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Old 11-20-2011, 03:45 AM   #1
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Erectile Dysfunction/ Porn Induced ED.

First of all, I'd like to say that this post is for guys that have ED problems and are in their teens and early 20's or 30's.

If you have ruled out any potential health problems and seem to be in good health and you're still experiencing ED and don't know where to go or what to do about it, read this before you try to go any further.


To begin, I'd like to say that, shamefully I'm speaking from experience.
At first, I was just fine, I was able to have intercourse without a problem for a long time. Then, I became single for a couple of years and at age 22, when I found someone to be intimate with, I encountered this problem.

Now, for those with this problem, you know how this feels. It's daunting and it kills you slowly from the inside. You hate your self for it and you wonder why it happens. Some guys stumble upon this when they're too drunk or it could just be one of those days and they move on as if nothing ever happened and they're able to have sex the next day.
But for other's, it's different.

I encountered this problem many times (not easy to admit to, but whatever).. and I went crazy with trying to exactly find out what the problem was.

I was healthy, I could get erections that were capable of penetrating concrete when I was by my self.. I had morning wood.. I seemed just fine.
Even during foreplay I would get hard.. but when it was time for the real deal, I failed.

At first, I thought it was anxiety.. but I ruled that out after the first 2 moths of being with this girl because I wasn't anxious any longer.. so that wasn't it.

I did have some success during these 2 months but i wasn't at 100% and it wasn't right..

Then.. finally after a long time of searching, I found the culprit.

Now before I say what it is, I need you all to read my answer and explanation before you label me as an idiot.
I really don't care what you think of me or what you have to say.
I'm doing this for anyone out there that might be struggling with this issue, so if you're going to say stupid things and say how wrong I am, don't bother..


My problem was the excessive use of porn.
Now before you ridicule me and attempt to discredit me and what I have to say with your favorite 4chan memes, hear me out. I understand that your ability to copy memes from image boards is very powerful but try to hear me out.


The excessive use of porn was due to me being single for a long time and as loneliness crept in, so did the porn use.
I masturbated once a day, probably 4-5 days a week on average.
Of course, I've consumed porn since I was 14 or 15 .. but never was it this much and herein lies the problem.

Porn it self is not going to cause ED... but excessive use of it, 100% will.

Never before have so many young men complained about ED. Try reading some boards and forums, the numbers are huge.. and these are all young guys.

If you are using porn excessively, and I know I my self never thought of my self as an addict or anything, ask your self this..

Do you masturbate every day?
Do you masturbate more than once, twice or three times a day?
Can you go without any porn for more than a month?
Can you go without it for even a week or two?

If you also had no problem having an erection during porn, but find it difficult to do so during real sex.. it's time to actually listen to what I'm telling you and most importantly read these this article..

Can Your Brain Become Hardwired to Porn?


Again, I know that most people here become VERY defensive of porn because they feel that it is ok and they like to consume it. Please don't get defensive, because I am not a bible thumper, I believe porn is fine, I am not against it. And I don't consider it a sin or evil or anything, so once again, please don't label me as such.. read into what I'm trying to get across. I'm just sharing some information...
I am not telling anyone to stop watching porn.. I am just saying that for those that are addicted.. your brain has changed.. but the good news is that you can reverse this and fix your problems.


Did you read the above article? If you read the whole thing, proceed to go to

Your Brain On Porn | Evolution has not prepared your brain for today's Internet porn.

and watch these videos.. they're 2 series, the first is 6 videos, about 10 minutes each and the second series is 4 or so videos, 10 minutes each.

First series: http://www.youtube.com/user/BodyWisdomVideos#p/u/0/TKDFsLi2oBk (part 1) there is 6 parts total for this series.


Second series:


Please note what he says in the first video of the first series and as well as the first video in the second series.

It is from a scientific standpoint and from a professional..


The way I completely cured my self was from abstaining from porn, masturbation and orgasm for [85 Days*].. It was really hard to do and I failed many times but I never had any problems with this every again.

I am engaged now and happy, and porn here and there is fine.. but if your porn is causing your ED and you have no idea what it could be because your erections are fine when viewing porn.. this will help.. and this could potentially be your problem.




I wish any of you facing this problem the best..

The reason I made this thread and gave all this info is because there is literally NO help on this anywhere on this site or pretty much anywhere else.
You have to remember that porn is a new element for us and it hasn't been around long enough for anyone to seriously study the side effects that constant porn can have on us and our brains.. this is all new, and so is high speed internet and the opportunity for constant porn novelty.. it is also difficult for guys to talk about, it wasn't easy admitting to what I did but you know... first world problems..


I also know of the porn/aka NSFW section on REVscene and it seems to get a lot of traffic.. so I'm assuming that someone out there might be facing similar problems and if you are, go over what I said and visit those websites.

Don't feel shitty or bad .. just fix your problem and address it. This is 100% reversible..
Good luck.. you will really need it because rebooting .. is going to be hard (pun intended).

If you have any other questions or concerns, PM me..



*Some men will need less than others. Men who had sexual intercourse frequently in their life prior to their porn binges and ED problems recover or as he puts it, reboot faster.
But guys who started using porn in their teens (assuming you weren't having sex regularly at the age of 12) needed a longer time to reboot.

For me it was 85 days, for you it might be 45 and for someone else 50 and for others who've been on this for years and years, 120. But the most he has ever heard of is 120, no longer than that. If you read the 'Rebooting Accounts' section on the yourbrainonporn.com website, you'll hear of guys who've been addicted and on this for like 10 years or so and did it daily and for most of them it took about 90 days.

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i really tried to keep reading but it was just too long for me because i could erectile anytime anywhere
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"The way I completely cured my self was from abstaining from porn, masturbation and orgasm for 85 days..
It was REALLY HARD to do and I failed many times but I never had any problems with this every again."


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Good post OP, but why 85 days abstinence? Why not like 30 or 50..
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Wow.

I haven't had this issue personally, but serious props about being so upfront and honest in your attempt to help fellow RS members. I commend you man, and appreciate this post.
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Good post OP, but why 85 days abstinence? Why not like 30 or 50..

Thank's for the question. I will edit my post and address that.

The days differ for everyone. But there is a pattern that Gary Wilson noticed within people.

Some men will need less than others. Men who had sexual intercourse frequently in their life prior to their porn binges and ED problems recover or as he puts it, reboot faster.
But guys who started using porn in their teens (assuming you weren't having sex regularly at the age of 12) needed a longer time to reboot.

For me it was 85 days, for you it might be 45 and for someone else 50 and for others who've been on this for years and years, 120. But the most he has ever heard of is 120, no longer than that. If you read the 'Rebooting Accounts' section on the yourbrainonporn.com website, you'll hear of guys who've been addicted and on this for like 10 years or so and did it daily. And most of them it took about 90 days.
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Erectile dysfunction is caused by emotional imbalance or stress. Not porn.
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Erectile dysfunction is caused by emotional imbalance or stress. Not porn.
It's NOT just from those emotoinal imbalances or stress. Porn does contribute to it. You brain gets desensitized because you're used to watching women being treated like a piece of meat, OR you only enjoy kiddy porn OR you only enjoy watching animals or whatever the case is. You soon have a tunnel vision and you soon realize you can only be stimulated thru specific sexual stimulation / visual stimulation and EPIC long story short, you get ED.
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Weren't you the one that made a thread about how you married your childhood sweetheart?
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It's NOT just from those emotoinal imbalances or stress. Porn does contribute to it. You brain gets desensitized because you're used to watching women being treated like a piece of meat, OR you only enjoy kiddy porn OR you only enjoy watching animals or whatever the case is. You soon have a tunnel vision and you soon realize you can only be stimulated thru specific sexual stimulation / visual stimulation and EPIC long story short, you get ED.
Agreed. It sounds as though the addiction to pornography has caused itself to be a paraphilia. Hence, without it, the stimulation isn't there.
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Weren't you the one that made a thread about how you married your childhood sweetheart?
That's us in my avatar, what's up?

Edit: I did say married , but we're still engaged. I consider it married lol. Whatever.
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Agreed. It sounds as though the addiction to pornography has caused itself to be a paraphilia. Hence, without it, the stimulation isn't there.
Yeah. It sort of does sound like a paraphilia.

It's not an immoral paraphilia (as long as your porn doesn't include children and shit)but it does appear to become one with overuse.

I noticed that when I was going through this, I stayed off porn and I was fine but I would still watch female wrestling.. or stuff on youtube (girls kissing) and anything sexual.. and I did it for a while, and then I'd tone it down even more.. but then one day I woke up and it hit me..

"I'm still needing the monitor and mouse to get off". Since then, I stopped it all, even fantasy.. and oh boy, then the challenge really beings..
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It's not impossible. I've done it before for a straight 60 days. It's not impossible. It's really mind over matter.
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What's the difference between jerking it to porn 3x + a day vs. having sex 3x + a day?

Let's say a guy is privileged enough to have the availability of sex 3x - 4x a day; and it would even be more epic (ie. celebrities, dictators[ie: Quadafi, Bin Laden]) if it could be of varying partners regularly? After years of 'said practice, are they less susceptible to ED because it's "actual sex" rather than "simulated sex"?

Or if they are just as susceptible... is your solution "less sex" ?



Me thinks you're just trying to villify porn for your condition since considering it's societal stigma, it's the most convenient scapegoat.
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I think the difference is that you're getting a boner by the actual women you are sleeping with, and not some dude fucking some porn star up the ass in 100 different videos. Your mind is content with the actual women you are fucking, and because of that you don't have issues maintaining an erection.

Apparently to some people watching those things online affects their ability to get a hard on when it comes time to actually having sex with a real woman because it's not enough for them anymore to keep them stimulated even if they actually want to have sex.

If he's trying to villify porn how do you explain the fact that he hasnt had issues since he stopped watching it regularly?
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It's true, as a young child of 5 years old or younger I used to have to ability to beat off to a teddy bear. 20 years later and I no longer have that ability. Damn pornography, ruin my life.
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I think the difference is that you're getting a boner by the actual women you are sleeping with, and not some dude fucking some porn star up the ass in 100 different videos. Your mind is content with the actual women you are fucking, and because of that you don't have issues maintaining an erection.

Apparently to some people watching those things online affects their ability to get a hard on when it comes time to actually having sex with a real woman because it's not enough for them anymore to keep them stimulated even if they actually want to have sex.

If he's trying to villify porn how do you explain the fact that he hasnt had issues since he stopped watching it regularly?


Self gratification is self gratification, whether be it actual sex or simulated sex. Frequency and over-indulgence of either is going to lead to the same thing.

So the problem is "over-indulgence" not this "porn is at fault" nonsense.


Say the situation was reversed and the OP had the privilege of sexual activity that parallels that of a celebrity rock star, would he be making the same thread stating: ED/Sex induced - solution have less sex and/or abstinence for X period?
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Well if you watched the video it went over how if you're with the same girl you lose interest after awhile, but when a new female is introduced you suddenly have the urge to have lots of sex again, and this process repeats over and over. Much like you wouldn't want to watch the same porn video over and over cause you'd get bored of it, once you see something new you are interested yet again. That's why people who have watched thousands of porn videos usually find themselves liking more kinky shit after awhile, cause they aren't as stimulated by the regular stuff anymore.

Being a rock star is like having a new porn video whenever you want, except they are real women that are arousing you.
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Well if you watched the video it went over how if you're with the same girl you lose interest after awhile, but when a new female is introduced you suddenly have the urge to have lots of sex again, and this process repeats over and over. Much like you wouldn't want to watch the same porn video over and over cause you'd get bored of it, once you see something new you are interested yet again. That's why people who have watched thousands of porn videos usually find themselves liking more kinky shit after awhile, cause they aren't as stimulated by the regular stuff anymore.

Being a rock star is like having a new porn video whenever you want, except they are real women that are arousing you.
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What's wrong with that? And what's wrong with Kinky shit? I mean, is sex so narrow of an activity that it should be limited to conservative practices?

And losing interest is a bit harsh of a terminology when one is in a monogamous relationship. Yes it's true that it has a tendency to taper your sexual activity depending on the relationship's longevity; but that's not necessarily a sign of social nor sexual dysfunction. You can't tell married people that have sex only once or twice a month that either: they're unhealthy, their relationship is dysfunctional, or that the husband loves porn > wife.



Thirdly, if you take into account the age range of a male's sexual peak, it's not entirely unreasonable for one jerking/having sex multiple times a day. Consequently, it's also nothing to be alarmed about when your drive starts to taper off once you're past your natural peak and your virility isn't as potent as you age.

Considering the title of the thread is Porn induced ED, it's suggesting that subscribing to porn/masturbation with regularity is unhealthy (in the long run) when really, it's nothing but.

And even though some people think they're over-practicing to an obsession, considering the primary demographic of RS is in the young-adult range which closely corresponds to a male's sexual peak... it totally is within reason.
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I don't know what you're getting upset about, he made the thread for people who may have issues maintaining an erection with a woman and suggesting it could be because you jack off to too much porn. No one said there's anything wrong with it and if you watch a ton of porn and still never have a problem having sex with women then great, clearly this thread isn't aimed at you.
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It's not something I'm overly upset about there's just a few things I want curb as the thread does a few things:


1. Somewhat insinuate that Porn can cause ED; when in fact, that's a very shallow way placing blame at things.

Getting your rocks off too much is too blame for desensitization, whether it's by way of too much masturbation or too much sex doesn't matter - but IS the natural consequence for either or; and porn isn't even necessarily necessary for "masturbation" per se. Masturbation is just something people just do regardless of porn. So this lends a misappropriation of blame to porn when its really over-masturbation.

(on a personal note: i did make a guess why the OP chose to put the blame on porn though and that was that due to porn's societal stigma, it's easier to villify it for blame)


2. People who can't get their guns off in their 20's or early 30's as fast as they used to do it in their teens aren't supposed to feel like there's something wrong.

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