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06-08-2011, 04:22 PM
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My girlfriend has a co worker who is trying so hard to flirt with her. The other day he gave presents and now he keeps calling and calling around 12 pm to pick her up. I am a very nice guy but my GF is telling me that he is very annoying and being creepy but is very nice... What is the best solution to stop all this? It is annoying that I skype with her and i hear him calling like 5 times late late at night. It is mostly annoying her because i find it cute but we are confused what to do! I do not want to hurt him but he has to know some time... She and I have never told anyone to *back off* before
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06-08-2011, 04:29 PM
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Does the dude know you exist?
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06-08-2011, 04:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Tachycardia! The following post is from an anonymous member. If she would like to reply to any replies please pm me. |
edit. are you a lesbian?
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06-08-2011, 04:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Tachycardia! The following post is from an anonymous member. If she would like to reply to any replies please pm me. | Waitaminute here... is the OP a girl too?
Are we talking about a lesbian relationship here?
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06-08-2011, 04:39 PM
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similar thing happened to my girlfriend, except the calling. i started showing up on her breaks and picking her up and dropping her off to work. he knew she had a boyfriend but hasn't seen me until i started showing myself more. i guess he decided to back off from there on. there was also a new girl that started working, and now they are together LOL. getting married soon actually
anyways, defend your relationship and girlfriend from guys like you mentioned. they aren't going to stop until they get what they want. have a talk with him or perhaps scare him in some way :rofl not with weapons/threats, but show that your tough and don't want anything to do with him. you're the man of the relationship! i'm not a therapist, but there's my 2 cents. hope it helps
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06-08-2011, 05:16 PM
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I am not a lesbian. Some information i forgot to add is that he is trying to pick her up to go work the next day in the morning. Not picking her up to go out. And no, he does not know i exist.
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Originally Posted by MG1 She taught me right from wrong and always told me to stay positive and help others no matter how small the deed - that helping others gives us meaning to carry on. The sun is out today and it's a new day. Life is good. I just needed a slap in the face. | |
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06-08-2011, 05:22 PM
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letting the guy know she has a boyfriend is the first step my friend.
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06-08-2011, 05:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Anon he does not know i exist. | WTF, dude? Your GF needs to get past the basics before you move on to asking for help.
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06-08-2011, 07:36 PM
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^Agreed, why hasnt she mentioned you?
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06-08-2011, 10:21 PM
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man up and be an alpha instead of a beta.
let it be known that you exist and if done correctly, he'll back off.
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06-08-2011, 10:45 PM
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She didn't mention about it because he knew her longer than I have as a co worker and friend and we just got together. I guess she will have to sooner or later and it is best if it's asap. Thx for replys
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Originally Posted by MG1 She taught me right from wrong and always told me to stay positive and help others no matter how small the deed - that helping others gives us meaning to carry on. The sun is out today and it's a new day. Life is good. I just needed a slap in the face. | |
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06-08-2011, 11:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Tachycardia! The following is a reply from the Anonymous member
She didn't mention about it because he knew her longer than I have as a co worker and friend and we just got together. I guess she will have to sooner or later and it is best if it's asap. Thx for replys | Doesn't matter, she should definitely be clear about her situation. She maybe immature <24?
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06-09-2011, 12:02 AM
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lol if the girl really hates the guy file a hrassment report at work. I mean he is hrassing her and calling her out of work time when she clearly does not want this to happen.
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06-09-2011, 12:26 AM
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OP, tell your GF to let her co-worker know about you two casually. Example:
Co-worker: Hey, want me to pick you up tmrw?
GF: Haha thanks but I don't think my BF will like that.
Co-worker: 
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06-09-2011, 12:32 AM
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Can't really blame the guy on this one. If any, blame goes to the gf.
Have her mention she has a bf, and if he continues it, all really depends on his next moves. I mean, as for now, he's not doing anything bad, right? Posted via RS Mobile |
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06-09-2011, 01:42 AM
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Originally Posted by vafanculo Can't really blame the guy on this one. If any, blame goes to the gf.
Have her mention she has a bf, and if he continues it, all really depends on his next moves. I mean, as for now, he's not doing anything bad, right? Posted via RS Mobile | the gf may subconciously enjoy the attention. maybe she even expects you to do something.
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06-09-2011, 03:20 AM
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Go to Wal-Mart and buy a TAPOUT shirt, and go have a little chat with him.
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06-09-2011, 05:32 AM
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#18 | What hasn't Killed me, has made me more tolerant of RS!
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Originally Posted by SkinnyPupp Go to Wal-Mart and buy a TAPOUT shirt, and go have a little chat with him. | LOL Posted via RS Mobile |
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06-09-2011, 06:26 AM
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If he doesn't know you exist then why the fuck did you make this thread? How can you blame a guy for being nice (which is just a nice way of saying he's trying to get her to like him) when he has NO REASON not to. All your GF would have to say when he offers her a ride is "No thanks my Boyfriend is giving me a ride but thanks for the offer"
If buddy get's all pissed off then he clearly was out for the pussy. If he says "Oh Ok cool maybe some other time" Then he's still out for the pussy but being smart about it.
If he says "BF what the hell why didn't you tell me? When did you get a BF? Blah blah" then that just confirms that he's out for the pussy and your GF was letting him think he had a chance at it. Either way though he's out for the pussy and your GF needs to let him know that she isn't gonna give it up.
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06-09-2011, 09:36 AM
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He gives her presents? Tell your GF to tell the guy that she really likes PS3 games..
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06-09-2011, 10:32 AM
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Originally Posted by freakshow He gives her presents? Tell your GF to tell the guy that she really likes PS3 games.. | or something you guys needs.. ipad2? new cell phone.. haha.. j/k
but yea, she needs to let him know that she has a BF and not interested in him, otherwise, he may think shes playing hard to get...
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06-09-2011, 10:59 AM
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Originally Posted by xmisstrinh letting the guy know she has a boyfriend is the first step my friend. | Quote:
Originally Posted by Berzerker If he doesn't know you exist then why the fuck did you make this thread? How can you blame a guy for being nice (which is just a nice way of saying he's trying to get her to like him) when he has NO REASON not to. All your GF would have to say when he offers her a ride is "No thanks my Boyfriend is giving me a ride but thanks for the offer"
If buddy get's all pissed off then he clearly was out for the pussy. If he says "Oh Ok cool maybe some other time" Then he's still out for the pussy but being smart about it.
If he says "BF what the hell why didn't you tell me? When did you get a BF? Blah blah" then that just confirms that he's out for the pussy and your GF was letting him think he had a chance at it. Either way though he's out for the pussy and your GF needs to let him know that she isn't gonna give it up.
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What if the dude never gives up, since they work together? Not everyone is Joe_45/B.Chow/S.malone you know.
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06-09-2011, 01:38 PM
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#23 | What hasn't Killed me, has made me more tolerant of RS!
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Originally Posted by tiger_handheld What if the dude never gives up, since they work together? Not everyone is Joe_45/B.Chow/S.malone you know. | well if he dosen't give up...then...show up at her work
if the guy is SMRT enough then he should know the guys rule if he was told about the BF
it's like.....girl has bf = backoff and don't do anything else and go look for someone else
if girl is single = go for it.....
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06-09-2011, 01:54 PM
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How about next time he calls while you're with her, you pick up the phone?
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06-09-2011, 06:14 PM
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maybe your girl just likes the attention, personally i'd confront him, be like "HEY, i know where you live" Quote:
Originally Posted by terryjai well if he dosen't give up...then...show up at her work
if the guy is SMRT enough then he should know the guys rule if he was told about the BF
it's like.....girl has bf = backoff and don't do anything else and go look for someone else
if girl is single = go for it..... | not necessarily, if a girl doesn't immediately mention that she has a bf then that gives the guy reason to believe shes not happy and quite possibly wants the dicking from someone else. I'm sure there are guys here that will also agree
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