing

Any input?

TIA

Just let it blow over. Your dad is sorry, and you know he's sorry. As a guy, it's your responsibility to do nothing about it, since the case is basically closed.




...If you really want to, you can hug it out like bitches.

let it blow over, buy a case of beer and sit down enjoy the Canucks game with him tonight

+1 to beer with dad.

I wouldn't even worry about it, he apologized just tell him apology accepted and move on. My dad yells at me for more petty stuff on a regular basis and he pretty much never apologizes. My dad will throw shit, scream at the top of his lungs, if I try and rebut anything he says or explain something he just talks over me saying "whatever, whatever, whatever get the fuck out of here".

I'm older now and I'm used to it, he's a raging spaz, always has been always will be. I just ignore him, don't argue and leave the room. My dad has never been wrong in his life and I mean EVER! Just ask him.

"I love you lots"........ wow, my father never said anything remotely close to that to me. It's an old Asian thing. I wouldn't know how to react to that, in all honesty. Consider yourself lucky that pops cares that much about you.

Yeah, fathers tend to lose it sometimes. My father did that a lot and I find myself in the same boat with my kids.

Anyway, your dad chose that method of communicating with you, you reply back the same way and then follow it up with a face to face. Tell him your true feelings. You respect him still, right?

BTW, are you Asain? Maybe younger generation is different..................

steak and bj... wait.

seriously tho, just let it blow over, or discuss it with him that way you can both have that teary eyed family moment

Sorry to hear this, but thanks for sharing. It's pretty funny. Got any more?

I can imagine myself turning into the above if I stopped caring enough about people's feelings.

BTW, I hope he doesn't talk to kids like that.

if you feel you have to reply to his email because you're leaving him hanging, just reply back with "no worries dad, sall good" cmon let's not overthink this right?

have a few beers or something, but you're a lucky fuck, really. i can't even remember the last time my dad said he loved me.

^ yea I am in the same boat. My dad said it once to me like 6 years ago or something. It was the only time I ever heard him say it. I was like a deer in the headlights. ewww haha fuck so awkward.

I always thought that was kinda weird, but I guess not since most of you guys are saying the same thing.

My parents have NEVER said that to me before. LOL. but they are pretty awesome. Dad has a short fuse but gets over everything in a matter of minutes.

We would have the hugest argument and a couple minutes later, we talk as if nothing ever happeend.

I love you, son..........

I think I could get to the "I" part and that would be it. Change the subject quickly.


I have, in the past, brought myself to say, "I'm proud of you" to my kids. The first time I said it, it came out wrong, but I got used to saying it more and more.

Interesting, this thread. Why is it, fathers can't say those words? Is it because it is not a manly thing to do? It is extremely awkward, like mentioned by lol.

my dad blows up over nothing and holds grudges....when you tick him off he brings old grudges back.

just be glad your dad didn't do that!

In fact, if I said, "I love you, son" to one of my two sons, they would like think I was on crack or hung out with Vansterdam.

^My mom does that.

I don't care how manly you think you are, your mom will always be able to bring you down and break you. Very few things in this world can make me cry, but I'm sure my mom can whip out the wildcard she has in her pocket whenever she wants and make me feel like i'm 6 years old again.

this is how guys make up:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ZvarRe-XVQ

seriously though, i'd just reply to the email like you said and leave it at that

Amen to that. Moms are very powerful. Dads can beat the crap out of you, but moms can drive a stake right through your heart in an instant with just words.

I've learned from it, I'm totally different with my son. My dad is a different breed, I haven't lived with him in a long time but I work with him so I see him almost everyday.

I'll never forget a couple years ago when our job superintendent witnessed one of these blowups. I talked to him a couple days later and he told me that he was sorry for the way my father treated me, he said it bugged him so much he couldn't sleep that night. I told him I'm used to don't even worry about it as I don't take it personal anymore. I should video tape a blowup because you have to see it to believe it. They're totally not rational and he loses total control.
Absolutely, my dad is almost 60 and he'd still knock my ass out.

Wow, sounds like your dad has some issues. I get pissed off at my kids, but I let it go after the initial wtf. Plus, I wouldn't lose it in front of other people. There's nothing worse than witnessing other people's domestic quarrels.


On a side note. My son mentioned in passing that he was on RS. Shit, here's my chance. I love you, son. There, I did it, Bob Sagget!

RS, more than meets the eye - bringing families together since 1995.

^ love you too, dad.

LOL.

yep, i'm full Chinese (Mandarin)


Yeah, you guys are right. I guess i'm just over thinking this.
Thanks for the reply's guys!
I'll just reply back with an email and then clean the house...

huh. my parents have never said the word in any way shape or form and honestly i'd rather them keep it that way. 'i'm proud of you' does it for me haha

hahah sig'd

rs parenting 101...

when he comes home, why don't you give him a big hug and tell him you love him too you big pussy!
haha jokes aside,

don't do anything