REVscene - Vancouver Automotive Forum


Welcome to the REVscene Automotive Forum forums.

Registration is Free!You are currently viewing our boards as a guest which gives you limited access to view most discussions and access our other features. By joining our free community you will have access to post topics, communicate privately with other members (PM), respond to polls, upload content and access many other special features. Registration is fast, simple and absolutely free so please, join our community today! The banners on the left side and below do not show for registered users!

If you have any problems with the registration process or your account login, please contact contact us.

Go Back   REVscene Automotive Forum > Vancouver LifeStyles (VLS) > Relationship & Gender Discussion

Relationship & Gender Discussion THIS SPACE OPEN FOR ADVERTISEMENT. YOU SHOULD BE ADVERTISING HERE!
The thin line between love and hate
Mature discussion about understanding the opposite sex...

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 11-07-2010, 12:05 AM   #1
RS controls my life!
 
xmisstrinh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Vancouver
Posts: 737
Thanked 287 Times in 111 Posts
Unaccepting parents

what would you do if your parents don't accept your bf/gf because they're a different colour than you?

__________________
Put this on your profile if you know someone who has died of
Cancer or whom maybe suffering from it.
----///-\\\----
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
----\\\-///----
-----\\///-----
------///\-----
-----///\\\----
----///--\\\---
xmisstrinh is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 12:45 AM   #2
My homepage has been set to RS
 
trancehead's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Vancouver
Posts: 2,362
Thanked 742 Times in 363 Posts
must be really traditional parents...who are ultra conservative.

If they are causing a shitstorm over your SO and they wont budge, you're going to have to make a decision whether or not the SO is worth the trouble. If I was really into the girl, i wouldnt care what my parents thought. But then again they are pretty liberal
__________________
Quote:

[23-07, 02:03] shawn79 i find that at vietnamese place they cut ur hair like they cut grass
[23-07, 02:03] shawn79 do u go to vietnamese places for haircuts
trancehead is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 03:46 AM   #3
I answer every Emotion with an emoticon
 
FerrariEnzo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: somewhere
Posts: 7,656
Thanked 2,352 Times in 949 Posts
Ask them if your the one dating that person or your parents?
i mean its not the 80's or earlier.. they need to grow up.. they live in a world with all kinds of people.

As long as your happy and your SO is happy, i dnt see whats wrong...
but i have seen many happy people break up coz is this problem..
__________________
My Buy&Sell Feedback, Thanx
FerrariEnzo is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 04:04 AM   #4
Hacked RS to become a mod
 
SkinnyPupp's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Sunny Hong Kong
Posts: 42,017
Thanked 17,634 Times in 5,341 Posts
Ask them why the fuck they moved to Canada if they only wanted their kids to socialize with one race?
SkinnyPupp is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 08:28 AM   #5
Diagonally parked in a parallel universe
 
TheNewGirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Coquitlam
Posts: 1,476
Thanked 521 Times in 263 Posts
It really would depends how important family is to the SO. If her family is important to her, it's going to cause her a lot of pain and suffering and eventually she may become resentful of you for being a wedge between you and them.

While usually I'm big on confronting racisim head on. This might not be the situation to do so.

Skinnypup > These cases don't always involve immigrants or first generation Canadians. Some people are just fucking ignorant.
__________________
~ Just another noob looking for a clue
TheNewGirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 10:07 AM   #6
reads most threads with his pants around his ankles, especially in the Forced Induction forum.
 
Mr.HappySilp's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: Vancouver
Posts: 9,541
Thanked 1,662 Times in 845 Posts
You are the one dating not your parents. If you live alone then this wouldn't be such an issue.

O and tell them this is Canada where all race is equal.
Mr.HappySilp is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 07:41 PM   #7
RS controls my life!
 
xmisstrinh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Vancouver
Posts: 737
Thanked 287 Times in 111 Posts
Quote:
Originally Posted by trancehead View Post
must be really traditional parents...who are ultra conservative.

If they are causing a shitstorm over your SO and they wont budge, you're going to have to make a decision whether or not the SO is worth the trouble. If I was really into the girl, i wouldnt care what my parents thought. But then again they are pretty liberal
Quote:
Originally Posted by FerrariEnzo View Post
Ask them if your the one dating that person or your parents?
i mean its not the 80's or earlier.. they need to grow up.. they live in a world with all kinds of people.

As long as your happy and your SO is happy, i dnt see whats wrong...
but i have seen many happy people break up coz is this problem..
Quote:
Originally Posted by SkinnyPupp View Post
Ask them why the fuck they moved to Canada if they only wanted their kids to socialize with one race?
Quote:
Originally Posted by TheNewGirl View Post
It really would depends how important family is to the SO. If her family is important to her, it's going to cause her a lot of pain and suffering and eventually she may become resentful of you for being a wedge between you and them.

While usually I'm big on confronting racisim head on. This might not be the situation to do so.

Skinnypup > These cases don't always involve immigrants or first generation Canadians. Some people are just fucking ignorant.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mr.HappySilp View Post
You are the one dating not your parents. If you live alone then this wouldn't be such an issue.

O and tell them this is Canada where all race is equal.
Thanks, everyone, for your input. Its the whole saving face for the family, my mom knows that we're going out, though I haven't confirmed it with her yet, but whenever she gets the opportunity, it goes something like...

"don't go out with this race and don't go out with that race. when you walk out on the street with this race what do you think you look like? you're going to make yourself and our family the laughing stock" and etc, all in chinese.
__________________
Put this on your profile if you know someone who has died of
Cancer or whom maybe suffering from it.
----///-\\\----
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
----\\\-///----
-----\\///-----
------///\-----
-----///\\\----
----///--\\\---
xmisstrinh is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 09:04 PM   #8
I don't get it
 
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Richmond
Posts: 409
Thanked 79 Times in 33 Posts
it depends how old you are and how serious the relationship is
if you're in highschool and you're just fucking around, then it doesn't really matter what your parents say
but if ur planning on becoming more than just gf/bf then you might wanna consider how your parents will feel about their son/daughter in law.. cuz chinese parents can really hate on people lol
PUPPY is offline   Reply With Quote
This post thanked by:
Old 11-07-2010, 09:08 PM   #9
Hacked RS to become a mod
 
SkinnyPupp's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Sunny Hong Kong
Posts: 42,017
Thanked 17,634 Times in 5,341 Posts
No offense, but your mom sounds like a racist cunt.
SkinnyPupp is offline   Reply With Quote
This post thanked by:
Old 11-07-2010, 09:08 PM   #10
RS controls my life!
 
xmisstrinh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Vancouver
Posts: 737
Thanked 287 Times in 111 Posts
lol, i'm not in high school. i think our relationship is taking a turn for the serious- and theres my problem. my mother already hates him. and thats only based on the colour of his skin.
__________________
Put this on your profile if you know someone who has died of
Cancer or whom maybe suffering from it.
----///-\\\----
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
----\\\-///----
-----\\///-----
------///\-----
-----///\\\----
----///--\\\---
xmisstrinh is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 09:09 PM   #11
RS controls my life!
 
xmisstrinh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Vancouver
Posts: 737
Thanked 287 Times in 111 Posts
Quote:
Originally Posted by SkinnyPupp View Post
No offense, but your mom sounds like a racist cunt.
racist yes. calling my mother a cunt just offended me. please be nice =]
__________________
Put this on your profile if you know someone who has died of
Cancer or whom maybe suffering from it.
----///-\\\----
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
----\\\-///----
-----\\///-----
------///\-----
-----///\\\----
----///--\\\---
xmisstrinh is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 09:16 PM   #12
WOAH! i think Vtec just kicked in!
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: vancouver
Posts: 1,613
Thanked 220 Times in 60 Posts
Give your mother a real mouthful about being embarresing and that she doesn't deserve grandchildren until she accepts that love holds no criteria. I don't want to generalize, but is your mother one of those people who are against gay's and lesbians?
rslater is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 09:52 PM   #13
Everyone wants a piece of R S...
 
ImportXxX's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: vancouver
Posts: 387
Thanked 196 Times in 62 Posts
i think it's more harder on you cus you're a girl..for guys its totally different..my parents could care less...just give it time, they'll get use to it...once you're in a relationship for a long period of time..i'm pretty sure it'll be a little easier and more understanding on her part..
ImportXxX is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 10:42 PM   #14
reads most threads with his pants around his ankles, especially in the Forced Induction forum.
 
Mr.HappySilp's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: Vancouver
Posts: 9,541
Thanked 1,662 Times in 845 Posts
LOL tell your mom It is you who are dating the guy not her. She can do what she wants with her life.

Is your bf not hers.

O and tell your mom she have to accept the fact you are in Canada not China or HK. If she is so against a certain tell her to go a person in the race and tell it in their face in English and not behind their back.
Mr.HappySilp is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2010, 11:31 PM   #15
I answer every Emotion with an emoticon
 
FerrariEnzo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: somewhere
Posts: 7,656
Thanked 2,352 Times in 949 Posts
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mr.HappySilp View Post
You are the one dating not your parents. If you live alone then this wouldn't be such an issue.

O and tell them this is Canada where all race is equal.
it doesnt matter if your on your own or not, you would still get an ear full when you talk to your parents...




just out of curiousity, both parents or just your mother? if your dad is ok, try to approach your dad and comfort him that everything is ok... and hopefully he can talk to your mom...
__________________
My Buy&Sell Feedback, Thanx
FerrariEnzo is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-08-2010, 07:39 AM   #16
Willing to sell a family member for a few minutes on RS
 
hotjoint's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: Surrey
Posts: 12,668
Thanked 649 Times in 352 Posts
your parents should be happy that you're happy, end of story.
hotjoint is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-08-2010, 09:54 AM   #17
Diagonally parked in a parallel universe
 
TheNewGirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Coquitlam
Posts: 1,476
Thanked 521 Times in 263 Posts
Oh it's you?

Well then I give you the same advice I give gay and lesbian folks who's parents are bigots:

If you are indepentant of your parents financially and don't relay on them for anything that is nessesary for your survival (food, shelter, tuition) then tell them how it is and tell them they have exactly X number of months to get over it and if they still haven't by then they are choosing not to be involved in your life until they can. Be ready to do it.

If you are not independant of your parents, work on that first. Then lay down the law.
__________________
~ Just another noob looking for a clue
TheNewGirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-08-2010, 09:58 AM   #18
Rs has made me the woman i am today!
 
Jgresch's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Maple Ridge
Posts: 4,430
Thanked 3,279 Times in 823 Posts
tell your mom to register on RS so we can fail her.
Jgresch is offline   Reply With Quote
This post thanked by:
Old 11-08-2010, 10:46 AM   #19
Zombie Mod
 
Presto's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Langley
Posts: 9,268
Thanked 4,401 Times in 1,277 Posts
What's with people, and 'face'? Putting other people's opinion above the welfare of your family is selfish. Due to overcrowding, and other issues at my fiancee's place, we've decided we're going to elope in the next couple weeks. Her mom is all up in arms about what the family will think, and not even trying to understand my fiancee. Fuck 'face'.
__________________
Romans 10:9
Presto is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 11-08-2010, 12:36 PM   #20
RS Veteran
 
Conan O'Brien Sex Video's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2001
Location: .
Posts: 2,047
Thanked 25 Times in 19 Posts
xmisstrinh - i went/am going through the same thing. my parents were very racists and basically gave every sort of possibly steretypical comment they could think of. i found it very disappointing to hear those types of comments coming from my very own parents.

for me it's been over 2 years. they haven't met him yet but know he exists. based on my relationship with my parents growing up, i have no problems cutting them off/extreme distancing. it hasn't resorted to that yet, but it seems to be heading that route. i try to make an attempt to salvage the parent/daughter relationship but they don't seem to understand that it's a two way street.

if i wasn't living on my own i would've gone insane. and i'm not exaggerating!
Conan O'Brien Sex Video is offline   Reply With Quote
This post thanked by:
Old 11-08-2010, 02:28 PM   #21
RS has made me the bitter person i am today!
 
Dragon-88's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: Van/Bur
Posts: 4,771
Thanked 1,317 Times in 419 Posts
This is the 21st century.. If they dont understand then they should move back to their native country.
__________________
Cash Rules Everything Around Me!!!
My Buy/Sell Feedback Ratings

Current:
2001 Honda Odyssey (Toy Hauler/ bad weather DD)
2014 Honda Grom (Toy & Shenanigans)
Kayo MR125 Race Bike (MiniGP Racing)
1971 MG MGB Tourer (Budget Build/pleasure)

Past:
2009 Toyota Corolla CE (Donated to little sister)
2007 Honda Ruckus (Toy)
2007 Husqvarna SM610 SuperMoto (Wheelie Machine)
2001 Honda S2000 (Weekend/Track/AutoX)
Dragon-88 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-08-2010, 05:13 PM   #22
RS controls my life!
 
xmisstrinh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Vancouver
Posts: 737
Thanked 287 Times in 111 Posts
Quote:
Originally Posted by FerrariEnzo View Post
it doesnt matter if your on your own or not, you would still get an ear full when you talk to your parents...




just out of curiousity, both parents or just your mother? if your dad is ok, try to approach your dad and comfort him that everything is ok... and hopefully he can talk to your mom...
my dad has strong hate towards this race because they screwed him over in his business once. now he generalizes them all in one category. i'm more scared of talking to my dad about this than my mom. lol
__________________
Put this on your profile if you know someone who has died of
Cancer or whom maybe suffering from it.
----///-\\\----
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
----\\\-///----
-----\\///-----
------///\-----
-----///\\\----
----///--\\\---
xmisstrinh is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-08-2010, 05:18 PM   #23
RS controls my life!
 
xmisstrinh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: Vancouver
Posts: 737
Thanked 287 Times in 111 Posts
Quote:
Originally Posted by Conan O'Brien Sex Video View Post
xmisstrinh - i went/am going through the same thing. my parents were very racists and basically gave every sort of possibly steretypical comment they could think of. i found it very disappointing to hear those types of comments coming from my very own parents.

for me it's been over 2 years. they haven't met him yet but know he exists. based on my relationship with my parents growing up, i have no problems cutting them off/extreme distancing. it hasn't resorted to that yet, but it seems to be heading that route. i try to make an attempt to salvage the parent/daughter relationship but they don't seem to understand that it's a two way street.

if i wasn't living on my own i would've gone insane. and i'm not exaggerating!
wow, thank you for your comment. its been a year and a bit, and the same with you, they know he exists but has never met him and yet harbour extreme hate. difference is, i live under their roof and live on their belongings. don't you just wish that the fairy god mother can come to the rescue right now?


good luck with your situation and i'll continue to absorb advice and find a way to work mine out =]
__________________
Put this on your profile if you know someone who has died of
Cancer or whom maybe suffering from it.
----///-\\\----
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
---|||---|||---
----\\\-///----
-----\\///-----
------///\-----
-----///\\\----
----///--\\\---
xmisstrinh is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-10-2010, 07:39 PM   #24
HELP ME PLS!!!
 
6793026's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: BC, HK, USA
Posts: 5,732
Thanked 1,392 Times in 503 Posts
first of all, your family will continue to say shit, deal with it.

and wtf is with the moving back to the country, i guess us Canadians should move away since the natives were here first.

Some people still have deep passion in hating people, chinese people are chinks, brown people are this and that, japanese people are losers for invading China etc. these goes way back and we have to be really understanding it's something you might think it's nothing (since we are so multicultural here) but it still happens in different parts of town.

What if the OP was WHITE and the person they're seeing was CHINESE, what would you have to say? what would you say>
__________________
Arguing on the internet is like running in the SPECIAL OLYMPICS.

Even if you win, you're still retarded.
6793026 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-10-2010, 07:58 PM   #25
reads most threads with his pants around his ankles, especially in the Forced Induction forum.
 
Mr.HappySilp's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: Vancouver
Posts: 9,541
Thanked 1,662 Times in 845 Posts
^^ Same thing is the OP that's dating the guy not her parents. O and Japanese are not losers for invading for china. They actually have a pretty good plan when the invade China. If only Chinese stop fighting themselves they could easily invade the world at that time lol.
Mr.HappySilp is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 08:17 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
SEO by vBSEO ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.
Revscene.net cannot be held accountable for the actions of its members nor does the opinions of the members represent that of Revscene.net