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Old 01-27-2010, 12:37 AM   #1
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friendship boundaries

I have a pretty close friend (girl) who recently admitted to liking me. (I'm a guy). It's a pretty big shock to me as I've always seen her strictly as a friend and assumed she did too. We don't have intimate moments nor flirt, ever. I can list a ton of things that are signs of being in the friendzone.

I talk to her quite often and she's like a sister to me. but ever since she admitted to liking me... conversation is pretty akward. its always me now that intiates conversation and I try to make it seem like we're still friends.

is this possible? or should i stop talking to her... its like losing a friend kinda sucks.

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Old 01-27-2010, 12:59 AM   #2
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If you want to keep her as a friend, its probably best to tell her straight up what you think about the situation. Better off telling her how you feel about her so she doesn't get mixed signals from you but at the same time you'll be able to maintain the friendship.
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Old 01-27-2010, 02:09 AM   #3
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props to OP putting a girl in friendzone
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Old 01-27-2010, 08:17 AM   #4
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yeah you need to let her know straight up. Don't lead her on.
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I have a pretty close friend (girl) who recently admitted to liking me. (I'm a guy). It's a pretty big shock to me as I've always seen her strictly as a friend and assumed she did too. We don't have intimate moments nor flirt, ever. I can list a ton of things that are signs of being in the friendzone.

I talk to her quite often and she's like a sister to me. but ever since she admitted to liking me... conversation is pretty akward. its always me now that intiates conversation and I try to make it seem like we're still friends.

is this possible? or should i stop talking to her... its like losing a friend kinda sucks.
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If you want to keep her as a friend, its probably best to tell her straight up what you think about the situation. Better off telling her how you feel about her so she doesn't get mixed signals from you but at the same time you'll be able to maintain the friendship.
The next important question is: how DO you feel ABOUT HER??

It's great to tell her how you're feeling about the situation - ie. confused - but before you tell her how you feel about her, you should be clear on what those feelings are. At the very least, be fair to her, tell her the situation has caught you a little off-guard, and you need to sort out your feelings for her... unless you know for sure that you'll only ever see her as a friend.

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I would think giving it some time would probably be good. Granted, you need to tell her straight up that you don't feel that way about her first.

It's happened to me once, and it's a real shitty feeling.
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Old 01-27-2010, 04:30 PM   #10
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The next important question is: how DO you feel ABOUT HER??

It's great to tell her how you're feeling about the situation - ie. confused - but before you tell her how you feel about her, you should be clear on what those feelings are. At the very least, be fair to her, tell her the situation has caught you a little off-guard, and you need to sort out your feelings for her... unless you know for sure that you'll only ever see her as a friend.

BTW, obligatory RS comment: need pics of the girl
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or think of the time when a girl friend zoned you? How did you feel and what could have made it better when you received this news.
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Old 01-27-2010, 05:21 PM   #11
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Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who couldn't give up on them.


Make the effort and take the risk..

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Old 01-27-2010, 09:35 PM   #12
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what boundary, friends have no boundaries dude
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you may not have to directly tell her your feelings but hint on it when you talk to her

"hey friend, whats up?" .. sneaking in the word "friend" whenever you can .. she should get the hint without you leading her on and directly speaking to her on your feelings. the "talk" you two have most likely will make things super akward and she'll withdrawl from you for awhile.

mind u .. with the above suggestion you keep talking to her with no misleadings
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and don't get into a relationship out of pity/wanting to try things out, that really fucks shit up

unless you felt that way beforehand
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If you do not have any feelings for her then you should definitely try to patch your friendship up with her.

If you do have feelings for her then try to pursue it but do not make it look like you are pitying her.

Remember, friendships are forever but relationships are temporary.

Good Luck!

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sounds like you may have some feelings for her too.
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if u like her go for it. if not, friendzone her, the friendship has already been lost, there's nothing to salvage.
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unless u cant see yourself being with her, give it a go
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Whatever you do, please don't lead other people on. It feels really shitty once the other party finds out.
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