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04-18-2013, 01:00 PM
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#26 | | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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Yeah we'll see what happens... I feel like either way she'll just get mad. But either way, I'll be done with it right?
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04-19-2013, 12:08 PM
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#27 | | VLS Head Mod
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Originally Posted by yogenfruz  ^ I'll fully admit, I'm a coward in this. Ball count = 0.
I have this hatred of making people upset and have always done things to make others happy, even if I have to put up with something I don't want or make a sacrifice. It's a huge problem for me, hence why I came here; hoping for a bit of advice from some more experienced people. I just hate hurting people.
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04-20-2013, 11:04 PM
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#28 | | Revscene.net has a homepage?!
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Breaking up and then getting back together, in my personal opinion, really does not work.
The percentage of successful relationships AFTER breaking up THEN getting back together, is very low.
Now, this is just an opinion, not a "proven fact".
What I would do, in your shoes, is that you should try to be more productive, break up with her, and use your free time to do things you REALLY want to do...
Like:
1- Improving your personal life
2- Getting a Masters degree or take more higher education degrees, etc.
3- Spend more time with your friends that you previously neglected.
4- After a few years, you'll move ahead in life, get a better girl, etc., etc.
What I really think though, is that you still have feelings for her, on the edge of maybe/maybe not, and you are stuck in the LIMBO/Twilight zone.
I really think that once a better girl comes along (like the one you mentioned you were interested in), you'll have no hesitation breaking up with your current one.
If her love for you is not strong enough, it will be the exact same thing with her. When a better man comes along, and she is able to get that "better" man, watch how she will flock to that guy.
It is a risk/reward thing, no?
It is just a simple truth about relationships.
People want to get better partners, but they also have to evaluate what they CAN get and then take that risk/jump.
So, you have to stick with it or risk it and live your life and date ANOTHER girl.
I am presuming that you are young, in the early to mid 20s? If so, you have a lot of time to think it through.
But, if you are in the 30s...... make your decision NOW.
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04-21-2013, 08:23 AM
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#29 | | Banned By Establishment
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^^seconded.
My ex and I broke up and got back together. You try, you talk, but there is a giant ass white elephant in the room..."we are not working"
I used it as an opportunity to get my house in order and be prepared. Not a matter of plotting my escape, but you've broken up once, so you need to work on the idea that you need to be ready. When we broke up the first time, I had just finished school, and we were sharing one car. I bought my car, solidified my job...stuff like that.
Unless you solve that underlying problem that caused the relationship's end, it is bound to happen again.
My problem was that she was a useless lump. She didn't develop a great "use" in that year.
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04-22-2013, 06:51 AM
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#30 | | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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The problem with is, I feel like she thinks we're back to how we were prior to breaking up and we're not, at least I'm not. I feel so different towards her now; I love her, she's my first long term girlfriend and I always will in a way, but I'm not in love like I used to be. I doubt I'll get back to that point too, so I'm seeing it as "Why bother?"
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04-22-2013, 07:55 AM
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#31 | | Banned By Establishment
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Originally Posted by yogenfruz The problem with is, I feel like she thinks we're back to how we were prior to breaking up (SHE THINKS THIS BECAUSE YOU HAVE LET HER) and we're not, at least I'm not. I feel so different towards her now; I love her, she's my first long term girlfriend and I always will in a way, but I'm not in love like I used to be. I doubt I'll get back to that point too, so I'm seeing it as "Why bother?"
Posted via RS Mobile | Seriously, dude? Didn't you post this like a week ago?!!
By now you should have told her whats up! You are SO leading her on!
Get use to feeling like an asshole because dragging this on for so long makes you an asshole.
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04-22-2013, 08:02 AM
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#32 | | Zionism gets my shell hard and slimy
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completely unrelated...
i dont like your new display pic dino... change it back, i wanna see baby dinosaur rippin around
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04-22-2013, 08:47 AM
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it will be back soon....just wanted a lil eye candy  | |
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05-12-2013, 01:02 PM
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#34 | | Ready to be Man handled by RS!
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forget about her and bang other girls opie
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05-12-2013, 02:31 PM
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#35 | | Banned By Establishment
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tell her that you made a mistake and that you want to move on
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05-12-2013, 07:52 PM
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#36 | | I *heart* Revscene.net very Muchie
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05-12-2013, 09:12 PM
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#37 | | Banned By Establishment
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Originally Posted by yogenfruz The problem with is, I feel like she thinks we're back to how we were prior to breaking up and we're not, at least I'm not. I feel so different towards her now; I love her, she's my first long term girlfriend and I always will in a way, but I'm not in love like I used to be. I doubt I'll get back to that point too, so I'm seeing it as "Why bother?"
Posted via RS Mobile | Lol. No, you will absolutely not "always love her". You will move on over time, and she won't mean shit to you eventually. Posted via RS Mobile | |
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05-13-2013, 01:56 AM
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#38 | | I keep RS good
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lol she's all super clingy cuz she can sense you're not into her as before.
her decision put you in the upper hand, lol.
now you know what it is like to have the roles reversed.
if u don't have the guts to break up and u still want the sex, just let the relationship dwindle and die out. or until one of you can't stand it any more, until the feeling of frustration exceeds the feeling of not having the guts to break up. then breaking up will be easier. lol.
no matter what you already win.
it's okay if u are dragging it on or leading her on. women do it all the time, you can't understand social situations until you've been in both positions. take this situation for granted and learn as much as u can from it.
next time you are in a relationship and they have the upper hand, you'll be better prepared on how not to be used and abused and lead on.
don't feel sorry for her, she's a young girl. the amount of dicks she'll receive will most probably exceed the amount of vaginas you penetrate (lol a nicer way to say it is, she'll have more men to pick from than you can pick from women). She won't be left in the dust.
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05-13-2013, 11:03 AM
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#39 | | VLS Head Mod
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05-17-2013, 11:22 PM
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#40 | | Where's my RS Christmas Lobster?!
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Why did this get revived like 3 weeks later? It's been done for a while. Things are changing, we're going separate ways and everything.
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05-20-2013, 06:33 PM
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#41 | | VLS Head Mod
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Originally Posted by yogenfruz Why did this get revived like 3 weeks later? It's been done for a while. Things are changing, we're going separate ways and everything. | You never tell me anything anymore  lol
Whoever revived it probs didn't see your last post date Posted via RS Mobile | |
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