30-45 year guy who have trouble getting gf-why
 

anyone here have friends or met guys who have a hard time getting a gf. i met a few and they are 30-45 year old. they are normal looking asian guys too

i dont think age has much to do with it, i know 18-30 year olds with the same issue, standards are too high, the are to shy, lack confidence or a life that dosnt put them close to girls on a regular basis, not going to meet many girls sitting at home daily unless its online haha

I smell a troll........

Joe45, is that you? :suspicious:


People, men and women alike, can all be normal or great looking, but if they're unable to show a personality or can't open up and meet people, then the likelyhood of them remaining single is quite high. I know someone who is quite wealthy and decent looking to boot, but because his social skills are shit, he's unable to actually meet people and hold a decent conversation.

Nope. Never met one.

This. I'm 20, and my job keeps me from getting out there, even though I'm somewhat confident. Each time I get a chance to meet girls thorough my brother's university club, I remember I have work the next day and/or I get home too late to attend the event.

I have a handful of friends who are 30+ and don't have girlfriends and probably aren't getting action on a regular basis either.

Not inconceivable, joe45.
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personality and/or unreasonable expectations.

so what's your point canucks45?

lack of social skills and/or confidence

but I haven't met any 30+ year olds who has never had a gf

I know a few 20+ year olds that fit the category though, and they're not ugly. Perhaps just unlucky.

probably gay

Probably Asian.

30 - 45
they are in the zone of no bull shit.
they date girls htat are 30 - 40 ish and they can't take shit from a girl that has the princess symptoms. 30-45 is no bull shit zone. no crazy drama, just come out for dinner, get it on and see if there is a future. no such thing as gf, you get together as fuck buddies or you jut don't date. it' splan and simple
if u're single in that zone either you're not meeting people, or u're a player and can't settle down.

OR!!!

You have nothing to offer that about a hundred random guys off the street couldn't offer themselves. :D

I know it's a standard thing to get a gf settle down, get married, etc. But what if they just don't wanna get married or committed?
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I say there's a standards issue here. :suspicious:

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my uncle is 30 years old...very handsome fellow and girls do like him.....it's just he told me he doesn't want to get involve in relationship, cause it's just stressful and won't have any peace..But sometimes tells me it get's pretty lonely inside his apartment!

i hear russian ladies are always on the lookout for canucks...

to be honest, even the master of all geeks has something to offer as girls realize these geeks are in IT industry, earning a good 60-80k income and girls are happy to settle down.

the reason why you aren't tied down yet would be 1) you are just unlucky and all your friends are in the friend zone
2) you playerrrrrrr

Or you're 5'5, live at home, dress like you're still in university, and drive a car that is dirty and makes funny noises.

Despite joe45's penchant for trolling, I can understand where he comes from. It's tough out there, especially if one wants a demure and reserved Chinese woman. By the time you reach your 30s, these types of women are all gone (I've been to enough weddings over the last 4 years to see this for myself). I have friends who are in the exact situation as you describe: they make good money (70K+), but they can't handle a woman who actually has a decent career and is willing to call them out on their insecurities.

betas

how come these guys would lack social skills? what the cause of it

post a picture of yourself, maybe this will help narrow it down.

Not to say a good looking guy gets all the girls or a not so good looking guy dosnt, if personality isn't your strong suit it wouldn't help to be a good looking guy though

I can't find a gf either.

But theres a few that have offered, and it only costs about $300 an hour.

Good looking people tend to be more successful in life. If you're blessed with looks, people flock to you and you tend to develop your social skills more quickly.

My guess is that the OP is merely average or below average because he seems pretty dense about this issue.
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i think personality is everything, looks will get you laid "and that is great" but wont hold a relationship. make a girl laugh and smile and she has no choice but to like you... BUT dont be too nice, no one likes being friend zoned, shes gotta work for you also.

i forget where i read this but it basically suggested that being passive/nice shows a woman that a male is weak, even something as small as a girl asking for a pencil, a weak passive guy with a crush will get it as fast as possible, that makes you a good friend.

the second part suggests being playful/difficult will keep that girl interested enough while not secluding you to the feared "friend zone"
ie. she asked for pencil, you make her reach for it, or trade you an eraser, basically showing that you arnt a push over but you are also not an asshole.

remember, thats just an example, dont expect to go getting girls by lending them pencils haha