[Confidential] Cant get any women

[dinosaur]

Alright....im calling it....this shit can't be for real.

i smell troll meat!

[Gridlock]

Originally Posted by El Bastardo

Honestly, I think you guys are blowing this out of proportion. Im not addicted to sex, I can easily rub one out before school and everything is fine. I haven't seen escorts in months now, there was a point where I would see 2 or 3 per week. I decided to stop that shit and try to at least get a girl interested in me before I graduate. Im guessing your a female so you dont know how it feels. Its super easy to stop thinking about sex after you jack off and then your good for the whole day. I saw so many escorts because my mindset was that no girl would want to have sex with me and I didn't have many ways to meet girls because I stopped hanging out with friends and studied/worked more.

First of all, I'm a dude-the ('s) in "dinosaur's bitch" is quite important.

So let's talk about it. I was 20 once and know what its like. I didn't have to jack off daily to get through my day. In fact, I went for about 2 years when I moved out here that I didn't really date and didn't have sex because I didn't know anyone. So the same boat. I didn't think of castration as an option either.

I never resorted to calling up a hooker. I didn't have to jack off daily either.

And, I think you need to start listening to yourself because:

there was a point where I would see 2 or 3 per week

does not equal this:

Im not addicted to sex

So, I'm sorry, but I know the polite thing to say is"you're perfectly normal" but you sir, are not perfectly normal. I don't mean that to be offensive or mean, but its true.

I read every word you write and all I hear is "I just need ass" and all you are going to do if you find a girl loose enough is cover the problem, and not solve it. Besides, boy are you going to be disappointed going from pro to amateur. What with that need women have to be pleased and maybe even have you stick around for a few minutes after.

Now, you haven't answered my question.

Are you now seeking advice on what to do because you can no longer afford prostitutes? Yes or no.

I don't care that its been months or whatever...is that what caused your change in mind on the issue?

[Gridlock]

And for god sakes, how do you feel about using 30+ women like that? You think they don't have their own issues that bring them to being your cum dumpster in life?

Or you think just each and every one of them are trying to put themselves through law school? You know, by making on honest buck.

Oh, I know, they are just sluts anyway, so in your mind they might as well get paid to do something instead of free.

That's someone's sister you are fucking. Just sayin'.

[46_valentinor]

Thanks again for everyones responses, I feel a lot better. I've given myself 6 months to put myself out there and just make as many friends as i can and if that leads to something, then great, if not, well then its probably a sign to quit lol.

6 months to what? what are you EXACTLY seeking out in that 6 months (reply not necessary). unlike most, i don't think you are messed up, i think you are just simply lost. lost in a way where you don't exactly know what is normal anymore. there is no such thing as time limit when talking about self improvement, it is a LIFE LONG commitment. a similar example would be life after marriage or even a long term relationship (not exactly life long but still significantly long). no matter where you will be in life in 5 or 10 or 20 years you will still have to commit yourself to improvements and CHANGES. 6 months is nothing...and if you don't have the patience for more than 6 months to see results then you are simply going to fail in relationships, career, LIFE.

do all of us a favor because we all did our part, we gave you our own opinions for your situation, stop posting in this thread and look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself exactly what you need to do. posting in this thread and reading replies with basically the same content won't help, you need to think for yourself now.

[smarv]

op in all honesty your a decent looking guy. i know girls that have fucked allot worse looking. That being said its not all about looks or even charm. i think you need to be friends with a girl, be casual with her for a few weeks maybe even a month or two. After you guys realize how close you are then you can nail her. When she's your best friend the sex has more meaning than if you were to pound on a few greasy escorts.

ps: Friendship not friend zone.

[pinn3r]

Let love find you; don't go hunting for it. Love that comes naturally is the best.
Pick for yourself a nice honey, and stick with that pussy. You stated that you "don't have the charm to ever get them in bed" ... well, don't rush anything. Also, your libido is through the roof. Chill it ahah, horny-ass mofuckaa
Set some standards for yourself, end the desperation, and don't even think about those dirty-ass bitches

[6793026]

I won't judge that you to visit escorts, but in the long run, it's not going to work, why? You'll start to realize that your gf can't do 90% of the shit you like. It's like porn, you start to get desensitized and you won't be able to enticed by normal softcore porn. it will haunt you and I suggest you lay low from escorts. Trust me on this.

as for POF. You're like 9 years behind my friend. When I was on it back in 2001, it was a diff crowd, now it's just different. Why?
1) you're asian = not what people are looking for.
2) you're 20, you're not going to be able to compete with guys that has a car, live alone and has a career
3) you got NO GAME... note point number 2.

Just lay low, wait for a girl to come and just want and see, just cause you make a girl laugh will NOT make you date you. You need to build a relationship with osmeone that you're a caring person, a person with depth BEFORE they will date you.

Just cause you're good looking, great dresser, finished school, have a car, can crack jokes will not get you a girl, there's a bunch of shit involved.

[Richmond69er]

keep bangin escorts. its cheaper then having a girlfriend.

[LiquidTurbo]

Originally Posted by Richmond69er

keep bangin escorts. its cheaper then having a girlfriend.

Until you get an STD.

[Noir]

Originally Posted by LiquidTurbo

Until you get an STD.

uhhh, there's still a likelihood for an STD even with non-pro girls. It's all about frequency.

See a pro once or very few times = likelihood is low. Have casual sex with other girls rarely or just have 1 partner every few years = likelihood is also low.

Have casual sex like a rock star = likelihood is higher. Have sex with a pro-girl often = also likelihood is higher.

[dinosaur]

Originally Posted by Noir

uhhh, there's still a likelihood for an STD even with non-pro girls. It's all about frequency.

See a pro once or very few times = likelihood is low. Have casual sex with other girls rarely or just have 1 partner every few years = likelihood is also low.

Have casual sex like a rock star = likelihood is higher. Have sex with a pro-girl often = also likelihood is higher.

Dude, that is such bullshit.

It doesn't matter how many time YOU have sex with the PRO. Its how many time the PRO has had sex with the whole fucking CITY!

You can dip your stick in once a day for all that matters....that fact that she is probably hitting 6 times a day it what counts.

[Gridlock]

Not to mention, whether am or pro, all it takes is ONE exposure to get caught.

If he actually manages to overcome the issues that cause him to fail with women, and the fact that he's banged a city's worth of escorts doesn't tank that relationship, the conversation where he says, "Herpes" is going to.

[Noir]

Originally Posted by dinosaur

Dude, that is such bullshit.

It doesn't matter how many time YOU have sex with the PRO. Its how many time the PRO has had sex with the whole fucking CITY!

You can dip your stick in once a day for all that matters....that fact that she is probably hitting 6 times a day it what counts.

No, that's bullshit.

1. Just because a girl is not a pro doesn't mean she's been around, and been around frequently.

2. Just because a girl HAS NOT been around frequently doesn't mean she most likely has nothing



Just like how you were judging us guys, it sounds like you're judging hookers based out of nothing but standard "social stigma." And I'll admit, I've been to my fair share of parties and have seen and been on both sides of the argument and let me tell you this. Professional girls are a lot more careful and stricter with how they approach sex more than your average party/clubbing girls.

So what do you say about that now?

Or do you have more stereotypical conjecture you want to spout some more and preach as gospel?




And BTW, for those people judging the users of hookers based out of nothing but social stigma as socially akward degenerate losers, that's only such a small portion of reality.

Think cocaine. People think those who subscribe to its uses are nothing but degenerate homeless bums but you'll be surprised at what margin affluent people actually makes up for its market/use. Believe it or not, same goes for hookers. In actuality, drugs and girls are a "rich people" commodity. Not so much as a dirt-poor loser bum commodity that society will have us believe.



Unless people are thinking hookers = crack whore. Then yeah, that small portion of this HUGE topic is most likely true. You guys win there.

[Excelsis]

lol good read

but dude.. chemically castrated for this?

you must be joking, just put yourself out there, improve your mindset, and put yourself to learn new things each day

[GGnoRE]

We don't need to lecture this guy about the ethical issues of prostitution. People are entitled to their own beliefs.

Try to talk to at least 5 girls per day. You will eventually meet someone that shares good vibes with you.

[Durrann]

Originally Posted by GGnoRE

We don't need to lecture this guy about the ethical issues of prostitution. People are entitled to their own beliefs.

Try to talk to at least 5 girls per day. You will eventually meet someone that shares good vibes with you.

so where would you be finding these girls?

[threezero]

Just so you know chemical castration might not reduce you libido. Alot of Sex offenders that has been chemically castrate continue to act out sexually

[krazynuck]

OP you should go on a trip...I myself am not a fan of tours, but I know everyone who has gone on one has met a few people so my advice would to take a Contiki trip or GAP adventure trip or something like that. The other option (the one I would pick) is go backpacking alone or with a buddy and stay in some hostels in Europe.

will this really help you find a long term gf?....probably not....as demographically the odds that both of you reside in Vancouver are slim....but I think it will change your mindset in what you are looking for and will be very fun...

[xilley]

one tip; Set your own structure of Life, girls will come.

I didnt understand what this meant when someone told me this at first.

[jack3d]

man ur overthinking it.. if u have a body like that.. dont worry the woman will cum

[saint16]

Normally I don't respond to this type of crap but hey wth I'll bite. First off you need to calm down, and get rid of the mindset that you absolutely must get laid. You're only 22, not everyone is getting ass 24/7/365. If they were, escorts/hookers, POF all that crap wouldn't exist, so once again calm down.

You're buddies who are claiming they banged # of girls last weekend, the vast of majority of them are lying. That's what guys do, sure one of them is maybe some super stud pornstar and beds anything he looks at, but the rest of them are full of shit. So again calm down.

What kind of women are you trying to attract? Are you trying to simply hook up with the prototypical "hot chick" in your classes,at the bar, etc? Guess what, so is every other single meatball who is just as desperate as you. You don't think that shit gets tiring for her too? Sure a few may love it, but the majority of them just want to get left the fuck alone.

What I think you need to do is take a step back and actually look at who you are trying to hook up with, instead of what you are doing yourself to attract them. Let's be honest, chances are if you are willing to pay for escorts and get to choose from a "catalogue" than chances are you are going to completely close minded in who you talk to in the real world. You may not even realize it but chances are your not even noticing the girls who are interested in you, because you are completely fixated on another who actually have no interest in you at all. Have a look around, chances are someones in interested in you and you don't even realize it.

Lastly, you claim women arent attracted to fitness, finance, and cars. Not directly, but you know what women are attracted to? Confidence. Not arrogance, but confidence. Don't act like a douche, the whole being "alpha" thing is a bunch of fucking horseshit. Who wants to attract that kind of woman anyways. Know what actually is attractive to women? Having a fucking plan is attractive. Take care of yourself physically, without being a meathead douche- thats attractive. Know where you want to be in 1 yr, 5 yrs, 10 yrs? thats attractive. Know value, whether its cars, real estate, anything, without wasting money on stupid shit. thats attractive. The next time you go into school, work, wherever strike up a conversation with someone who you have no interest in sleeping with, because the more people you know and can talk to, the wider your base of friends, contacts, acquaintances will be. Start talking to people without trying to get in their pants every single time, and you'd be amazed that people will actually want to spend time with you. Sex just comes later.

If you can't do that or at least try, stick with the fucking hookers.

Oh and chemical castration, don't be so fucking melodramatic.

k im done, god that was preachy

[G-Diesel]

Since most have already covered what you should do. I'll chime in with my own words.

1st thing is that you find what you're looking for what you stop looking. Now you said when you do that you don't try at all, that's fine. But when an opportunity arrives, go for it.

Never, ever, EVER make a woman the center of your universe. Once you realize that women are only an ASPECT of life, not the focus of it, your life will be so much easier.

Don't take life so seriously. You know what, we are all going to get old and die. Let go of all your insecurities and just go for it because, in the end, it is this quality that is most attractive to the ladies. Well adjusted women love a well adjusted man..stop allowing the world to control you like a string puppet, you make it happen and no one else.

[El Bastardo]

The following is a reply from the original poster bringing this long dead thread back from the grave. Because fuck it, why not?

Hi Again Everyone, I posted a thread about 2 years ago about how I couldn't get women and have only been with escorts. I thought I'd give a small update. The good news is, I stopped going to escorts/hookers and havent had sex with one (or any female) since 2012. The bad news is I still suck with women. There was a period in the middle where I thought I might be gay but I quickly realized I wasn't (didn't do anything gay).

Was wondering if anyone had advice on what the best thing to do is in my positon. Since back then I was still in university and met a lot of girls, now i'm working full time (possibly going back for masters in September) so I rarely meet any girls. My schedule is usually: wake up, work, home, gym, home, sleep. On the weekend I'll go out to granville with a few friends to a bar or club. But I get rejected pretty hard if I try to talk to girls there since most have pretty high standards.

Now that Im approaching my mid 20s, is there something I should be doing that im not? I spent the last couple of years furthering my career and getting muscular but I still suck with females. Im starting to worry I wont attract a female until im in my 30s when females start having kids and some become single mothers looking for a guy to take care of them + their child. I posted an ad on craigslist just to see if i'll get any replies and got like 4 replies but they were all single mothers and I even met with one and she basically just wanted me to pay her grocery bill every month ($400) in return for hanging out with her (possibly sex).

Any help is appreciated.

PS: I've tried tinder, pof and OKC already.

Sorry for the long post, wanted to give as much info as possible. Thanks for reading.

[320icar]

Lol

[6793026]

Looking back when I was at your age. I did a few things right and I did a few things wrong.

1) I went online dating heavily. It's great to know wtf is up with tinder and POF, but that's NO way to find a perfect girl. STOP online dating, meet girls the traditional way. How? Through....
2) Friends. Go learn a new hobby and INVEST heavily with more and more friends. QUALITY friends. it's the only way to NETWORK to people. You get referrals that way and this way, the girls are legit and they are much more rewarding.

10 years down the road you will NEVER regret you have invested in a new hobby, a new sport or a new skill (soccer, cooking, baking etc) When you invest you learn something new and you MEET new people.

You WILL regret how much time you have spent on USELESS pof, fb, tinder, CL, quick hook ups ALL for nothing. Go back 2 years... did the esorts, hookers mean much?

thank me in 10 yrs if u actually learnt something.