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man, just get a rich divorced chinese chick with a daughter and call it a day
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MG1: in fact, a new term needs to make its way into the American dictionary. Trump............ he's such a "Trump" = ultimate insult. Like, "yray, you're such a trump."
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I think you are mistaken in that belief. Same sex relationships are WAY more dramatic lol.
you know this from first hand experience?
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man, just get a rich divorced chinese chick with a daughter and call it a day
that ferrari chick at my gym (whos been missing MIA for the past 6 months) fits that category. Thats the type gerbs should go for.. i mean looking the way he does, i dont know why he has problems. If i looked like that, id be the biggest hebitch manwhore you've ever seen. Id probably get these bitches to buy me ferraris and pateks.
Thats the type gerbs should go for.. i mean looking the way he does, i dont know why he has problems. If i looked like that, id be the biggest hebitch manwhore you've ever seen. Id probably get these bitches to buy me ferraris and pateks.
i have a too many choice problem, waiting to mature to a phase where pretty girls have no effect on me
LOLWUT?! That could totally have been your "Auntie, I don't wanna work hard anymore" moment! (Please google 阿姨，我不想努力了 if you dunno what I'm talking about )
You could go that route, but you better have your body ready anytime. And I mean anytime.
Some of these aunties are also into some freakish stuff. Sure you will be able to afford Porsches pretty quickly, but it might not matter since it will hurt when you sit in them... Or sit on any surfaces, for that matter.
A little soreness sitting down on surfaces sounds like an acceptable trade to get myself into a high end Porsche~
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The whole world has gone down a road no one can recover from, and it's nothing to do with governments, it's because so much of the general public is so fucking stupid.
Given how this thread has evolved (and exploded beyond its original intention) I thought this article, written by Debra Soh, is not only relevant to our discussions, but covers a variety of themes that have surfaced throughout the last nine pages. I'm quite surprised that that themes we've discussed aren't just real, but they are researched.
For those of you who are parents, there are some interesting points that may be of interest to you. My caveat is take the article with a grain of salt, and use your own personal judgement.
Debra Soh
Special to The Globe and Mail
Published 15 hours ago
For Subscribers
Debra Soh is a sex neuroscientist and the author of Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy.
The average child today is exposed to pornography by the age of 12. Roughly one in seven kids sees it by the age of 10 or younger.
Although a child’s initial exposure to porn is usually accidental, for many, porn viewing becomes habitual. By the age of 16, more than 70 per cent of boys are watching porn five times a week. Most of us would agree that exposure to adult content at a young age is not healthy. But what are the consequences, and how harmful are they?
More than half of Canadians were using the internet on a regular basis, by 2001, when the oldest members of Generation Z (born between 1997 and 2012) were only four years old. Before experiencing their first crush or kiss, this cohort of kids would become privy to the darkest recesses of the internet. As someone who was once a columnist for a well-known men’s magazine that featured nude women, I previously believed porn was harmless entertainment. But after conducting my own research more recently, I’ve realized the hazardous effects of porn are far-reaching, affecting not only young people’s dating and sex lives, but also, their mental health and broader well-being.
If a child regularly watches porn prior to their first sexual experience, this can shape their sexual preferences and behaviour. At its extreme, this has manifested as an increase in child-on-child sex crimes, with children victimizing their younger family members and peers. Of seven-to-11-year-olds in treatment for problematic sexual behaviours, 75 per cent of boys and 67 per cent of girls experienced early sexualization through online porn. A report from Britain described how a 12-year-old boy strangled a girl during their first kiss because he saw it in porn and thought it was normal.
Indeed, porn has spawned an epidemic of violent sex, including sexual choking (also known as sexual strangulation), in adults’ sex lives. But while Millennial women have protested this abusive and potentially fatal act, many Gen Z women oblige. In my opinion, porn exposure at a young age convinced Gen Z girls they have no choice but to like it. Adolescents who were raised on porn may believe this is how they must perform during sex to please their partner. For those who don’t want to, they may decide sex isn’t for them. In addition to corrupting young people’s sexual encounters, porn has the potency to replace them outright. Dating has been steadily on the decline among Gen Z; less than half of high school seniors report ever going on dates in 2024, compared with nearly 90 per cent in the 1980s. Of young adults, less than a third are actively dating.
From a neuroscientific standpoint, porn activates the same brain regions that are involved during sexual activity. The viewer obtains sexual access on demand with an unlimited number of partners, while sidestepping any potential downsides of dating, including rejection, investing money and effort, and needing social skills so that the other person wants to sleep with you. The problem is that watching porn (and having an accompanying orgasm) sedates men and further disincentivizes them from working up the courage to meet women in real life, especially post-#MeToo. This further perpetuates their belief that sex with an imaginary partner on a screen is equivalent or preferable to the real thing. Pornography consumption is associated with negative body image in both sexes, which can lessen their desire to interact with the opposite sex. The glorification of platforms like OnlyFans and the pornification of social media sites has additionally warped girls’ minds with messaging that hypersexualization is not only normative, but aspirational.
It’s a lot to live up to, and Gen Z women are pursuing cosmetic procedures, including breast augmentation and labiaplasty, to emulate the figure of a porn star. And Gen Z men, not spared from this brainwashing, are driving the popularity of interventions like penis filler injections to increase the girth of their manhood so they more closely resemble male porn actors. In the realm of mental health, it’s well-documented that Gen Z suffers from anxiety and loneliness more than any previous generation. Potential explanations for this have included parental safetyism, digital nativism, social media, and excessive screen time.
I would expect that porn plays a role in perpetuating Gen Z’s poorer mental health, as porn viewing can increase social isolation and, in my research experience, is associated with poor coping skills, depression, and anxiety. This may seem bleak, but all is not lost. A growing number of Gen Zers are quitting porn with the goal of improving their productivity, self-discipline, and health. Men who have successfully cut porn out have told me doing so helped their self-esteem and renewed their motivation to pursue women they are interested in, in real life. If you are a young man (or woman) who is struggling, know that it may take several attempts to quit, but you can do it.
For parents of young children, it’s crucial to talk to your kids about the dangers of porn before they encounter it. Nowadays, this likely means having conversations about sex and bodies much sooner than you had anticipated.
Once porn sites have hooked a child, they have a customer for life. Gen Z were lured into consuming this content without their understanding or consent, against a cultural backdrop that champions sexual permissiveness. In the coming years, we will continue discovering how this ongoing, worldwide experiment has moulded a generation of unsuspecting children in devastating ways.
I have some time to kill, so some random thoughts after going through the whole thread so far:
IMO, some of the criticism directed against girls can apply to both sides, like girls going for the top 10% of guys on dating platforms. Lots of guys would go for the top 10% of the girls as well (which is why that top 10% girls just need to swipe the likes they received), even though they are 2 or 3 themselves. Not trying to defend the delulu girls out there - I would avoid them as well, but there are guys that are delulu as well. Like for the guys that somehow thinks 8 likes are not enough, drop the phone and hit the gym, pick a hobby, etc. Focus on self improvement if you are having absolutely zero luck on the app and is desperate enough to keep paying.
Used to have a pretty hot HK coworker and there were times when she left for work, random people on Skytrain would hit on her, and even worse, there were creeps that actually followed and bugged her the whole way from work to the Skytrain station.
App has its problems, of course, but one thing that's good about it is that people are generally on there to date. There are the delulu ones that just want the attention, of course, but one thing that can be awkward with IRL is figuring out if someone is single (there can be clues but it's not always clear), and beyond that, if someone is just overly friendly with you without actually wanting to date (intentionally or unintentionally). People can go on apps to cheat as well, but if that happens, or you just don't vibe with the girl, you do have the option of just ghosting. I have chatted with a girl before that basically had 0 EQ, and when she crossed the line, I just stopped chatting with her. If you got to know someone IRL at a hobby club or something and it doesn't work out, it's awkward unless one of you drop out, and people in that circle might start gossiping. Pros and cons for each approach, really just depends on the style. I tend to over-worry so IRL is tricky for me, but I am not rejecting that possibility entirely, either.
I can see porn as a factor (thanks for getting past the paywall for us!), but another one is that some of us come from divorced parents ourselves, so our views of love/relationship can be a bit different. I have a girl friend I chat with often that comes from a divorced family like me. She is in an LTR but she pretty much said she doesn't believe in love, really, and sees it a means to an end. I personally am just a lot more cautious about relationships since I wouldn't want my future kids to go through what I had to.
gotta find the ones with more cuffed friends than single friends
when they be listening to their perpetually single friends, its' a bad time
From my own personal experience, married girls do not tend to give good advice to their single friends either lol. There are so many of them who say things like "just marry someone rich, at least you'd be comfortable" which is direct shade at their husbands. Never mind that he (likely) busts his ass to provide for you and your family, he's just not as good as the lifestyles you see provided to rich people on your social media feeds!
Even my own female friends, some of which I truly respect and care about have awful, awful advice when it comes to dating. I mentioned this in another thread but once I stopped listening to advice from girls, things got better. There's a saying out there along the lines of don't ask the fish how to catch them and it's pretty true. They all meant well but they made my situation worse more often than not. I cannot tell you how many times I was told it was entirely my fault that things weren't working with the girls I were interested in despite it being the advice they themselves gave me.
Now, to Jinx's point, yes of course men can be absolutely awful when it comes to dating. They're the ones that ruin it for the rest of us who are genuinely good guys looking for LTR. You've got guys who cheat, guys who lie about everything, creeps, weirdos, stalkers, and the ones who are truly violent and horrible human beings. A girl has to navigate their away around all of this and it can be horrifying.
But the thing is, if they're attracted to an asshole then choose to marry the asshole, they can't complain that he's an asshole. YOU chose this dude, you KNEW what he was before you got married. More than likely it's because he was handsome/tall/wealthy that you thought you could change him or at least accept his behaviour. This goes back to choosing those "top tier" men and thinking they'll be faithful to you. These men have hordes of women throwing themselves at him. Marriage doesn't mean shit to the girl who's trying to steal your man or at least get some perks out of a fling.
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