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Old 04-03-2011, 03:33 PM   #26
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That's such a bad excuse lol

One of my best friends is like 5'8-5'9. Funniest dude i've ever met. Dates the hottest girls. He's not rich and he's not poor.
Don't get me wrong - I've dated some attractive women in my day. But, if you want to stand out, height is a huge asset (especially if you hang out in place where Asians tend not to hang out.)

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I find that unlikely. Unless you are blaming small peeeenis being attributed to your height.
Let's be serious here. Penis size probably does have to do with how successful you are at keeping a girl, but it doesn't get you noticed. My point was that, if all things are generally equal (profession, confidence, etc.), it helps to have physical attributes.


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Old 04-03-2011, 03:40 PM   #27
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Don't get me wrong - I've dated some attractive women in my day. But, if you want to stand out, height is a huge asset (especially if you hang out in place where Asians tend not to hang out.)



Let's be serious here. Penis size probably does have to do with how successful you are at keeping a girl, but it doesn't get you noticed. My point was that, if all things are generally equal (profession, confidence, etc.), it helps to have physical attributes.
It may give you an edge... but it won't help you "maintain" a relationship... It is a fact taht women tend to care less about physical appearances of males especially as they mature and want to start a family... Being 5'10 is among the taller side of Asian males.. so I don't think that is an issue at all, especially if you are going for asian females who on average are probably 5'3 5'4.

There are always exceptions, but it is all about what kind of girl/guy you are trying to attract. It could be just "chance" you are single, or in a relationship. I know it is about 50 50 split in regards to people being "happy" with their situation. the grass is always greener on the other side. I know some ppl who love being in their relationship, while others wish they were single.

And unless you have a particularly small wang, I don't think it has anything to whether you can keep a girl.. I am sure most girls can attest to choosing a guy with an average penis that knows how to use it and satisfy her, than king kong with a 10 inch cock that has to hold back full crushing her guts (literally), and just pounds for 5 mins and is done.
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Old 04-03-2011, 07:14 PM   #30
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for the girls that have flaws... those are the same girls that probably go out with liu and put up with his kinda shit... compromising isn't "settling"
=D i'm blessed with a great face, and i have a childish joie de vivre

and compromising is settling, different words same definition, why settle when you can cheat?

a good sense of humor and the ability to perform in bed are probably the two most important things in a relationship, if u can make her cum hard, she wont be going anywhere
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=D i'm blessed with a great face, and i have a childish joie de vivre

and compromising is settling, different words same definition, why settle when you can cheat?

a good sense of humor and the ability to perform in bed are probably the two most important things in a relationship, if u can make her cum hard, she wont be going anywhere
Settling in a relationship, imo, means you are giving into something because you don't think you can do better.. My definition of compromise isn't in relation to the actual relationship/girl, but certain events within the relationship. When I go into a relationship I don't expect to be able to live like a bachelor. There are realisitic expectations I know the girl will want out of me, that for the most part, I would not do if I was single. And I do not have a problem with that. It is a sacrifice I am willing to take.

That is probably why you are single, which isn't a bad thing, but someone with your current mindset shouldn't be in a relationship.

Again, any girl with a decent head on their shoulder's wouldn't give up what they want in a guy, for someone like you who can just make them cum. You are the guy that girls "settle" for when they can't find their ideal man.
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but why play a role just to maintain a relationship, eventually you become a slave and live out this role to be with that person, if she's your dreamgirl she would let you live the bachelor life so long you are not self destructing your own life

and i'm not single, i have 2 girlfriends that actually know of each others existence, i do as i please and they do likewise, our personalities dont conflict and no one gets jealous

any person with a decent head on their shoulder doesnt have an ego, they are willing to live and let live, i'm not going to make a change for anyone that isnt one of my parents

dont hate the player hate the game, there is no rulebook on a perfect relationship or plural in my case
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but why play a role just to maintain a relationship, eventually you become a slave and live out this role to be with that person, if she's your dreamgirl she would let you live the bachelor life so long you are not self destructing your own life

and i'm not single, i have 2 girlfriends that actually know of each others existence, i do as i please and they do likewise, our personalities dont conflict and no one gets jealous

any person with a decent head on their shoulder doesnt have an ego, they are willing to live and let live, i'm not going to make a change for anyone that isnt one of my parents

dont hate the player hate the game, there is no rulebook on a perfect relationship or plural in my case
i respect your life decisions and if you are happy so be it, but by the same token, just because people happily compromise in relationships, does not mean you can say that they should live like you do.

For me, at the end of the day, I want to have kids and be married with a woman I love and have an exclusive relationship with. I don't find an open relationship satisfying nor do I like the thought of having a gf that goes off and does whoever she wants even though she comes home to me. If I wanted to sleep with random girls, or have booty calls, I would.. just not while I have made a commitment to my girlfriend. To each their own.

The thing is, I would never be in a relationship with a girl that prevented me from doing things that I love, or stressed me out. I think it is too common that we have been in situations or know of friends who are whipped and stop having fun with the guys and have the girl attached to them like a siamese twin. If that is how you view relationships, then I understand why you are so anti relationship. That isn't a healthy way to be in a relationsip, imo.

My gf let's me do as I wish, trusting my judgements won't be idiotic. My life has not changed drastically from when I was single. I still see my buddies 1-2 times a week. I played hockey another 1-2 times a week. I go out as I please and she does not call me even once while I am out with my buddies. I tell her where I am going and that is that. Out of respect I will tell her what time I expect to be home because we live with each other. She doesn't creep on my phone, fb, email, or any personal belongings.. She is independent, and goes out with her friends, which are a mix of guys and girls, and she is totally fine with me having female friends too.

So with all that said it shouldn't be black or white. SIngle and free, or Committed and locked down/miserable. Most people end up being locked down and tied up, and that's either the type of girl they attract, or the type they like, or the type they settle for.
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I have dated many girls, teens, women back in my days and yes I am still single. I am an equal opportunity employer and I dated a people with different backgrounds and mix; so I'm not a picky dater.
I'm a very logical person. If something is wrong, I make sure I apologize for the mistake and then change. Having said that, not everyone are as open as I am. I have had gfs playing the "oh.. it's nothing..." type games. I can't deal with that shit so I have had girls that I just dump on the sidewalks cause of that. Save your drama for ya mama.

I much rather stay single than date someone I'm not attracted to. I'm a social butterfly and I'm an extreme extrovert. I refuse to date someone that's not even an extrovert; it just wouldn't work if I was out at a corp function and all she does is stand at a corner playing angry birds on the phone. Oh, I don't ever date my friends either. They are all in the friend zone for a reason. Maybe that's why I'm single.
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No matter how hard I try, how close I have come, I'm still in the friendzone.
probably trying too hard.. and not changing your approach.. hahh or are you going for girls who aren't available.. I know a lot of guys do that.. They hop they can get the girl to break up with their bf.. only to be the guy on the side that the girl bitches about their bf to.. and gets free rides out of
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probably trying too hard.. and not changing your approach.. hahh or are you going for girls who aren't available.. I know a lot of guys do that.. They hop they can get the girl to break up with their bf.. only to be the guy on the side that the girl bitches about their bf to.. and gets free rides out of
Nah I know better than to break up a happy ending. Besides, I don't that happening to me too right? haha
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probably trying too hard.. and not changing your approach.. hahh or are you going for girls who aren't available.. I know a lot of guys do that.. They hop they can get the girl to break up with their bf.. only to be the guy on the side that the girl bitches about their bf to.. and gets free rides out of
Usually I find guys who are forever stuck in the friend zone are fixated on one "friend" girl too.

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Nah I know better than to break up a happy ending. Besides, I don't that happening to me too right? haha
Well not so much you were the reason they broke up.. but you meet the girl and the girl bitches about her problems with her current bf which they have been together for 3+years.. sounds like they are at the end of the road in their relationship. You end up having hopes they will break up and you will swoop in as Prince Charming.. only to have them start dating a new guy lol.. insert Fuuuuuuuuuuuu meme here...
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I compare every girl I meet to my ex and always think that they won't be able to treat me like my ex and then just give up.
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Speaking from experience, another reason why a regular guy can remain single is a shrinking social circle. We all know that Vancouver is somewhat of a cliquey city so it can be hard to meet new people in a non-bar setting.

I'm going off on a tangent, but I will add that in my experience, the whole "chatting up random hotties in the grocery line" is a bit of a myth too. Most of the people I see at my neighbourhood Save-on-Foods are couples. I live in new neighbourhood with yuppies, but young and single women are a rarity; they almost all live their boyfriends or husbands.
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shes your ex for a reason.. there was obviously something about her that wasn't right... so why compare girls to a faulty relationship
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Speaking from experience, another reason why a regular guy can remain single is a shrinking social circle. We all know that Vancouver is somewhat of a cliquey city so it can be hard to meet new people in a non-bar setting.

I'm going off on a tangent, but I will add that in my experience, the whole "chatting up random hotties in the grocery line" is a bit of a myth too. Most of the people I see at my neighbourhood Save-on-Foods are couples. I live in new neighbourhood with yuppies, but young and single women are a rarity; they almost all live their boyfriends or husbands.
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i have a girlfriend , but i'm gonna say shit about myself anyway

• i have no confidence
• i stutter
• my face is butt-ugly
• i'm a pinner @ 5' 4" , 125 lbs .. sorta pinner
• i'm not rich
• i don't have the nicest clothing
• i'm an emotional guy
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• i have a big-ass jealousy problem, and i stare down every bitch who flirts with my gf
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i have a girlfriend , but i'm gonna say shit about myself anyway

i have no confidence
i stutter
my face is butt-ugly
i'm a pinner @ 5' 4" , 125 lbs .. sorta pinner
i'm not rich
i don't have the nicest clothing
i'm an emotional guy
anger management issues
i have a big-ass jealousy problem, and i stare down every bitch who flirts with my gf
i bottle up my emotions and never tell anybody. i'm very secretive
Oh damn, whats ur secret to getting your girl then?
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i have a girlfriend , but i'm gonna say shit about myself anyway

i have no confidence
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i'm a pinner @ 5' 4" , 125 lbs .. sorta pinner
i'm not rich
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anger management issues
i have a big-ass jealousy problem, and i stare down every bitch who flirts with my gf
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