[Confidential] Am I being trolled?

[ajei]

Originally Posted by Tachycardia!

"You and I, though...we can't...", only affirming to me that her boyfriend is real.

she's baiting you.

[MrGoodbar]

Originally Posted by Tachycardia!

The following is a reply from the Anonymous member

So just a quick update...

I was walking to the station after work but forgot I had left something in my office. On my way back to the office, I found that I had recieved a text from her just saying goodbye since she must have seen me pass by on my way out. After looking at the text notification on my phone, I look up and I see somebody peeking their head out, waving at me from the intersection - it was her.

We meet and we chat. She says that she's surprised that I don't have a girlfriend considering how social and vocal I seem around girls and, through that, explains how I seem like the party type that loves to drink and meet lots of girls. Because of that perception, she says, it was hard for her take what I said to her on the phone the night prior to [about my interest and attraction to her] seriously and sincerely. I explained to her that I was telling the truth, regardless of how she views me, explaining to her that I rarely party and never drink or smoke [which is true]. She still expressed doubts and I knew I had to get her to know me . Perhaps, I think to myself, albeit hopefully, that this boyfriend of hers is non-existent and is, instead, a barrier or a shield that she created to avoid getting hurt.

At this point, we're kind of blocking a bunch of people walking and I recommend to her that we move elsewhere. We start walking and I apologize to her if I made her feel awkward or uncomfortable on the phone the other night, telling her that it was not my intention to do so and I apologize further, explaining that maybe asking her out for dinner was a little too aggressive. She tells me that it was okay and that she wasn't uncomfortable, saying that dinner is still a possibility down the road. Rather than dinner, though, she asks if I had time for coffee just to talk, so we ended up going to the closest starbucks, talking for quite a long time until they had to kick us out since they were closing.

During our conversations, she essentially conveyed that she has trust issues and that adjusting to life in Canada has been hard. She explained to me that she was a very open person before but ended up closing herself because of people that ended up hurting her emotionally, perhaps explaining why she was seemingly so cautious of me. We ended up talking about a variety of things, most of which were very light-hearted and engaging topics and we were having a very good time. Even when we were talking about relationships at one point, it felt great and things seemed to be clicking, voicing, again, how surprised she is that I still do not have a girlfriend. At the tail-end of our conversation, however, she points to herself and me saying, "You and I, though...we can't...", only affirming to me that her boyfriend is real. We ended up talking a bit more after that and we both walked to the station, said our byes and said we'd hang out again.

I'm willing to stay friends with her; she's very sweet. Maybe I will just wait it out...

You're a fool. Insecurity and confusion are a deadly mix when it comes to women and relationships. If you got butt-hurt when she told you she had a boyfriend, why do you insist on dragging this out? What are you hoping to get out of this? Inside you'll always know: She'll always see you as second best or a fallback guy if her boyfriend in Korea doesn't work out.

I've seen things like this happen way more often than I want to, not only for myself when I was younger but for a lot of other people too. Don't be naive; your time, my time, her time, her boyfriend's time are all limited. If you're waiting for her to turn around to be with you then you've just become her option and have just wasted your time chasing this person.

The sooner you realize that you're not priority to her the better off you'll be.

[freakshow]

I agree with the chocolate bar. Just move on now, you're wasting your time with her.

[PornMaster]

Your doing it wrong. Take her to the club have some fun, she ll forget about her bf in no time!

On a serious note just keep her as a friend she sounds like a friend type girl who is awesome to talk to.
Nothing wrong having friends of the opposite sex that you can just talk to and your not going after her pussy lol

These girls are hard to come by usually their just after your wallet

[bcedhk]

just be friends with her. if you date her, you run in the possibility of her changing her mind and then breaking up with you.. then you will really be forever alone.

is she here permanently or on a working visa?