The most messed up dating sitaution I've ever seen

[dinosaur]

dude...she ain't the problem. you are playing games...."yeah, maybe" "we'll see"...you don't give her a REAL kiss....you kind of hold her hand....a couple hugs. you may be verbalizing that you like the chick....but your actions are quite the opposite.

[jameswift]

Originally Posted by dinosaur

dude...she ain't the problem. you are playing games...."yeah, maybe" "we'll see"...you don't give her a REAL kiss....you kind of hold her hand....a couple hugs. you may be verbalizing that you like the chick....but your actions are quite the opposite.

I can see how you'd think that.

The only game I've played is the "I'm free Friday I'll have to get back to you comment."

[toyobaru]

I like this. sounds like you're gaining some control of the situation and have HER now intrigued. Good play on holding off and pretending like you're busy on the proposed date. I wish I had game like that props to you

[jameswift]

UPDATE:

The reality is she's been beat up pretty bad emotionally in the past and anything that even could be taken as an 'off' situation she runs. She found out a few things about me from a co-worker. Nothing bad but just random things that she didn't know. Now she's making comments like "why didn't you tell me about this and that"

I'm thinking who cares? We're just getting to know one another, what's the big deal?

Weird people are everywhere.

[Meowjin]

dude your 32.

I shouldn't have to explain why that matters.

edit: Just read the above post. Yeah I've dated a few broken girls. They panic, cry, and have some weird issues they can't get over.

They take it out on the guy.

Then they think they are alone in the universe when the guy wants to give them a chance.

Personally the best advice I can offer you is what someone told me at work

Coworker: See a girl should never be your first priority in life. (this came up because he overheard me and a younger co-worker talk about how his sex life was interfering with his school work)

Me: Why?

Coworker: Because the clock is ticking against women. They will hit 27 and realize that they spent most of their life chasing false dreams, panic and try to marry anything in their path.

Coworker: But a guy on the other hand. They can live a life being broke and then get his shit together in his 40's, and you know what? There will be a wide variety of women to choose from.

Me: Never let a girl get between a man and his work huh?

Coworker: Yup.

[Gridlock]

I think if you are putting yourself out there to date, you should have your shit kind of under wraps.

I can see telling someone that a previous relationship was kind of bad, and so you want to take it slow.

But as a person dating someone else, I shouldn't be a therapy session. If you think you can interact with another person, in an 'intimate' capacity with feelings and not risk yourself, or invest in it...its doomed to fail.

I don't know about others, but I have very little patience for that. I find that even if you did decide to continue with this woman, you'll find that anything you do 'wrong' will be an example of everything she was expecting to begin with.

And no offense, but people let themselves get too damaged by this stuff. If he's the type of guy that's beating you to an inch of your life and stuffing you in the trunk of the family buick-then yeah, you have some issues to work through.

The relationship didn't quite work, and you were really in love but he left? Take some time honey, then move the fuck on.

And this grilling you over gaps in your internet available history? BIG RED FLAG.

[jameswift]

Originally Posted by Meowjin

Yeah I've dated a few broken girls. They panic, cry, and have some weird issues they can't get over.

They take it out on the guy.

Then they think they are alone in the universe when the guy wants to give them a chance.

Personally the best advice I can offer you is what someone told me at work

Coworker: See a girl should never be your first priority in life. (this came up because he overheard me and a younger co-worker talk about how his sex life was interfering with his school work)

Me: Why?

Coworker: Because the clock is ticking against women. They will hit 27 and realize that they spent most of their life chasing false dreams, panic and try to marry anything in their path.

Coworker: But a guy on the other hand. They can live a life being broke and then get his shit together in his 40's, and you know what? There will be a wide variety of women to choose from.

Me: Never let a girl get between a man and his work huh?

Coworker: Yup.

Great Post.

I quoted this not for me, but for the countless men/guys that don't understand how important this really is.

[jameswift]

Originally Posted by Gridlock

I think if you are putting yourself out there to date, you should have your shit kind of under wraps.

I can see telling someone that a previous relationship was kind of bad, and so you want to take it slow.

But as a person dating someone else, I shouldn't be a therapy session. If you think you can interact with another person, in an 'intimate' capacity with feelings and not risk yourself, or invest in it...its doomed to fail.

I don't know about others, but I have very little patience for that. I find that even if you did decide to continue with this woman, you'll find that anything you do 'wrong' will be an example of everything she was expecting to begin with.

And no offense, but people let themselves get too damaged by this stuff. If he's the type of guy that's beating you to an inch of your life and stuffing you in the trunk of the family buick-then yeah, you have some issues to work through.

The relationship didn't quite work, and you were really in love but he left? Take some time honey, then move the fuck on.

And this grilling you over gaps in your internet available history? BIG RED FLAG.

I am somewhat guilty of nice guy syndrome to a point. I got blind sided with some serious bullshit. I think many guys would have either said GTFO or begged her to give them another chance. I didn't do either.