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gdoh · 08-04-2011, 08:32 AM

^this is one of my biggest pet peeves atm

hamsup · 08-04-2011, 09:26 AM

Alot of festivals happening all around town... so maybe walk through a festival of some sort or night market ????

Movie at the park... there are events and listings all over facebook .. just google it...

cruz-in · 08-04-2011, 11:17 AM

Take her to true confections. I have taken all my first dates out here and its great. Alot of people around talking, so she doesn't feel awkward . ( ive dated chicks where they find it weird when its too quiet )

http://www.trueconfections.ca/

Cakes tastes awsome and they give big portions .Get her a float or a shake. WIN WIN

And after that 3 blocks north and there's a starbucks so you can swing by and get her a warm coffee so you can walk together while holding something .

I usually try to take the date around 7 ish while sun is out ( summer ) so when you finish your cake date around 8-9, the warm coffee / tea feels nice and the lineups in starbucks isnt too bad.

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I try not to bring dates to nightmarket, mall, PNE because i think there is too much of a risk of meeting your friends/her friends and if they say something stupid ,it may cause an awkward moment.Plus, you end up trying to dodge the crowd more then your focusing on her. I carry a work phone as im always on call so dodgin crowd + work emails would mean that you dont' get as much talk time.

its your guys' time, after all , its a date

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Some things work for people and some don't . but at the end, just find out what shes like and that will determine where you can bring her.

ec604 · 08-04-2011, 11:23 AM

Movies, night market, science world, the aquarium, steveston

muteki · 08-04-2011, 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by !Yaminashi

Some women are just as guilty of this, if not more

That's true. But I meant that to be directed to the OP so he doesn't do that.

I think the True Confections idea is great. Cake is yummy. =D

cruz-in · 08-04-2011, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by SimplyComplex

That's true. But I meant that to be directed to the OP so he doesn't do that.

I think the True Confections idea is great. Cake is yummy. =D

RIGHT!? girls love sweets. And when they taste the diplomat cake ( vanilla cake with vanilla custard and vanilla butter cream ) they just melt...

or the MOCHA SPONGE CAKE

cruz-in · 08-04-2011, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Lamboda

I agree with v.Rossi here, but I personally would have a time limit of about 1 hour. I'd make her wanting more even if it means choosing to end a little early because it shows you have something to do later and are not a wimp but that's something I would do.

I can only offer you my advice so I advise you to take her to a coffee shop. It shows that you are interesting if you can maintain an interesting conversation. It also allows for you to have different opportunities such as walking outside etc.

I would also suggest you paying for the drink/meal because it would make the date a date unless she tells you she tells you otherwise.

Finally I would like to address one matter that irritates me, you can take it or leave it. If you are going to have dinner with her please Please PLEASE TRY NOT TO WHIP OUT YOUR PHONE UNLESS IT'S AN EMERGENCY. IT IS VERY RUDE. People these days cannot live without checking their phone(s) every two minutes. You cut the connection as soon as you check your text or call someone--it just kills the mood.

As always, just make up your own mind.

bout fucken time i heard this.

i've watch a few dates happen where he talks normal, then *ring* phone goes off and he picks up and starts to talk all ganster to his buddies and act all hard. LOL girl walks up and leaves for washroom , his phone call ends and he waits around for her. She comes back and tells him that she has an emergency and she needs to leave. Guy is left with the bill and forever alone.

everydate ive gone on and had a work phone, ive always let her know that i have one and sometimes leave it on the table on vibrate. Never to ring cuz i find ringers are so rude to hear on a date. if it vibrates, they usually ask " arent you gonna pick it up? its your work " and i usually reply " naw its not important enough." just another peice of mind for her so she knows im pay attention to her.

doesnt always work, but when it does........

miss_crayon · 08-04-2011, 03:11 PM

A date should be simple and sweet. Don't plan anything too over the top because lets be real here..it's the first date. You don't wanna be giving out your "best" cards upfront.

Dinner+movie or dinner+coffee/dessert is probably the MOST ideal and safest route when getting to know someone with the intention of furthering the relationship. Over this date you can chat it up and get to know one another and giving you better insight as to if you would like to take this person out on a 2nd/3rd/etc date.

Relax and have fun..first dates can be nerve wrecking but always remember the other person is feeling the same way. It's not just you sweating over the small stuff..like if you look good, if the other person is having fun etc.

BeeBeeAhn · 08-04-2011, 09:23 PM

don't do anything too fancy. It should be casual and fun. go someplace where you can talk and get to know each other.

I hate movies for first dates. What's the point of sitting in the dark silently for 2 hours with someone i'm wanting to know better?

I bloody hate first dates. I find them to be so pretentious. Don't think I ever had an official date with my bf. I think we started dating naturally after playing video games together for a month or two and hanging out a lot lol

muteki · 08-04-2011, 09:27 PM

^ +1 The movie idea is pretty bad. It takes up a lot of time and both of you are just sitting in silence. Like BeeBeeAhn said, usually it just comes after casually hanging out.

TOS'd · 08-04-2011, 09:54 PM

Thank you.

votrechien · 08-05-2011, 11:03 PM

Depending how brave you are here are two of my favorite 'original date' places...

1) Finn Slough in Richmond. I'm shocked how few of people have ever heard of this place. It's essentially a bunch of Finnish people who have illegally built homes in a swamp in Steveston. They've sort of made it a tourist attraction (lots of written explanations and photo opportunities) in order to support their right to be there. Go there for some laughs and drop on over to Steveston for lunch afterwards.

2) Bingo. Likely neither of you really play Bingo which again, leads to lots of laughs and its easy to fill those awkward silent moments ("omg, what is a sputnik??"). There's a ton of bingo halls and they normally go all day, all day. Call ahead and see what time the sessions begin (normally 4 times per day, you buy a book of 15 games or so) or if they have 'drop in' (show up any time). It's cheap too- can easily be done for under $50 for both of you.

v.Rossi · 08-06-2011, 05:40 AM

^ Bingo? Serious man? OP are you retired or 60 years of age?

For $50 you could do dinner + drinks, which seems more fun? Better question: which is going to help you advance? Getting a matching line of numbers or dinner with jokes and some alcohol.

Hhmmmmm..............
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Mr.HappySilp · 08-06-2011, 10:13 AM

How about casino? Have some fun walking in there, play some games and sit at the bar and chat for a bit. O and don't over do it like gamble more than $100. Is your first lol. Since the weather is so nice how about dinner and then walk around stanely park?

votrechien · 08-06-2011, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by v.Rossi

^ Bingo? Serious man? OP are you retired or 60 years of age?

For $50 you could do dinner + drinks, which seems more fun? Better question: which is going to help you advance? Getting a matching line of numbers or dinner with jokes and some alcohol.

Hhmmmmm..............
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That's the point. It's out of the box, creative, and at the very least, memorable. Of course, follow it up with dinner/drinks.

If this is anywhere close to a first date where neither knows a whole lot about the other, you won't find many girls who are comfortable doing a 3-hour interview drill session over drinks and dinner. Most would prefer some laid back activity to go with it. Bingo doesn't necessarily have to be that but solely dinner and drinks screams of boring and unoriginal. Not to mention if you're taking a girl out for dinner and drinks and the bill only comes to $50 you're either taking her to Ricky's All Day Grill or you're only letting her have an appetizer and a single pint of whatever's on tap.

TOS'd · 08-06-2011, 11:16 AM

v.Rossi has been dethroned.

Nabatron · 08-06-2011, 11:54 AM

castle fun park haha decent mini golf there good for a first date

v.Rossi · 08-07-2011, 09:16 PM

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That's the point. It's out of the box, creative, and at the very least, memorable. Of course, follow it up with dinner/drinks.

You're right it is creative and original. My take of bingo has always been from Simpsons, retired old people playing bingo. With that said, I probably wouldn't go with Bingo on a first date myself as I've never tried it. Maybe sometime down the road, but not on the first. Why? Because I want to leave a good first impression, and that'll start off with something I'm familiar with. If you've tried bingo before, do that on the first date. More power to you. I just want to leave that good first impression, then hell I'd give bingo a shot. I doubt I'd like it, but who knows right?

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If this is anywhere close to a first date where neither knows a whole lot about the other, you won't find many girls who are comfortable doing a 3-hour interview drill session over drinks and dinner. Most would prefer some laid back activity to go with it. Bingo doesn't necessarily have to be that but solely dinner and drinks screams of boring and unoriginal. Not to mention if you're taking a girl out for dinner and drinks and the bill only comes to $50 you're either taking her to Ricky's All Day Grill or you're only letting her have an appetizer and a single pint of whatever's on tap.

Like I said earlier, 2.5 hours tops but like someone above mentioned an hour is more than suffice and I agree with that. Despite dinner and drinks being unoriginal, very true, but it's worked back then and it's still successful now. As for boring though that would solely depend on the company or yourself, and how the night goes. Deadair, incompatible personalities, etc.

Lastly, I personally wouldn't do drinks on a first date, that's just me I have my reasons. But, movie on a first date like crayon suggested, is absolutely stupid. Last time I checked, you were suppose to keep quiet after trailers, yeah plenty of interaction going on there.

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v.Rossi has been dethroned.

Hahaha can't win em all

leilomo · 08-07-2011, 09:35 PM

update: first date went awesome, took her to stanley park and rode bikes around the seawall and discovered beaver lake (?) on one of those inside paths. That was pretty ballin. Then we went for a casual dinner at chronic tacos...good place, nice and casual. Went for a stroll around QE after to digest and back to her place for a movie and AWW YEAH! lol

seen her everyday since

Thanks revscene!

ps, maybe just my experience but on the 2nd date we went to a movie and it was great. We held each other and kissed a bit...but the movie was sort of conducive for it. "Crazy Stupid Love"

Culture_Vulture · 08-07-2011, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by ec604

Movies

No

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night market,

No...

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science world,

NO

Those places are boring enough with people you know very well. I'd shoot myself if I had to sit through any of those events with a girl I'm interested in.

v.Rossi · 08-07-2011, 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by leilomo

update: first date went awesome, took her to stanley park and rode bikes around the seawall and discovered beaver lake (?) on one of those inside paths. That was pretty ballin. Then we went for a casual dinner at chronic tacos...good place, nice and casual. Went for a stroll around QE after to digest and back to her place for a movie and AWW YEAH! lol

seen her everyday since

Thanks revscene!

ps, maybe just my experience but on the 2nd date we went to a movie and it was great. We held each other and kissed a bit...but the movie was sort of conducive for it. "Crazy Stupid Love"

With the information you provided, I give your 'relationship' 6 months, a year tops. 3 months in and I bet you'll say "I love you" and I have no doubt you'll say it first.

Like I said, you go in too fast you're out just as fast. You may think you have it going well, but you being that available is only going to sabotage your future with her. Ive said it before and I'll say it again. Three C's will have any girl robbing banks for you: confidence, challenge, self-control. pass, fail, fail.

What are your plans for tomorrow's date? Hold hands and walk over to spence diamonds to get her finger measured?
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jeedee · 08-08-2011, 02:43 AM

^check mate OP, your move

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Durrann · 08-12-2011, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by v.Rossi

With the information you provided, I give your 'relationship' 6 months, a year tops. 3 months in and I bet you'll say "I love you" and I have no doubt you'll say it first.

Like I said, you go in too fast you're out just as fast. You may think you have it going well, but you being that available is only going to sabotage your future with her. Ive said it before and I'll say it again. Three C's will have any girl robbing banks for you: confidence, challenge, self-control. pass, fail, fail.

What are your plans for tomorrow's date? Hold hands and walk over to spence diamonds to get her finger measured?
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so the kissing part is moving too quickly?

Presto · 08-12-2011, 06:37 PM

^^^

He's seeing her everyday. There goes challenge and self-control. You can't make yourself too available. Go do your own shit, and let her make the move to call you, and ask you to do stuff. Turn her down, sometimes. You want to make sure you still have a pair hanging between your legs, at the end of day.

Culverin · 08-14-2011, 10:06 AM

If you are seeing her everyday, it's like you've got nothing else better to d. No other friends, hobbies or activities. That doesn't bode well for you. If nothing else, you're got no fall back of spending MORE time with her, you'll never be able to up your game to clear time for her because you've got nothing else better to do.
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