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01-26-2010, 11:37 PM
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I have a pretty close friend (girl) who recently admitted to liking me. (I'm a guy). It's a pretty big shock to me as I've always seen her strictly as a friend and assumed she did too. We don't have intimate moments nor flirt, ever. I can list a ton of things that are signs of being in the friendzone.
I talk to her quite often and she's like a sister to me. but ever since she admitted to liking me... conversation is pretty akward. its always me now that intiates conversation and I try to make it seem like we're still friends.
is this possible? or should i stop talking to her... its like losing a friend kinda sucks.
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01-26-2010, 11:59 PM
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If you want to keep her as a friend, its probably best to tell her straight up what you think about the situation. Better off telling her how you feel about her so she doesn't get mixed signals from you but at the same time you'll be able to maintain the friendship.
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01-27-2010, 01:09 AM
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props to OP putting a girl in friendzone
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01-27-2010, 07:17 AM
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yeah you need to let her know straight up. Don't lead her on.
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01-27-2010, 10:28 AM
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Tell her ASAP
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01-27-2010, 10:49 AM
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Originally Posted by 6chr0nic4 I have a pretty close friend (girl) who recently admitted to liking me. (I'm a guy). It's a pretty big shock to me as I've always seen her strictly as a friend and assumed she did too. We don't have intimate moments nor flirt, ever. I can list a ton of things that are signs of being in the friendzone.
I talk to her quite often and she's like a sister to me. but ever since she admitted to liking me... conversation is pretty akward. its always me now that intiates conversation and I try to make it seem like we're still friends.
is this possible? or should i stop talking to her... its like losing a friend kinda sucks. | Quote:
Originally Posted by The_AK If you want to keep her as a friend, its probably best to tell her straight up what you think about the situation. Better off telling her how you feel about her so she doesn't get mixed signals from you but at the same time you'll be able to maintain the friendship. | The next important question is: how DO you feel ABOUT HER??
It's great to tell her how you're feeling about the situation - ie. confused - but before you tell her how you feel about her, you should be clear on what those feelings are. At the very least, be fair to her, tell her the situation has caught you a little off-guard, and you need to sort out your feelings for her... unless you know for sure that you'll only ever see her as a friend.
BTW, obligatory RS comment: need pics of the girl 
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01-27-2010, 11:13 AM
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01-27-2010, 01:32 PM
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#8 | | DOES HE LOOK LIKE A BITCH?
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I would think giving it some time would probably be good. Granted, you need to tell her straight up that you don't feel that way about her first.
It's happened to me once, and it's a real shitty feeling.
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01-27-2010, 01:48 PM
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friendzone!!
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01-27-2010, 03:30 PM
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#10 | | Ask me about how I answered the question "How fat is TOO fat?"
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Originally Posted by Soundy The next important question is: how DO you feel ABOUT HER??
It's great to tell her how you're feeling about the situation - ie. confused - but before you tell her how you feel about her, you should be clear on what those feelings are. At the very least, be fair to her, tell her the situation has caught you a little off-guard, and you need to sort out your feelings for her... unless you know for sure that you'll only ever see her as a friend.
BTW, obligatory RS comment: need pics of the girl | +1
or think of the time when a girl friend zoned you? How did you feel and what could have made it better when you received this news.
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01-27-2010, 04:21 PM
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01-27-2010, 08:35 PM
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It's only awkward if you make it awkward.
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01-27-2010, 08:38 PM
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what boundary, friends have no boundaries dude
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01-27-2010, 09:09 PM
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you may not have to directly tell her your feelings but hint on it when you talk to her
"hey friend, whats up?" .. sneaking in the word "friend" whenever you can .. she should get the hint without you leading her on and directly speaking to her on your feelings. the "talk" you two have most likely will make things super akward and she'll withdrawl from you for awhile.
mind u .. with the above suggestion you keep talking to her with no misleadings
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01-28-2010, 10:43 AM
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Originally Posted by Mr.Campo It's only awkward if you make it awkward. | QFT
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01-28-2010, 10:44 AM
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#16 | | DOES HE LOOK LIKE A BITCH?
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and don't get into a relationship out of pity/wanting to try things out, that really fucks shit up
unless you felt that way beforehand
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02-01-2010, 07:44 PM
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If you do not have any feelings for her then you should definitely try to patch your friendship up with her.
If you do have feelings for her then try to pursue it but do not make it look like you are pitying her.
Remember, friendships are forever but relationships are temporary.
Good Luck!
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02-01-2010, 09:17 PM
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sounds like you may have some feelings for her too.
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02-02-2010, 03:54 PM
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if u like her go for it. if not, friendzone her, the friendship has already been lost, there's nothing to salvage.
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02-02-2010, 03:58 PM
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^pretty much.
unless u cant see yourself being with her, give it a go
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02-02-2010, 04:08 PM
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Whatever you do, please don't lead other people on. It feels really shitty once the other party finds out.
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