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12-20-2008, 03:51 PM
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#26 | Willing to sell body for a few minutes on RS
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Originally Posted by Inaii Why should he have to play her mind games though? Why can't girls just be straight up about if they like someone or not. It isn't that hard!!! Quit the fucking head games, we're not in high school anymore kiddies! Jesus. | Not even sure it's so much of as a head game as you don't know what you got till it's gone. If she didn't want it to begin with which is probably the case then it's also a great way for him to move on and find someone else.
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12-20-2008, 05:23 PM
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Man I know it's tough.. I know exactly what you're feeling.
You don't really wanna move on and it seems impossible.. at least it does for me at the moment.
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12-20-2008, 08:16 PM
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#28 | What hasn't Killed me, has made me more tolerant of RS!
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Nintensity, if you truly still have those feelings for her, I think you should move on for the time being. If she doesn't want to be more than just friends, and you have already tried being more than that, you are just hurting yourself (making yourself seem more desperate) and forcing this issue will not make it any better since it is clearly that you two are not at the same level anymore.
Give it sometime, and try to limit your contact with her. In a few months, if you still have those feelings for her, meet up with her and try to discover where she is at. She might have already moved on, or she finally realizes that she misses you and that you are very important part of your life.
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12-20-2008, 08:20 PM
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#29 | What hasn't Killed me, has made me more tolerant of RS!
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Originally Posted by Inaii Why can't girls just be straight up about if they like someone or not. It isn't that hard!!! Quit the fucking head games, we're not in high school anymore kiddies! Jesus. | I would like to know this as well. The way we think is different the way they think. They think they are right when we think they are wrong and vice versa.. It is kind of sad because both are right and both are wrong. |
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12-20-2008, 08:51 PM
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^She's a girl too, dude.
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12-20-2008, 09:29 PM
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#31 | My name is Michael. J. Caboose, and I hate BABIES!
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Lol, shhh Alatar. You're giving me away!!
But he's right. I am a girl, I just find head games (from either side) to be ridiculously annoying and a waste of time. I wouldn't want someone to play games with me, so why should I play games with other people? I have no issue in telling someone I find them attractive or that I want to date them. So I'm not sure why other girls do.
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12-20-2008, 09:47 PM
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#32 | What hasn't Killed me, has made me more tolerant of RS!
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^^ lol I didn't know that you were a girl! Sorry |
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12-21-2008, 02:50 AM
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Tell her to fuck off. She's just using you as a safety net because she knows that no matter how shitty she feels, she can come to you and feel good because you'll shower her with the attention she thinks she deserves.
It's tough but you gotta know when its a lost cause. Follow what Grandmaster said because I'm going through something similar and I've had enough of it. Sometimes you just need a good dose of reality to slap you in the face before you realize it.
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12-21-2008, 11:48 AM
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#34 | OMGWTFBBQ is a common word I say everyday
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AHAHA, lovely attitude.
Anyhow, yes tell her to fuck off, or just fuck off yourself. "That hoe ain't worth your time!"
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12-21-2008, 12:04 PM
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#35 | Wunder? Wonder?? Wander???
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Originally Posted by quasi Not even sure it's so much of as a head game as you don't know what you got till it's gone. If she didn't want it to begin with which is probably the case then it's also a great way for him to move on and find someone else. | the fact that he has made advances and she constantly rejects those advances is a sure sign that she doesn't want to be involved romantically. but i'm sure any normal, self-respecting human being would see these signs and say, "hey, i don't feel we are right for each other."
and the reason she hasn't done so? well, we all interpret things in different ways. |
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12-21-2008, 12:18 PM
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Originally Posted by LC21 ^
AHAHA, lovely attitude.
Anyhow, yes tell her to fuck off, or just fuck off yourself. "That hoe ain't worth your time!" | I'm just a bitter old man that broke up from a 4.5 year relationship.
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12-21-2008, 03:09 PM
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#37 | My name is Michael. J. Caboose, and I hate BABIES!
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Originally Posted by poweredbyph ^^ lol I didn't know that you were a girl! Sorry | Haha no worries =[ People always seem to think I'm a guy for some reason. I guess I type like one? O.o Who knows...
Anywho, any news? Or is tomorrow the "last date"?
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12-21-2008, 10:43 PM
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Tomorrow is going to be the last date. Then after, i'm going to cut off all communication with her (not block, just 'unavailable' for her) and see where it's going to take me.
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12-21-2008, 11:11 PM
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whatever you do, don't get weak when she comes crying to you to spend time with her after you do end communication with her. cause chances are, she's only missing you cause her dumb ass is lonely and needs to feel wanted.
that's when you tell them to die and block/delete them from your life.
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12-22-2008, 12:49 AM
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Originally Posted by Ch28 Tell her to fuck off. She's just using you as a safety net because she knows that no matter how shitty she feels, she can come to you and feel good because you'll shower her with the attention she thinks she deserves.
It's tough but you gotta know when its a lost cause. Follow what Grandmaster said because I'm going through something similar and I've had enough of it. Sometimes you just need a good dose of reality to slap you in the face before you realize it. | you're lucky, i was gonna dropkick you until you came back to reality
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12-22-2008, 12:50 AM
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#41 | To me, there is the Internet and there is RS
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Originally Posted by Nintensity Tomorrow is going to be the last date. Then after, i'm going to cut off all communication with her (not block, just 'unavailable' for her) and see where it's going to take me. | i say don't even go on the date
just say you can't do it and go have fun doing something else
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12-22-2008, 09:43 AM
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Originally Posted by Inaii Why should he have to play her mind games though? Why can't girls just be straight up about if they like someone or not. It isn't that hard!!! Quit the fucking head games, we're not in high school anymore kiddies! Jesus. | he is not playing mind games. The girl DOES NOT want you to hug her, does NOT want you to push her aggressiveness towards her, does not want you to sit on the same couch. WOW, how much more does a girl have to tell you that GTFO, you are just my friend.....
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12-22-2008, 09:48 AM
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Originally Posted by Nintensity Tomorrow is going to be the last date. Then after, i'm going to cut off all communication with her (not block, just 'unavailable' for her) and see where it's going to take me. | yup. when she calls (if she does ever call you) "how come you're not calling me anymore"
Response: "i'm just busy, what's up girl?" be assertive and ask her what she wants to do, throw the ball in her court, make her talk.
if she msn "hey, i need (keyword) to go to metro, wanna come"
respond: "NO, i'm busy with Jill (random girl)" whoever it is just make her jealous. don't fall into the trap.
when she asks you twice, THEN you go out with her and then MEET her there and just try to be like a jerk. Stop giving her rides and treating her this and that, just BE MOTHER FOOKING YOURSELF for once and she'll be all over you.
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12-22-2008, 10:56 AM
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we're not going to go out tonight. I text messaged her at around 5am this morning before work and asked if she's still down for our thing this evening. No reply. I've just given up on her. Not going to talk to her and if she asks if she wants to hang.. i'll just bitch up and say that i'm too busy nowadays.
aghh its painful but its the only chance for me to move on i guess.
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12-22-2008, 11:02 AM
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#45 | To me, there is the Internet and there is RS
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Originally Posted by Nintensity we're not going to go out tonight. I text messaged her at around 5am this morning before work and asked if she's still down for our thing this evening. No reply. I've just given up on her. Not going to talk to her and if she asks if she wants to hang.. i'll just bitch up and say that i'm too busy nowadays.
aghh its painful but its the only chance for me to move on i guess. | good job bro
plenty of other girls out there, you're bound to find one
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12-22-2008, 11:05 AM
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Originally Posted by Nintensity we're not going to go out tonight. I text messaged her at around 5am this morning before work and asked if she's still down for our thing this evening. No reply. I've just given up on her. Not going to talk to her and if she asks if she wants to hang.. i'll just bitch up and say that i'm too busy nowadays.
aghh its painful but its the only chance for me to move on i guess. |
it'll be okay sweetie!! tons of other girls out there that is worth your time.
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12-22-2008, 11:21 AM
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Originally Posted by Nintensity we're not going to go out tonight. I text messaged her at around 5am this morning before work and asked if she's still down for our thing this evening. No reply. I've just given up on her. Not going to talk to her and if she asks if she wants to hang.. i'll just bitch up and say that i'm too busy nowadays.
aghh its painful but its the only chance for me to move on i guess. |
I know this game too. Her replies take time because you're not really high on her priority list. Trust me, if a girl likes you, she responds ASAP.
Anyways, GJ moving on. It would have really fucked you up big time when you've invested so much effort in her, and a guy she likes comes along and takes her for a fraction of the effort you've placed.
That'll fuck your mind right out.
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12-22-2008, 12:21 PM
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I know this game too. Her replies take time because you're not really high on her priority list. Trust me, if a girl likes you, she responds ASAP. |
First thing that went on through my mind. Done.
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12-22-2008, 12:33 PM
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if your caucasian, miss crayon love you long time.
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12-22-2008, 01:27 PM
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...and if I'm not?
lol I'm her son.
(stay on topic!)
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