[Confidential] Friend's sister
 

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Went to my one of my closer friends' (let's call him B) house party last week. Met his sister for the first time. Fell in love. There was clearly a connection made, but I was drunk and didn't want to do anything stupid. Didn't get her number, don't have her on Facebook. Usually family of friends is something I stay away from at all costs, but I don't know if I can avoid it this time.

Few things to consider...

- I'm pretty close with B. We hang out at least once a week.

- B's really protective of her. Whenever our friends joke about how hot his sister is, he gets mad. Like, for real mad.

- I'm a couple years older than B, but his sister is my age.

- B does have a lot of respect for me (not to brag, but I have a real job, have my shit together, etc.), and I have a lot of respect for him.

- Whenever we go out for drinks with the guys, more often than not, the conversation will steer towards girls, sex, new positions we tried, etc. This could get weird, him knowing all the stuff I've done with other girls.

So. The simplest and most obvious solution would be to just ask B if it's okay that I ask out his sister, and hope that that doesn't snip off a piece of our friendship. Either that, or not ask at all and just move on.

UGGHHH. What to do?

If you truly think there could be something special there, then....

- ask the friend. Hopefully he understands. If not, try other means to get he personal information.
- ultimately it's not up to him as it is not his business
- if everything goes well and you say dating her, if he is as close as you say you two are, he should warm up to the idea. He knows you are a good guy and knows you will treat her right. He may (and most likely) won't be happy with it at first. I guarantee he will come around and be happy such a good guy had met someone he cares so much for

IMO its just not worth it...

lets say you guys start dating and it doesn't work out. What then?

Not only would it be awkward from then on but your friendship with your friend 'B' might be ruined

keep your friend as your friend

there are a million girls in this world. to get one that puts your friendship in possibly some troublesome waters is not worth it

you could find a good connection with a lot of different girls. unless you live in a one horse town

Stay the fuck away:suspicious:

Move on

I think a couple of pictures will help us formulate some useful advice for you :thumbsup:

bro's before hoes.

just a crush, move on.

Sensitive area there.

Talk to the brother/friend and ask him how he would feel about it.

I know a few people who have been in the same shoes, and if you are truly a stand up guy that you paint yourself to be it can be done even if the relationship does not come to marriage etc.
A relationship like this is much like a camp sight, leave it better than the way you found it. If your a good guy and it does not work out then you should both be able to go your own ways in a mature manner and keep a friendship with her and her brother.

Its a risk with the friendship, but IF it worked out then that friend could be family and that would also be very cool.

Do you really want to bang your bro, but with long hair?

go for it. later on in life you will regret thinking of the what if's. of course, try and talk to B first and see how that goes before trying anything else.

Go for it man.

If you truly feel you are a good guy, your friend will want his sister to be with someone like you. If you're friendship is actually solid, dating his sister won't be able to ruin that.

BUT if you are at a stage in your life where you aren't looking for something serious then stay the fuck away. If you are in that boat, become friends with her and get her to hook you up with other women.

I'm going to assume you are young and haven't had to experience this yet. Most of my friends when I was in my teenage years to my early twenties are no longer relevant in my life. Not that they aren't friends but I only see maybe 2% of the people I hung out with lots in my early twenties on a semi-regular basis. People get older and they drift apart because of jobs, family, life in general. There is a chance in 5 years you may not even see this friend of yours more than twice a year. There is a chance this woman could be someone you marry. Worth a shot in my opinion.

I've gone with a few friends sisters and it hasn't ruined a single friendship. Only reason is because I'm a pretty respectable guy for the most part and don't treat them like dog shit. I'm still friends with each ex and their siblings.

:inout:

Play it cool and try to be hanging out with your bro while his sis is around, see if there is actually a connection but take it slow since its such a touchy subject. Make a random joke to your bro about taking his sis out to gauge his reaction and go from there.

:suspicious: :lawl:

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OP, you did mention you were drunk ... so since that party how many times have you seen her?

The following is a reply from the anonymous original poster

Thanks everyone for the replies and the lols so far. I'm well aware it's a stupid, delicate area.

To the post about our ages, we're in our mid 20's.

To the post about how close me and B are, he's almost like family. He comes to family parties, BBQ's, etc.

And that "fell in love" comment was just being cheeky.

I'm probably go about it along the lines of murd0c's advice. Just keep things really cool and somehow draw up another situation where I'll see her again and then determine whether or not it's worth asking about. If there might be something there, I'll venture a little deeper. If not, then I'll let it go.

EB stay away from my sister you Pervert

If you claim that B is indeed family, then he would surely approve of you going out with his sister, because you guys are family right? If he gets mad and disapproves, he may not be as close to you as you think, in his terms.

If B disapproves and as time goes by, you somehow become closer and falling even more for his sister, would you still stay away?

I would find a way to contact her, through facebook or whatever, just to keep in touch. If there really was a connection between you two, you don't want that to fade, and the culprit here is time.

Through countless times of "missed romance" (according to craiglist), I learn that life doesn't give second chances. By playing it cool, you are allowing fate to decide whether you two should "talk" again. Just go for it, if B gets mad, it won't be forever.

Bros will always be bros, no matter how hard they fight. If not, then they're not your bro. I don't see why he should interfere in two people having feelings for each other, they're feelings, not something people can just deny. That's like going out everyday, denying your feelings for everything (eating, talking, sitting, laughing) because someone will get mad.

this is an old aged conundrum.
do you go for sis, or do you not. it has both pitfalls and bliss.

if it was my sister, my protectiveness as a brother should also be conveyed by my bros and they should treat her as a sister as well....
BUT....

in the end my sister went for whoever she chose and if they didn't treat her well the ones i could find were slapped silly.
the ones who i was friends with when they broke up it was on good terms and i still talk to them, hell even the ones that didnt go that well i still talk to.

I guess what im getting at is...whatever we may feel about our friends dating our sisters, there's nothing we can really do about it because in the end .....

family>bros>hoes(or sisters) :okay: who wants to have a sister hate on you?

another thing...

my bestfriend is my SO's brother....we still talk about sex and all that shit but sometimes i'll say " bro i'd tell you about this one time but i'm pretty sure you don;t wanna picture your sister in that way" :badpokerface: go figure.

The heart (or penis) wants what the heart wants.

Generally, the more forbidden the fruit, the greater you'll want a taste. Telling you to move on is like telling you not to breath. It isn't going to be easy. Staying away is doable, but I guarantee you it'll be tough.

Also, for all we know the sister thinks you're a complete loser and wouldn't think twice about you. Let's not forget you were drunk and she was just being nice to you.

ive first hand experience.

it doesnt end well.

friend had a gorgeous sister, we all went to highschool together. granted we weren't the bestest of friends, but me and him would go to parties together, and go for drinks together etc. then one night i ran into his sister at a pub. she sat with me and my coworkers, we got drunk, hooked up, then it turned into a regular thing and going on dates. every time id feel just a bit guilty for not telling him, and in the end, we had to split ways. me and her had to call it off shortly after. and there was no way to mend the friendship between me and him after he found out from the two of us. he considered me a backstabber and i just had to face the fact that i should've told him from the start, or at least told him i ran into his sister and how shes fun to hang around with, and bring the situation to him slowly.

dont do it unless your friend is cool with it. some guys wont be. like you said, you and your buddies are out at a pub for wing night, and 90% of guys know wing night = tell your buds about your sex life. odds are he wont want to hear how to finally did anal with her or jizzed on her face.