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hey brad. remember you gave me shit for suggestin an escort.

I think now is the time :)

if she aint feeling it, abort.

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Originally Posted by bradfordchow (Post 6191525)

By now we're both on the couch side by side watching "My Sassy Girl (Korean Ver.) My mind was like the Formula Grand Prix just thoughts zooming left and right. Honest to God I was trying to remember the advice given to me from RS'ers about not over-thinking (oh the irony) every little detail. Lets set the record straight here, I wasn't being liberated or inaugurated as the first African American President, no...
I was doing everything short of what an Alpha Male would have done in my situation. Case in point, just screwing things up one move after another like some dunder head. All was well until I went for the shirt. Made sure to massage her then swiftly and seductively ramp up the "kino escalation" by sitting behind her like that famous pottery scene in the movie "ghost". In that position I played with her stomache and bellybutton. I even went so far as to get a few inadvertent boob touches along the way. But in the end I could definitely sense her apprehension and I didn't want to push too far and risk it. The good thing in all of this was the fact I didn't let this phase me one bit. We watched the movie together and cuddled then called it a night. On the other hand it kinda sucks because I had the condoms out ready to wrap up my jimmy. All is well since it gives me more time to prepare and get up to speed with sexual techniques. I realize this is an unexpected setback but its not deterring me one iota cause my will is strong.

You bring shame to my name.:mad:

sounds like you're doing good so far man, taking things easy and not pushing her too much. just take it slow and things will take their course. from the sounds of things tho you're quite a ways from having sex with this girl imo.

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Originally Posted by miss_crayon (Post 6193196)

if she aint feeling it, abort.

exactly

why do every short of being an alpha male. why not just go alpha. it worked for ryu. also, every time you take it almost there, then stop short, it makes it more confusing and uncomfortable for the girl. better she know its coming then have you second guess her a million times then surprise her the one day when you finally have the balls. you dont have to succeed in going all the way but you do have to at least try so that she knows whats up.

Holy shit. It's this epic shit again. I will seriously copy and paste this text and publish a book for you. You should write some erotic novels too :P

This thread is fail without updates.

2009.. Oh how time flies.

My New Years was spectacular and it's the first time I've ever blacked out from drinking hard. It was also my first time puking my guts out and probably my last time I'll ever drink that much again. 6 beers & 5 shots of 151 got me totally wasted :\

Lately I've been keeping busy with work, hitting the gym and trying to keep the gfd happy. Not an easy bunch of tasks to juggle.
I'm already starting to plan for Valentine's Day. If I save up enough extra cash my plan is to book an all inclusive trip package to Mexico at one of their resorts in Cancun or Puerto Vallarta.. We'll see how my finances are considering boxing day, xmas took an absolute beating on my wallet.

Finally, I'd like to address the topic of escorts which was mentioned in my last reply.
The reason I brought up escorts was not because I was foolish enough to believe I'd go to one or whatever. A couple of my friends have gone so naturally it's something we 'guys' talk about. I checked out a local website which discusses escorts, its crazy. I guess its true that curiosity killed the cat. With me being a virgin and all, the curiousness just got the better of me.
I kind of regret bringing it up because I feel like I've lost the respect of some of you. If thats the case, I apologize. Being as though sex is on my mind literally 24/7, sometimes irrationality gets the better of me.

Bradford's New Years Resolution for 2009... (shhhh.. it's a secret ;) )

HAPPY NEW YEARS RS

Peace out

Live life and party hard

B. Chow

if you havent felt her up, or gone down on her you def are not ready for sex.

^ exactly, so...why are you thinking of taking her to Mexico already?

& maybe all the booze and the whole sex on the beach fantasy...

i think you're rushing into this relationship way too fast. already planning a trip to mexico, it's not my place to say whether or not you should but i think you need to reconsider all of the actions you're making and maybe turn down the speed of which you are taking things.

That is one 'lucky' girl. :rolleyes:

You're spending way too much on this girl.

MEXICO? what the fuck? you guys only went out for like a month..

You are setting yourself up for a huge fall if things don't work out.

Everything that everyones saying I said previously. Its all gone to come down crumbling.

This shit even feels fake to me.

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Originally Posted by Dinan3 (Post 6204729)

You're spending way too much on this girl.

agree. rookie mistakes i guess, did that wit the first one. Spoiling her without even getting in her pants is the worst thing u can do at this point.

whoaaaaa how long have u guys been going out?
sounds like a 2 yr+ so relationship to me without the sex.. with all the gifts n trips
MEXICO?!
shes sure lucky..but whoaaa maybe u shud slow down a bit. ur moving really fast on the relationship level, but skipping the intimacy.
have u talked about sex with her yet?
also, figure this thing out and HAVE SEX IN MEXICO=)
good luck with everything and update!!
p.s. how far are you with her now?

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Originally Posted by bradfordchow (Post 6204150)

Finally, I'd like to address the topic of escorts which was mentioned in my last reply.
The reason I brought up escorts was not because I was foolish enough to believe I'd go to one or whatever. A couple of my friends have gone so naturally it's something we 'guys' talk about. I checked out a local website which discusses escorts, its crazy. I guess its true that curiosity killed the cat. With me being a virgin and all, the curiousness just got the better of me.
I kind of regret bringing it up because I feel like I've lost the respect of some of you. If thats the case, I apologize. Being as though sex is on my mind literally 24/7, sometimes irrationality gets the better of me.

Dude, you're doing more or less the same thing. Instead of paying straight-up money for sex. You're buying her sex with Jewelry, Skiing Getaways and Mexico Trips.

Just as you look down on people who go to seek the services of strippers or hookers, a lot of people also look down on guys who buy a girls love & sex. In the end, you may have not gone to a hooker but you're no more righteous than the guys you point a finger to.

Anyways, it's not like they're saying go seek the services of hookers regularly. They're just saying that, if you want to get this "Virginity Thing" over with, no ones gonna hate you for having some fun with girls in the sex industry. Everyone's a little bad in their own way, girls too.

Seriously, pressuring a girl into sex with gifts and trips isn't any better.

reading your other posts, haven't you and your girlfriend only been dating for less than 6 months? and already mexico? if my brother ever pulled this kind shit i'd be bitch slapping him. CHILL OUT!

Hey bradford, it's not that you lost some of our respect, some of us just are just noting your rookie mistakes but can't find the words to tell you straight-up.

If I were you, I'd cool it with the gifts and trips and shit. You'll have to outdo yourself next year and the year after that, and the cost of these things will rise exponentially but your pay probably won't.

When you play with fire you get burnt but when you're on fire you're hawt.
Just a little something something for you to ponder before you read on.

Even though the weather is teh fail, I feel like I'm walking on sunshine baby!!

If 2009 has been this epic thus far, why should I be worried about 2012?

In a short time I have shared a part of my life with many of you through this online forum depicting my struggles, insecurities, problems and goals. Initially, the doom and gloom of my situation almost convinced me I may have been one of those hopeless cases afflicted by one in a million. Despite my lackadaisical position, I knew if I didn't address my issues there would always be that feeling of angst. A quote that really hit close to home was what Wayne Gretzky profoundly stated, “You miss 100% of the shots you don't take". Stepping out of one's comfort zone is one thing but regretting decisions is the cruelest feeling in the world. Some say even more than pain.
I may have been a loser, maybe I'm still a loser but by God, if there's one thing I wouldn't let happen, it's time passing me by. This is LIFE we're talking about people, you can't practice living it, you gotta go out there and experience it for all the highs and lows it throws at you.

:eek: <-- This emoticon clearly symbolizes my state of mind literally as I type the next letter. I was so anti-socially awkward, that I would have given a clam a run for its money. Guys and even girls, if I can accomplish something from nothing, anyone can do the same. I don't want this to be another one of those feel good stories you hear about every so often. I want this to motivate others to reach for the sky. RIP Biggie but your song said it best proving sky's the limit.

As much as I'd love to spill the beans and go into every little minute detail on my gfd I's special night, I'll refrain out of respect for her girl.
But I will tell you this.. SEX = FTW!! :thumbsup:
Sex>WoW/Bubble Tea/Beer/Weed/RS(?)
I'll admit it, I sucked but when else can you trivialize such shortcomings and still feel incredibly satisfied with the results?
I was no Peter North in bed but when it was all said and done, I finished the job. PLEASE BE SAFE AND WRAP IT UP!!!

As a token of my appreciation I share with you this picture (sorry fellas, gfd would kick my a$$ so no nudes of her )

http://i176.photobucket.com/albums/w...DSC_0360-1.jpg

If I don't get a chance let me wish every last one of you a Happy Chinese New Year in advance.
A biG bIG BIG ups to everyone who paved the way for my success.
Wish you all the best and keep on rockin in the free world.
Ya'll have been absolutely amazing so I'll leave it at that before I tear up.

Sincerely yours,

BRADFORD CHOW.

P.S I'm still planning to take the gfd to Mexico.

I'm even moreso convinced this was fake. You took RS Relationships & Gender forum for one hell of a ride.

Congrats :thumbsup: