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personally i would say for you to stay here and go into nursing- then eventually specializing in LPN or whatever you want, and still be in Van.
Like you said, job security is great for even a RN, so you dont have to worry there.
Whereas if you went to T.O for Chiro. school, there'd be conflicts with the GF and you feeling "sick to your stomach"- which could result in you doing poorly in school. And even if you broke up with the GF those issues would still be there.

So in my honest opinion, youre still very young, i know you want to complete Chiro. school while youre still young, but if theres so many things you say you cant give up, then just stick with nursing.
and plus you'd make more as a LPN in the long run. Chiro. you can only make good money if you started your own practice and dealt strictly with insurance claims.

my 0.02

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Originally Posted by raygunpk (Post 6843828)

just remember, she made you watch hockey alone.

He's the same guy!??! Oh good lord, go to TO. You'll thank us all later.

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Originally Posted by Greenstoner (Post 6843698)

$100k for Chiropracter program ..wow...

if you can afford 100k for 4 years program, i dont see why you cant spend $1000 every year on flight ??

Yeah, it's about $90k for the 4 year program and then about $15k each year for housing/expenses/food/books
Coming back at least once a year isn't a problem as I would probably do this already... I'm more concerned about the LD thing...

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Originally Posted by raygunpk (Post 6843828)

just remember, she made you watch hockey alone.

I actually lol'd when I read this.
I didn't end up watching it alone after all. A few other friends that didn't make it DT came over.. and the GF came over a little after the game was done.

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Originally Posted by syee (Post 6843756)

OK...not to be a downer, but the part I bolded above somewhat concerns me. I know everyone says go with your dreams, and I would whole heartedly agree - but how you phrased it above makes me think you really haven't put much thought into what you want. Going to school to educate yourself for a job that is "cool" isn't exactly the best way of thinking about your potential future career. Not to mention, this decision is going to put you into a pretty deep hole financial wise and emotional wise. You should be going into this confident that this IS where you want to be for the next 40-50 years.

Sit down and REALLY think about this. Look into the course content, the career potential and most importantly whether you can see yourself doing this for the next 40-50 years. You have to give up a lot so make an informed decision. Don't do this because you think it's "cool" or because your parents expect you to. Do it because YOU want to do it.

If you do decide that being a chiropractor is your field, like others have mentioned, talk it out with your SO. There's going to have to be some compromise here if it's going to work out. If she refuses to budge, tell her to take a walk. You shouldn't have to settle for second best (if nursing was your backup plan). Women come and go. Your career is going to end up being with you for life and nobody can take that away from you.

I want to be someone in life. I would like to be respected. And I would also like to be in the health rehab field..
I chose Chiro because it worked out for me in a way.. So, I know i'll be content with being a Chiropractor. And i'm sure i'll be happy with it.
I have a friend who just gradded as a Chiro and he loves it. So i've been talking to him a lot and he assures me that Chiro is a good field..
I guess saying I thought it would be cool was not the right thing to say, as I don't want to seem like I jumped into things here.

Thanks for your reply though.

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Originally Posted by kwanzor (Post 6843888)

take it from mean.. even 9 years means shit to a girl.. think about yourself first...

If you don't mind me asking... What happened?

btw...
is it arrogant for me to think that she loves me with all her heart and that if I chose to stay in vancouver she would definitely marry me?
we've talked about marriage and we seem like we're on the same path. I honestly think that we'd work out if I stayed in Vancouver.. But, I guess that shouldn't matter?

6.5 years, it's not like it's too early to marry her. I say go for it, then the long distance thing won't be as difficult. Since you're married, you know you have many years ahead of you, and a couple years away won't seem like that big of a deal. And like someone else said, when she is done her schooling she can join you in hell (I mean toronto)

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Originally Posted by raygunpk (Post 6843828)

just remember, she made you watch hockey alone.

Is it the same guy? Fuck, I wouldn't trust you with my back.

just know that nobody can ever take your education away, it will always be on your resume. but a girl, man even if you both love each other something could always happen...and then you're just a male nurse with a broken heart.

chiropractor her heart, straighten her up

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Originally Posted by raygunpk (Post 6843828)

just remember, she made you watch hockey alone.

LOL ! ! ! !

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Originally Posted by Greenstoner (Post 6844913)

chiropractor her heart, straighten her up

i see what you did there.

Like what most people have been saying in this thread, I say choose TO.

Choose T.O
If only I had 100K to go to a school, or even 50K to do my masters!
Propose to her and if she loves you, she would move out to T.O for 4 years (after she is done school). And after you are making the BLING, you guys can move anywhere. It's all about sacrafices.

Do whatever feels right.

As for money, I think a specialize nurse makes just as much if not more money than a chiropractor. My buddies sister makes 6 figures and she's only 30.

Do what is best for you, dont ever give up or sacrifice an education for a boyfriend or girlfriend
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^hmm...i dunno
the chiropractor i used to have charged me $40 per 30 min session...fed me all this stuff about how a bad spine will affect your health and everything
anyways, along with cracking backs he was also selling all this chiropractic-related merchandise, im sure it made him a lot of money. and on top of that, he'd usually have a couple clients (families) at a time per session
going into the chiropractic field will EASILY make over 6 figures, perhaps even 7 if you're able to rack up your connections of clients

if she can't do long distance, she doesnt love you.

TO isnt that fucking far, just fork out the money for a flight, you guys can take turns flying back and forth

god damnit it's still in the same god damn fucking country, stop whining.

it's not like you're in germany and she's here. that's long distance.

flights arent expensive, you guys can find a way.

Lol if this little thing is gona break you guys up, you guys arent meant for one another

^ Westjet and Air Canada have seat sales down to <$150 each way. With taxes and shit say $350 for a full trip from Toronto to Van, pretty cheap.

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Originally Posted by raygunpk (Post 6843828)

just remember, she made you watch hockey alone.

bwahahahahah:haha::haha::haha::haha:

i think you shud just leave her, i mean first the hockey game ditching u and all now this....if she isnt happy with your dreams then just leave her

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Originally Posted by raygunpk (Post 6843828)

just remember, she made you watch hockey alone.

LOOOOOOOLL

:haha::haha::haha:

well like Vinny Chase likes to say:
If its meant to be, its meant to be

ps. if she is not a Sloan or better, ditch her!!

I wasn't going to reply because most of the people here have had plenty of valuable advice but I do want to share a personal experience in the hope you will not make the same mistake as I did.

I can't stress to you enough how important it is that you take the offer to go to school in Toronto. Even if you're not 100% sure if you want to go into that field I need to tell you it is the single most important thing you will do in your life.

If you have the opportunity, take it. It will give you a great level of security for the rest of your life and even if you decide it is not what you want to do, at least you will not have the stresses of living in poverty.

I don't know you or your girlfriend but I've seen many girls leave long term relationships to be with men that fit the stereotypical profile of satisfying their needs. I great example would be a friend of mine who didn't go into dentistry to be with his girlfriend to get married. They recently got divorced when he found out she had been having an affair with...

... a dentist. She argued she was drawn to his prestige and the gifts weren't a bad thing either.

I'm not trying to paint a bad picture of women or even your girlfriend but if she leaves you, what will you have accomplished? You will have missed your chance for a prestigious career and be heartbroken.

I will tell you this much, it's easy to get a date when your personal life and you as a person are well positioned.

Love is a great emotion but if you let it be the controlling element of your life, you are going to be in for a life of possible hell.

Go to Toronto with no questions asked at all. Don't even think about it, just do it. Any big change in life is difficult and for most people, it's that change that makes us have doubts.

This is why break ups are so hard. It's that change of life without the control that drives us crazy. If you just do it and go in with a great attitude you will track me down and thank me in 4 years. I can promise you that.

Whatever you're feeling, whatever the situation, this is something you have to do without thinking. No doubt at all.

If this girl is so great and wonderful, then she will be proud and excited for you. I know if I was with someone who had that chance I would be excited.

Consider this as well. What if someone better came along? If you're making yourself better, would you really turn down a better looking, nicer, and more loving partner that you get along with more? Love is blind but your brain is smart. You know what to do. Oh, and tell your family ASAP so they can tell you what I just did.

^^^ Hopefully his gf isn't a dumb piece of shit cunt like your buddy's gf.

Love can wait. It is only a matter of understanding and trust. Maybe it just a test on you love to one another.

Ive been in that part even thou we are like so young with my gf we made it thou till now.

If she is worth to wait for ya.... go for it

You've been with her 6.5 years. You're 22 now. Means you've been together since 15 or 16. Go to the 4 year program out in TO. That will last you damn near a lifetime. A high school sweetheart might, it might not. You will be kicking yourself 3 years down the road if the two of you break up and you didn't go.

When I was young, I would have ditched school for my girl.

Now, in retrospect, I do everything I can to break idiots like me and convince them that they ahve to follow their own lives, and that the real woman of your dreams will be there with you in your own dreams.

Don't leave yours to be in hers--if she loves you, she can suck it up for a year in the T-dot. And if she hates it in Vancouver, where does she wanna go? US? Asia?

Will her or your certifications be valid there?

Suck it up and go get an education.