Advice Please
 

I have this friend, I have known her since since grade 6, but me and her didn't really become friends till about a year ago. Me and her talked every now and then, but we weren't friends. She's one of those super chill chicks that hates drama. Me and her have a lot of shared interest but a lot of difference too. She has a long distance relationship with this dude who lives in new York. They have been dating for like 6 years now. The thing is I I had a chance with her, but gave up till recently. We were talking girls I hooked up with, and girls I have been trying to hook up with and she said she straight up thought I could do much better then all of them. She's been kind of hitting on me, and I hit on her back. The thing is I gave up hope till recently. I don't want to fuck her, she's a really chill girl and I really like her, and she likes me back. Me and her have become really close friends these last couple years. I'm just wondering do you guys think there's a chance they'll break up? The have been close a couple times. I don't know if I should just move on or keep trying, so I'm doing what I always do when I need advice and asking revscene.

Long distance ratio ships don't work and she should break up with him. But that doesn't mean that YOU should break them up.

No real advice. Soeey

I'd never try to break them up. I hate his fucking guts, but she seems happy with him so I'm happy for her.

know what my last friend who had a long distance relationship with the guy in NY, he was ALREADY dating another chick over there.......

and this...
http://lolsnaps.com/upload_pic/3155.jpg

how old is OP?

They can work, but how long have they been apart and how much longer will they be apart?

Advice Please
 

They have only met once, but she wants to go see him again soon. if I had a long distance relationship I'd be fucking another bitch too

6 years and they've only met once?

me too

Ya, and they didn't even fuck. What's the point of going that far, and not getting some

Is this real life?

"They never Fucked " "you don't want to fuck her"

1. You don't want to fuck her.
2. But you'll fuck other bitches if you were in a long distance relationship.
3. Exactly. What's the point of getting with this girl, if you don't wanna fuck her?

Leave this girl alone dude. She'll be happier with her 6 year long distance relationship than with somebody who doesn't know what he wants.

[quote=mr_chin;8632528]1. You don't want to fuck her.
2. But you'll fuck other bitches if you were in a long distance relationship.
3. Exactly. What's the point of getting with this girl, if you don't wanna fuck her?

Leave this girl alone dude. She'll be happier with her 6 year long distance relationship than with somebody who doesn't know what he wants.[/QUOTE

1. Sorry what I meant was fucking her would be a benefit, I don't want to go out with her just for sex.
2. If I was in a long distance relationship I'd be fucking other chicks, unless it turned super serious who wouldn't.
3. I wanna get with her cause she's chill AF and I like her.
I kinda gave up hope a while ago, but she been dropping hints and shit that I got a chance so I'm just wondering if it's even worth waiting it out or not. I know long distances relationship rarely work but they have been together so long idk. She's been close to breaking up with him before so idk

Sorry to break it to you but just because a girl says "you can do much better" and is flirting with you doesn't mean you have a chance. What I can tell you that you definitely do have a chance of is being that little side piece that is there to give her attention that she craves and the excitement in person. But her commitment has been made to her long-distance boyfriend that's obvious if she's been in a 6 year relationship with him without seeing him more than once.

If attention is all you're looking for too, by all means, continue. But understand that this girl is most likely just enjoying the attention you give her.

Ask her how serious her relationship could be considering they've seen each other once in 6 years (lol btw). Let her know how you feel and go from there. If she shuts you down, move on because spending more time with her will only suck more for you in the long run.

I doubt she's friends with me for attention only. She hates drama, she not into that shit. I'm not looking for attention either. Only reason I think o have a chance is cause me and usually spend all day talking at work and all day after work just hanging out

First person to give actual advice. Thanks

MOST girls SAY they "hate drama." I tend to find the ones that self-proclaim that they hate drama are the most dramatic.

Any ways, best of luck.

Thanks. I have never had any problems with her and drama so I doubt I will

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If the signs are obvious, then a make a move. Fuck the other guy, no other way to say it nicely because if there was, you'd finish last.

1. She's not married.
2. She's here, with you.
3. This dude, does he even exist? Have you seen him?

It all comes down to what you and her want. Do you want her to be in a better relationship with a guy that's physically here? That will celebrate her birthday every year, here with her? And if things go long term, you will be here to meet her families on special occasions and not 5000 miles somewhere else?

EDIT - After reading the other user's post, I want to add, what do you or anybody mean that they've been together for 6 years. They've been distant and only met once. How is that "together"? More like, they've known each other for 6 years and you've known her since grade 6, so who's longer? I am 99% sure she wants an actual relationship unless this guy in New York is a CEO that makes $300k a month, your chances are high.

TL;DR - Make your move, if she rejects you, stop talking to her and move on.

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To echo this

dont believe what girls say, believe what they do. very emotional dominated creatures

if you have to assume shit, it just ain't going to work.
if you had to ask a girl about her stance about the other guy, drama or what not... damnnnnnn

Throw her in the back burner and she'll be allll over you...

Nobody has a relationship from someone on the other coast, for 6 years, only seen each other once... lol.

My only thought in this is, theres a lot of relationships that are long distance but work out because the people have built a solid base prior to one having to move away for a while. That's what I consider a long distance relationship, and those work, not all the time, but sometimes.

Now having a non physical relationship, through texting, calling, and pictures is nothing without any solid base behind it. Seeing each other one time is not a solid base, there are so many factors that come into play when they do get together that most likely they won't end up together. One day spurts of omg great couple time is not enough to determine whether you are in a relationship or not, because you always put your best self forward when you see someone say once every six years, or so. You also let a lot of things slide just because you're only seeing them once in a long fucking while.

Just my opinion. A long distance relationship that is based on no solid actual relationship couple time is doomed to fail once they get together and start annoying the fuck out of each other.

FYI. If they haven't seen each other for six years, if she most likely goes and sees him now, they will be fucking.