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Old 09-01-2012, 02:17 PM   #1
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Is cheating a deal breaker for you, instantly?

If a girl ever cheats on me, I break up with her on the spot. I'd end a 5-10 year relationship on the spot including a marriage.. Infact I did. I ended a 5 year relationship with my slutbag ex-gf a month ago.

Found she was cheating when she was acting funny. Know her too well. She's been texting a lot too, and added a password to her phone. So I had my bro wait outside our place and tail her when ever she left the house. Found she was going over to some dudes house for 1-2 hours at a time when I was at work. Several times a week. I was full of rage. I had to resist from hitting her. Almost blew up. Confronted her, she admitted to it when I said I had my buddy tail her. I kept my cool, called her a slut and a cunt to her face, then kicked her out since the house is in my name only. Threw her shit on the lawn. Including her TV, computer, etc.. Didn't give a shit if she had no where to go. She was begging for forgiveness and I didn't even look her in the eye. I ignored she existed and kept putting her shit outside. When it was all gone I locked the door and started ripping up pictures of her and deleting her from all forms of communication. Got around 15 texts from her begging me to talk to her and saying she's sorry and it'll never happen again. Didn't reply to a single one, rejected all her calls. Told her mom and dad she cheated. Told her boss. All her friends. Then never spoke to anyone in her social circle again.

Got over her in 2 weeks with lots of hard drugs and liquor. 26 now, Wasted most of my youth with this slut. Who knows how long she was cheating for. Makes me sick.

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cheating is an ultimate deal breaker for me, theres no coming back from it, and i never regretted breaking up with someone because of it. .

would have done the same... if she's heartless enough to cheat, I can be heartless enough to react.

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Old 09-01-2012, 02:28 PM   #3
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for sure instant deal breaker.
id prob do the same if i were in your shoes.
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LOL troll, this is copypasta from 4chan /adv/
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Old 09-01-2012, 02:45 PM   #5
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I'd kick her to the curb as well.
I dont know how some people can still be with someone that has cheated in the past.
I have never in my entire life cheated on any of my previous girlfriends so i expect the same thing to whoever i end up with.

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Old 09-01-2012, 02:49 PM   #6
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cheating is an ultimate deal breaker for me, theres no coming back from it, and i never regretted breaking up with someone because of it. .

would have done the same... if she's heartless enough to cheat, I can be heartless enough to react.

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LOL troll, this is copypasta from 4chan /adv/
are you basically saying I can't post my story to 2 different internet forums? 1 being anonymous and the other a bit more closer to home? gtfo

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Fuck her, let her sleep on the streets!
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Old 09-01-2012, 03:00 PM   #8
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are you basically saying I can't post my story to 2 different internet forums? 1 being anonymous and the other a bit more closer to home? gtfo
my apologies then just jumped to conclusion looking at ur post count
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Old 09-01-2012, 03:01 PM   #9
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On the bright side, you are still young at 26 with a house under your name. Be single for a while and have fun.
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Why the fuck would you tell her boss?
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Old 09-01-2012, 07:12 PM   #12
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I'd be full of rage... but her boss?
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Sure, I could forgive. But, then I would have to make the man that she cheated with disappear from existence.


Oh, and I found the original 4chan post through google.

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Old 09-02-2012, 12:31 AM   #14
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No it's not, for me.


In fact I've given this some thought before in my marriage. Although I don't know how I WILL react should it come up, but I'm thinking I wouldn't mind giving my wife a "hallpass" if she really really really wanted one freebie.
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Lol sure she cheated but u harsh over reacted... Hit a girl for cheating? Lol ur crazy and telling her parents, friends etc etc? Chill chill
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People especially her parents would want to know why he threw her out literally on the street so I think that's fair. The friends part is a stretch...the boss...that's just wrong to go there and bring personal shit to the workplace IMO.
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^ Agreed, parents should know as it was not something you did wrong and they have no right to get pissed at your kicking her out. Friends would also be a limited as you may have mutual friends who would want both stories to know who treated who wrong. I have been trailed/ followed,called out and publicly confronted by them before and set them straight... they apologized and i still dont talk to them. Taking it to her boss is kinda out there but i guess we all do shit when pissed off...
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telling her parents and maybe friends(if you are friends with them too) is fine but letting all her friends know and her boss? That's a bit much........
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I wonder what will happen if the shoe's ever on the other foot.

And no, not an instant deal breaker for me.

Not to crack a pun, but there are numerous shades of grey. Not just black and white.
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telling her parents and maybe friends(if you are friends with them too) is fine but letting all her friends know and her boss? That's a bit much........
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^^ Because these are personal things that happen between the OP and his EX. Don't need to let the whole world know. Sure the OP may embrass her but how will her friends or her boss think of the OP now? Is a two way street and the world is a small place.
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Its easy to say yes, I'd break up 100 percent. But, I know that if I didn't, I'd be on the lookout to 'even' the score, and get some myself. I also know that my wife would know my attitude, and she might keep it up, in case what she thinks about me is correct.

Short answer: breaking up would be the logical thing to do. As once the trust is broken, depending on the two people in the relationship, it might as well never be fixed again.
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yep. been there.
having been cheated on by 3 prev ex's, it's instantly a deal breaker.
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For me, I believe there's a lot of factors before one could ever think cheating would be a definite deal breaker. I assess the situation on knowing how the person who cheated on you, and why they initiated the cheating in the first place. We all make mistakes sometime in their lives, we're not always perfect. I believe I bring out the best in people through their mistakes, though not giving them a second chance, but doing whatever it by means necessary for them to become a better person, whether or not if it's me who'll end up together or another guy. That's just my outlook on cheating. For me, it creates the opportunity for both parties to learn and understand as a couple on what they need to improve most so they can be happy. Isn't that what the goal to be in a relationship about? Being happy with the person you love?

Anyways I may have done the inevitable, but it's far from cheating. But my ex does agree, it's somewhat related to "emotional cheating". She found out that I had feelings for someone close to her. But I knew, in my mind, that it will never happen with that person. It's like lust over love, and that in the end, I knew in my heart it would have no lasting effect. What do you think, is that really cheating?

Despite the turn of events, my best friend dates her shortly after we broke up. Whether or not she initiated the move it just to get back at me for finding out that I had feeling for another person, or whether or not my best friend's desperate need to get a girlfriend in his life, regardless, it was a pretty asshole move and I was emotionally damaged. I wouldn't call my friend's dick move to be cheating, I'd simply call it breaking the bro code. Friends don't date their friend's ex's. PERIOD.

I don't care if he sees this post, knowing he does lurk around RS. I've simply learned a lot through this relationship to make me a stronger person, and understanding who really stands by your side to help you when you fall is what really matters in a friendship/relationship.
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