Friends who ditch
 

Anyone got that one friend who cant stick to anything and always bails?

I do, and its fucking annoying. I have a buddy who seems to bail out of plans probably once every 7 times we hang out. When we hang out we get along good, but no homo I feel like I don't even want to chill with the guy. I have told him numerous times but I feel like i am just a part time friend.

What do you guys think? Ditch this fucker, or accept hes a flaky bastard?

Time to find new friends? Ask tos'd to chill , he will suk your toes.

I have lots of friends, this is just A friend.

if hes got a legit reason then whatever,
but jsut tell him next time that if hes unsure not to say yes or to promise to come or to make you wait. this happens to often now a days and it really pisses me off.
you dont want to come do somthing fine. but dont say "ya" or "maybe" just to have me fucking wait there like a retard.

if you got other friends, just occupy your time with those who dont bail ?

Couldn't agree more , no one now a days can give very solid answers to anything , it's almost as if bailing out and not commuting yourself to anything is socially acceptable

/rant


I have also told him numerous times not to commit if he can't .


We just get along really well when we hang out .
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I don't have friends. My girlfriend has friends.

Does they count as my friends? :alone:

:lol:
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yea i got a couple friends like that

i'd call em out a few times and if they constantly bail using illegitimate reasons, i wouldn't call em out again
then we'd never chill; and frankly, i don't give a fucc
if you have better friends, don't even waste your time

I have friends who do that too and I basically put them on the backburner. They never want to commit to something, its a simple yes or no answer. Its like they wanna see if threres anything else better to do and if not THEN they'll chill with u

Its fucking annoying when you ask them to go for coffee,movies, or whatever and they're like "whos going" or "whos there". Like thye wanna make sure its worth their time before they commit to something

Always have a backup plan? does your world revolve around this guy?

Find new friends or hang out with other friends you have already.

I'm not sure if this solves your problem, but one thing that helped me was seeking out friends with mutual interests. Go to Meetup.com and join a group that aligns with your hobbies. If all else fails then any "18-35 in Vancouver" group or something like that will do.

I would just stop asking him to hang out. If he wants to chill, let him ask you

If they don't respect your time why bother
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K just to clarify, I HAVE FUCKING FRIENDS lol. This is just *ONE* of my friends who ditches. Just getting some advice.

I am probably just going to stop hanging with him. :thumbsup:

1 out of 7 times? try 1 out of 3 times for me. It's annoying and I straight up told her. If you can't follow through with your commitments then don't commit to start with. Even if you're not sure if you'll have time, I'd much rather hear a "I'm not sure" than "Yes" which turns into a "No" last second. It's gotten a lot better since.

@above: There's no need to stop hanging with him altogether. If you really enjoy your time with him (no homo), then i don't think it would hurt to keep trying for a bit longer. How long have you known this guy?

When I came into this thread, I thought he bailed on you consistently like 1 in 2 times.

1 out of 7 times? You sound kind of like a girl, man.

I don't know if its exactly 1 out of 7 times, its approx.

I also don't know why you think "I sound like a girl", im really just not a fan of being ditched and having my weekend fucked up over. You must have some shitty friends if they ditch you and you don't care!

does that one person being there make that much of a difference that you get mad
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tbh, I think I've bailed quite a bit as well. Happens to me as well.
What come's around, goes around?

However, I don't think much of it anymore. I just don't have the time and energy to care as much anymore. Haha.

But like what everybody else just said, find new friends. I think of it as having time off from your current friends in general. It does freshen up the friendships and becomes more fun nohomo..

The reason you sound like a girl is because it's like once in every seven times. Since he doesn't sound like a close friend, if you meet this guy like twice every week, that's only like once a month. Is it that really big of a deal?

When my buddies ditch me, they generally have a good reason, and I do my best to understand that in life, shit happens. I'm not that bothered by it because my world does not revolve around one person.

"Something came up? Ok, no problem, take care and I'll talk to you later."

If you feel that he's disrespecting you, it's only because you're allowing yourself to be. The choice is yours to make whether or not you want to stay friends with him, but I would recommend that you re-evaluate what you consider to be a friendship if you are so bothered by the fact that he seems to be flakey.

1 in 7 is nothing. Especially if you like him as a friend. Its annoying yes, but in a relationship (platonic too), you need to take the bad as well as the good.
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Yeah not sure where you got your dates / times from .. But anyways I'm not going to focus on the actual mathematical amount of time I hang out with the guy .

Sum it up, it seems like it's happening to often . I'm over it , I'm just going to start hanging out with him maybe once a month from now on
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You answered your own question and knew the solution all along.

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The most frustrating? When you text someone the night before you plan on doing something, and they respond with "oh yeah sorry gonna have to bail- (Insert excuse here) Like seriously? Wouldn't YOU text ME and tell me that...? Or when they say "yeah i gotta check when i'm working/etc and i'll get back to you, and they don't bother. Like :seriously:?