opportunity > love.
if your love, touchwood, fails in 4 years.
i guarantee you will REGRET.

you were 16 when you got with her

makes me think that its Oneitis

you think this girl is the perfect one cause you have very little to compare her too

you said it yourself the 3 before her were nothing serious

the 1st serious relationship always feels special especially if its the 1st serious relationship for the both of ya.

I'm not saying this girl isn't the one... I'm just saying the hard decisions in life I believe are better made with your head and not your heart.

whats to stop her from finishing her 1st year and then transferring to a TO university for her 2nd year? lots of universities will carry the credits over i would think.

I am thanking you for this

if she truely loves you, she will move with you after she's done with her 2 years of sch regardless the temperature and what not. what you're doing now, it's for a better future right? If she's planning to have a future with you, she'll do whatever it takes to be with you

atleast, i know i will.

I wouldnt even give up UBC for SFU for my girlfriend at the time of highschool grad:haha:

^lol in that case..it's kinda different..

you guys are both in vancouver still

I wish this was my dilemma.

You spent all this time and effort towards your goal and now you have THE chance to finis it off. Don't let "love" get in the way of your dreams because even though your gf may seem like your world right now, your career is what you have at the end of the day

pm sent.

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even if it seems like she is the world to you now, you honestly cannot say you know for 100% certain she is as committed to you as you are to her

so do NOT settle for less in your career or dream...for someone who may not ultimately settle with you.

ouch... its a pretty gay situation u have on hand

if i were u i'd want to stay with the gf, but i know in the end even if i dont want to i'd go to toronto. your future career is more important. what makes you think if you stay here with your gf that you two are gonna stay together forever? if theres a day after u chose to stay in vancouver that your gf dumps you, you will feel like the shittiest guy in the world. rmb, if it was meant to be, you two will stay together, or even reunite, after your study abroad.

school. wait.. no. i would seriously say follow your dreams. But for me i'm the type that favors career, my own future, and my own personal growth over a relationship. just like oniyou says, are u sure you two will be together forever? I just know that relationships, no matter how stable it may seem chances are it will turn south, and also if you to truly love each other 4 years won't be a problem. My best friends parents got married after a 7 year long distance relationship, i know that's very rare but I'm just saying it happens. If you two are in love long distance might work out. And also from what u say moving out is bad? you should really try it again. My parents booted me out of my house and told me to study here in Vancouver when i was 17, i was like you completely a mama's boy ( maybe even worst i couldn't' do my own laundry =.=). But I knew it was for my own personal growth, and personal growth is important so moving out should be something good for u. Iono, i think following your dreams is key in life. relationships will come and go.

But if you know in your heart that for curtain, this girl is the one.. then iono the choice is all yours.

dont mean to be pessismistic but FIRST love means FIRST, as in FIRST of MANY

You've been together for 6.5 years. She can fucken wait.

just propose now, then go to school in TO...

tell her to move out there when she's done her degree, and then you're good

It's pretty simple. Go to TO, become a chiropracter. Because, in about that 4 years, she would be thanking you. Why you ask? Because you'll be bringing in the money. And in the end, it's about bringing in the money. Being a nurse is cool and all. But it's a lot of hard work and physical work also. Plus, I don't think you want to be a nurse for your life do you? There's not much flexibility in your working hours, etc.

Sometimes, you got to think about yourself. And it's pretty stupid that your gf wouldn't want to support you. But again, you guys are only 22. When you get older, you don't want to regret this opportunity.

SO DO IT!

I see the decision as pretty simple here, and some people have already mentioned this.

Go to Toronto in August. If she is in a two year program she will be done next April/May (2011). Then she can come to Toronto to join you if she really loves you. That is a maximum of 10 months apart.

If she says that she doesn't want to come to Toronto with you because she doesn't like the weather or some other bullshit excuse, then she really doesn't care about you, as you do for her. It's not like you are asking her to move to Nunavut.

$100k for Chiropracter program ..wow...

if you can afford 100k for 4 years program, i dont see why you cant spend $1000 every year on flight ??

OK...not to be a downer, but the part I bolded above somewhat concerns me. I know everyone says go with your dreams, and I would whole heartedly agree - but how you phrased it above makes me think you really haven't put much thought into what you want. Going to school to educate yourself for a job that is "cool" isn't exactly the best way of thinking about your potential future career. Not to mention, this decision is going to put you into a pretty deep hole financial wise and emotional wise. You should be going into this confident that this IS where you want to be for the next 40-50 years.

Sit down and REALLY think about this. Look into the course content, the career potential and most importantly whether you can see yourself doing this for the next 40-50 years. You have to give up a lot so make an informed decision. Don't do this because you think it's "cool" or because your parents expect you to. Do it because YOU want to do it.

If you do decide that being a chiropractor is your field, like others have mentioned, talk it out with your SO. There's going to have to be some compromise here if it's going to work out. If she refuses to budge, tell her to take a walk. You shouldn't have to settle for second best (if nursing was your backup plan). Women come and go. Your career is going to end up being with you for life and nobody can take that away from you.

just remember, she made you watch hockey alone.

Someone had to say it

take it from mean.. even 9 years means shit to a girl.. think about yourself first...

Live life with no regrets, if you go, good for you and good luck.

If you don't, don't look back and wonder why you didn't go TO. That usually leads to an unhealthy relationship and doesn't end up too well

lol..same dude??????????? :haha::haha: