Opinions wanted on girl friend moving in..

[Berzerker]

I've had 4 long term live in relationships... I'm currently single and every single one of them ended on rough terms. I won't have another live in unless we're engaged.

Berz out.

[Gridlock]

Originally Posted by Berzerker

I've had 4 long term live in relationships... I'm currently single and every single one of them ended on rough terms. I won't have another live in unless we're engaged.

Berz out.

I'm curious if there is a common denominator to all this?

[jasonturbo]

Originally Posted by Gridlock

I'm curious if there is a common denominator to all this?

You can't make a hoe a housewife?

[saucywoman]

Originally Posted by Berzerker

I've had 4 long term live in relationships... I'm currently single and every single one of them ended on rough terms. I won't have another live in unless we're engaged.

Berz out.

Good.. Don't jump into anything else too soon!! and stay away from crazies lol

[Noir]

Originally Posted by melloman

@cdizzle: An honest opinion, let her move in. Make her sign a simple contract just simply stating she will not demand cash payment or any material payment if the relationship were to go bad.

Is this really even necessary? What kind of women are you guys dating?

Originally Posted by cdizzle_996

In the end it doesn't really have anything to do with helping with bills, or my "stuff". I've owned my place in Abbotsford for a few years, I've renovated, and fully furnished it myself, it needs absolutely nothing. With that being said if it were to ever go sour, I wouldn't want to "pay her out" or her have a chunk of some thing she didn't Pay for. I've paid nearly 40k off my mortgage and done 15k in renos.

This whole thread has gone above and beyond where te original question stemmed from.

Despite having been together for 2 years and continuing, I don't think your relationship is mature enough yet.

It all comes down to this:

Trust is a huge part of a "serious" relationship. The fact that that there is a need for you to feel protected from your partner means that you don't trust her fully yet; maybe to a degree, but not necessarily life and property yet. (And that's OK, varying relationships require varying times to grow)

That being said, she might be hurt with your lack of trust within the relationship.

[civic_rice]

Originally Posted by Berzerker

I've had 4 long term live in relationships... I'm currently single and every single one of them ended on rough terms. I won't have another live in unless we're engaged.

Berz out.

can you be my girlfriend? I wouldnt mind putting u in a nice dress and taking you home

[Mr.HappySilp]

It also depends on what kind of person you are and are you ok with picking up other ppl's slack. If you are a strict person about sharing than you might have an issue. Not just sharing the bills and work done but it goes beyond that. Say sometimes you feel like just relaxing watching the game and your gf wants to watch the fashion network. Sure maybe once or twice you can cave in but how many times can you do it.

Example both of you work 9 to 5 so then who gets the washroom first? What happens if one person stays in the washroom too long? Now that's very minior but you get the idea. Stuff like this will happen.

You also have to care for the other person feelings as well and make time for her even though you want to do someone else.

I live at home pay the bills, clean, cook pay rent so I guess to do since I do all those anyways I wouldn't really mind moving in with someone if theyd on't pick up their share. But I also value my own personal space and time.

[JKam]

Originally Posted by Noir

Despite having been together for 2 years and continuing, I don't think your relationship is mature enough yet.

It all comes down to this:

Trust is a huge part of a "serious" relationship. The fact that that there is a need for you to feel protected from your partner means that you don't trust her fully yet; maybe to a degree, but not necessarily life and property yet. (And that's OK, varying relationships require varying times to grow)

That being said, she might be hurt with your lack of trust within the relationship.

What about a prenup? Would you ever consider that? I trust my gf completely but I would still get a prenup when we get married. When the knot is tied, all my assets become hers, which I have no problem with. It's just if a divorce were to happen, I want my assets back. She can keep hers and anything shared can be split evenly. Same idea for this guy, just he's not married.