ask yourself this question, if you let this chance slide, are you willing to accept the future full of WHAT IFs.

i'm not telling you to step in and try to break them up so you get a chance with her, but try and drop some hints and see how she reacts. if shes committed to her long distance relationship, then she will just stop you right there. what have you got to lose?

Ding ding ding. I dealt with that shit once, she always made it seem like she was on the verge of dumping her bf, when really she just wanted attention while he was away.

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She's not like most girls, I know she doing nothing for attention, and she definitely hates drama. I should have probably mentioned that this is her first and only boyfriend. Hahahahahahahahaha. We're both 20, they met when they were 13-14. She used to seem pretty committed but recently they have been fighting more and more. Its why I like her so much though, she ain't a basic bitch

she doesn't have a boyfriend of 6 years. she has a pen pal of 6 years.

just keep hanging out/texting/calling her and giving her attention. she'll realize its better to have physical contact than staring at a screen on skype while the guy jerks off for her.

That statement alone is enough for a :facepalm: , she's only 20, she doesn't even know herself yet. What are most girls like? There's no cookie cutter equation to how a girl is. I agree greatly with the above, the dude is only a pen pal. I say you go in balls deep, because your feelings won't change, you are looking at your relationship with her in a different way, and I know it may be hard for you to be friends with her too. So just talk to her and tell your you're into her, and you're not into just being friends with her.

I don't agree with stewie above in keep hanging out with her and blah blah, she will friendzone the fuck out of you if you don't act on what you're thinking.

in any case, generally, nowadays i don't think the relationship status of anyone even matters anymore.

I wish I could thank you 1000x for this statement alone.

Lets try and be abstract about this to take away ego.


For instance, you have a dream job. You apply, and you get it. But wait, here is where they tell you that you will be actually getting an internship. Furthermore, it is unpaid, but its the closest you can get to it. You actually need the money (you do not have any side jobs), but you decide that it is worth the gamble in that in the long run you will be actually landing the paid position.

You start, then they tell you that you cannot tell people you actually work there. You need to sign an NDA that enforces confidentiality in what is going on. Also, you are not actually doing the dream job (lets say, Director of Human Resources). You are actually just a doorman of the office and you only get to greet employees as they walk in.

You ask them how long this internship lasts, and they give you a vague non-answer.

You work here for about 3 months with the promise that you will actually one day get paid and get to do the actual job you were promised. They keep stringing you along with stories that are suppose to make your heart sink. Stories about how the situation is daunting and they need your emotional support for all the employees.

You work even harder, hoping that they notice your efforts. Maybe, they will finally appreciate what I have done.

Another 3 months pass by, and you get told the same thing as 3 months ago. You withhold the same hope that you will actually get paid/the position you wanted.

How many more months do you spend at this company in hopes that they fulfill their promise?

the direct:

I was thinking of doing this but I always just figured that they'd just break up, then when I realized they probably won't for a while I gave up. As much as I want to say something, she's also a really fucking good friend of mine, I don't want to fuck that up either though. I think I might just wait for the perfect time and just tell her

Just another FYI. that perfect time will never come. If you value your friendship over your potential relationship, this thread wouldn't have been created.

im sorry dude, but shes not really your friend at this point. there is an uneven/unbalance in the relationship

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I trust everything revscene says, this is the one time I'm a little iffy

who cares if shes a friend. unless shes one of your best friends, friends will come and go. might as well take advantage of what you have while you have it. I broke out of the friend zone with one girl i really liked, did the deed, then shit got awkward and we said fuck it and went our ways. did i care? meh...had fun while it lasted. do i miss her now...not a chance. out with the old, in with the new.

1. You flirt with her, she flirts back.
2. She's giving you signs to hit her up.
3. She's chill as fuck
4. It's a benefit if you could fuck her
5. In reality, she's single

...

6. But you want to be friends.

:fulloffuck:

I'm gonna go back to my first advice, if you're not gonna make your move now, leave her the fuck alone, as in stop hanging around with her with the little intent of wanting to be with her, but "ooooh, I don't wanna mess up our friendship because she's a really really good friend".

I don't see why you are so scared... if you like her, go for it. Be direct with your intentions - only "friendzoned" people I know (including myself back in my single days) were in there because they beat around the bush.

If it doesn't work, find a new friend. All this BS about "losing your friend'... which would you rather lose, a potential girlfriend or even life partner or a friend? Seems pretty obvious to me. It all comes down to what you value more. Personally I value a female who can be BOTH my best friend and my gf, which seems to me is what you have here.

Hate to say it, but 6 years of never seeing your "S.O" doesn't make it a relationship. I am not so sure that it's "homewrecking" when there was never a home to begin with.

There is no use giving advice to a pussy because there is basically 0 chance that they are going to put it in action anyways

Fuck you I'm not no pussy. I'm going to do it. She goes on vacation today for a couple weeks so I'll do it when she comes back

You guys have this all wrong.

BrownBear is the one friendzoning the girl.

You're a classic case of askhole.

hehe, just use the p-word and it can coerce anyone to do anything!!

just bang her and get it over with

it ain't rocket science

I'm really enjoying not being 20 right now. Wait 10 years and everything will be fine.

updates from op?

She comes back from vacation June 6.

LOOOOL this thread is still alive. BrownBearz u puss, is she going on vacation to go see her BOYFRIEND? lol Go download Tinder or something to get yourself over this one.