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Old 12-20-2013, 04:11 PM   #1
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Premature Ejaculation

I've been seeing this girl now for almost two months, and I've ran into this awkward problem of premature ejaculation.

PE not as in blowing my load before anything happens, but blowing my load within a minute of intercourse.

I've never ran into this problem, and it's been very embarassing for me. I've been with various girls, never ran into this problem, so it's very frustrating for me.

It happens about 90% of the time. For the times I don't blow my load instantly, I'll usually be able to last for over 30 minutes.

Anyone else ran into this problem before? It's puzzling because I had sex with another girl a month prior to my current relationship and everything was fine. I'm thinking of trying the desensitizing condoms.

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Old 12-20-2013, 04:12 PM   #2
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Never had that problem but I heard if you fap before you see her it helps
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Old 12-20-2013, 04:15 PM   #3
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Last night, we had sex at 9, and the problem came up. Had sex again at midnight and I lasted just the same.
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Weird. She must be really fucken hot or a tranny
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Old 12-20-2013, 04:33 PM   #5
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how is she with it? The typical reason why it happens is due to it being in the mind most of the time, Just try to fuck like rabbits and hopefully you will get comfortable enough which will help fix it. Try something new, Put it in a couple pumps take it out go down on her which may help things as well. Go polish one off in the washroom before maybe?

For me for some reason U cum way quicker with condoms for some odd reason which drives me crazy but as long as the women is satisfied before hand the rest will work it's self out.
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Old 12-20-2013, 04:40 PM   #6
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For me this was a mental issue.

Eager to "impress" her

Eager to bust.
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Old 12-20-2013, 05:15 PM   #7
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Stop in the middle and pleasure her so you can calm yourself down.
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Get high or buzzed from alcohol should do the trick.
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Old 12-20-2013, 06:18 PM   #8
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you're carrying a loaded gun for too long...don't have sex for a whole month and you're trying to hold out for 30 minutes....IMPOSSIBLE
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Old 12-21-2013, 10:10 AM   #9
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Take a few shots 20 minutes prior to calm your mind.

But if your gonna pop in 1 minute with her (I'm sure we've all been there before, I sure have a few times), always change things up every few seconds. Do 4-8 deep fast thrusts, switch it up to 4-8 shallow ones, pull it out to tease her, and repeat. If it helps, try doing your kegal exercise things...you can press down on the head to delay it...can squeeze hard right at the base for a few seconds...weirdly enough I've been told that when it starts to feel good, try to push out a fart (try not to actually fast though lol), it'll put pressure on the prostate...or if you need to take a finger or two and push up hard on your gooch/taint(area between your butt hole and sac) to make it stop lol


But it's all in your head, similar to performance anxiety --> You think so much about it that you won't be able to get it up from thinking "will I please her? What if I can't? She'll think I'm a loser! I need to bring my A game! I hope I can do this!!!" But nope...so much nervous thinking and your fucked


If all else fails, some salon/spa places sell a desensitizing cream that's used prior to waxing 'certain areas', put a dab on your hand and rub it around, throw on a condom(so she doesn't get numb as well) and have at 'er
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when you know your about to blow, stop and begin 4play pleasure her till you cool off then ram her again, this works for me and sex will last 2hours mininum.
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I found that clenching my butt muscles near climax helps with endurance. Practice this by doing squats.
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Never had that problem but I heard if you fap before you see her it helps
can confirm. i've experimented with this

a week of no fap, then sex with gf: load blows in <10min
fap day before, then sex with gf: can last significantly longer; usually 30-40min

what also works (for me, in the case of an emergency) if you're about to erupt is to slap it a couple times; not too hard, but don't go soft on it either. there's something about slapping it that makes your body "forget" about the ejaculation
basically a reset button
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Old 12-21-2013, 01:23 PM   #13
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The piss horn.

Having to power whizz prevents blowing the beans.



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That said, tell her the deal. Figuring out whoopee is a fun activity.
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Squats and the kegal exercise will do you wonders. Helps build some proper muscles too. Good luck HG.
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I agree with having a few drinks before showtime. It always makes me last alot longer. I'm not talking stinkin drunk, just a few.
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Last night, we had sex at 9, and the problem came up. Had sex again at midnight and I lasted just the same.
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Old 12-21-2013, 03:04 PM   #18
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As long as she gets off, it doesn't really matter when you shoot.

Get her off during foreplay (more than once, if you/she can) and then fuck her till you blow. This will result in:

1-She has an orgasm so it doesn't matter how fast you cum.
2-If it is a mental thing, know she has already cum maybe help you from shooting too fast.

You can also get a vibrator and use it during sex. The vibrator with make her sum super fast so it won't matter when you blow.
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Old 12-21-2013, 04:37 PM   #20
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This situation is frustrating for me, and to a degree I guess my girlfriend. It's frustrating because I'm not doing anything different than what I used to do with others, and I'm not sure where I am going wrong.

I don't think it's performance anxiety.. I always give her an orgasm with my tongue or fingers, so she's always satisfied. But I guess the lingering thought in the back of my head that I might finish early that could result in me finishing earlier.

I don't have the same problem with blowjobs, just when we have intercourse.

Everyone mentions to fap prior to meeting her, but I do spend a lot of time with her and we often crash at her house at night. Even though we have sex quite regularly, it's hard to anticipate when for a fap. And alcohol is a bit tricky since I can't rely on it to keep up my stamina, although we did both get drunk last night and had some wild sex, hahaha.

I will look up kegel exercises, and try some of the other tips posted here.
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Get your hands on some cialus or Viagra lol
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I had this problem with one of my exes years ago. She was sort of messed up by years of shitty bf's (think douches that blow then roll over and sleep, no attention to her) and so she didn't even know her own body. Was frustrating for both of us because almost nothing could make her orgasm. And the stress translated to me and it was just a horrible situation.

With my current SO, a few weeks ago she was stone drunk but i was the designated driver. Mind blowing sex and i lasted like a champ! I think something about the situation made me super relaxed or something. Brought it up the next day, and she couldn't remember most of the night before

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You can always try this exercise (alone or with her) Start with a HJ, as you start to feel your load coming, stop the stroking and hold it in, then repeat. Every time you feel you're cumming, go just a little further to "train" yourself. After a few times of doing this (different for every guy) you'll end up not PE-ing and will actually hold it in. Another thing is this, after your initial load, do you go limp or are you able to hold an erection? This is also something you can train yourself to do. After your initial cum, do what you can (or her) to maintain your erection. My problem is when I'm with a new girl, I can hold it no prob (first time with the last gf I didn't even cum) but afterwards when it's a real relationship and I've developed feelings, I cum in the first 5 min. Not sure why that happens to me, but I ended up learning how to stay hard even after initial load. Now with my current gf, we both cum within the first 5 min, but I still stay hard for her to cum a 2nd time like 10 min later. Then it's literally all me for the next 20- 30 min of straight fucking till I cum again. Sometimes I don't even cum a 2nd time but that's usually when we're on vacation and its the 3rd/4th day of straight sex. LOL.

Try this tips. IMO much better that fapping beforehand (I think of that as cheating) cause it will make sex a lot better for both of you. I've found maintaining an erection works pretty good for me. Never had any complaints, if anything, the complaint is that I take so long to cum a 2nd time...lol.
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^^^ staying hard is easy. I just hate my sloppy seconds LOL
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